Really need to be around positive ppl!

Candace52309

I'm going to go on a short rant right now, so I apologize. People are so ignorant!

When I was pregnant with DD#2 the comments started about me having 2 kids so close together. (they are 12 months 4 days apart). And the comments just keep going and for the last 2 weeks, Ive been getting them worse (we were on vacation, then my coworkers and even random ppl at the supermarket). And im not talking about the common, "you know what causes that right?" or "you know they have birth control now."

Just a few examples of the crap I've been dealing with:

"It makes me sick that young ppl like you have all these babies and cant afford them." Ok, this simple annoys me because while I may be young, I have had a very successful career and make enough money to where we do as we please and my children don't do without. I mean, we even went out of state on vacation at the end of my maternity leave.

"I cant believe you had another baby. That's just selfish when there are women out there who cant have children."  Oh if she only knew I was told I was in that group. Drs couldn't believe I was pregnant and I had to go to the dr once and often twice a week because I was on such high risk.

"I sure wish people would be with their spouse longer before having kids, instead of getting pregnant, then married." Oh I love this one. First of all my husband and I have been together for over 10 years, not to mention best friends for 2 yrs before that. AND we were married for 3 yrs before we had DD #1

"You already have two kids, I think its time to have him get snipped or your tubes tide." What business is it to them?!?!

Oh, these are just a few. I just had to get a little on my chest. Its none of their business how many kids we have or how far apart they are. We are truly blessed to have the two beautiful girls we have. And we do plan on having more if God will allow it. If its by our choice, we would like to have a couple years before our next one, but we will take them as God sees fit.

Thanks for letting me rant.

JulyMomma2U2

I hear ya. We are 3 days shy of 12 months apart.. It is a HUGE pet peeve of mine when people insert their opinion when it is NOT needed.. Should be really interesting if we have 3U3!

Candace52309

Oh I'd love to have 3u3. Id rather get the whole diaper stage over at once.

Arielle27

You just can't let it get to you. People are morons! My dad's favorite joke about us is 'They don't have a TV'. Haha. He's been saying that since I got pregnant with number two and now we are expecting 3u3 in a few weeks!

Scarlett&Gatsby

Good Lord, what's the matter with people?

Do you live on one of the coasts? This isn't meant to sound stereotypical or critical of those parts of the country, but I've read (from comedian Jim Gaffigan in NYC and mommy blogger Rebecca Wolfe in LA) that sometimes people can be very rude to parents on the coasts (or maybe just in urban, crowded areas?).

We've always lived in the Midwest or South, and I've never gotten a negative comment about my girls being close in age. I get the usual, "You have your hands full!" and stuff like that, but nothing along the lines of the rude, classless behavior you've unfortunately had to deal with. Most people are happy to see children/babies around here.

It's nobody's damn business how many children you have, how close they are in age, or when you decided to have them.

meganschneider

People are turds lol. My two are one year and 20 days apart and would love a third. You keep up the good work mama!

Candace52309

Haha, yeah I live on the coast. We are about 4 hrs from the beach. We live in a very rural area.

It is an interesting concept. I think the "you must have your hands full" or "you must be busy' is the top line I hear.

shj5u

If I had a nickel for every time I heard  "you must have your hands full"...