Just when I start losing hope

Libby1978

That my sweet boy is still inside my asshole teenager somewhere he does something sweet.  DH and I were just texting about Camden acting like an ass at football practice yesterday.  DH coaches the varsity offensive line, Camden is on the Freshman team and because he's a "coaches kid" he thinks he can do whatever he wants.  He has been giving the Freshman coaches hell, one of them is DH's best friend.  I was just texting telling DH how I hate even talking to him most of the time because he is rude and mean, blah, blah, blah.

Then, Camden calls from school to make sure I put lunch money in his account and he said "I love you" when he was getting off the phone with me.  That might not seem like a big deal, but it was from the phone in the office which means other people were around.  So I'm pretty happy that he will still admit to loving me in front of people.  I love him too, even though he's a giant asshole!

Libby1978

@Manneek1977 will appreciate this post.

MrsSparklesMcGee

That is so sweet.  Good luck with everything else - hopefully the other football coaches show him his place (I mean that in a good, character-building way).

Libby1978

MrsSparklesMcGee said:

That is so sweet.  Good luck with everything else - hopefully the other football coaches show him his place (I mean that in a good, character-building way).

Thanks @MrsSparklesMcGee!  His coach is going to run the shit out of him today........again.

LuckyDad

"Camden is on the Freshman team and because he's a "coaches kid" he thinks he can do whatever he wants.  He has been giving the Freshman coaches hell, one of them is DH's best friend."

Well this is just poor strategy on his part. Your husband is going to hear about every little thing Camden does.

Make the kid run some laps? It sounds like he could stand to burn off some energy. Does Camden actually *like* football? Or is it something he does because your husband is into it and he might be upset if Camden dropped it? Especially if he doesn't have the genetic gifts to stand a chance of playing college ball, there may be a point when dropping it and focusing on other things is ideal. But maybe he's just a teen boy who likes to goof around :P

Glad he admits he loves you though.

Libby1978

@LuckyDad Both DH and I have made it clear that he does not have to play football.  He definitely wants to play, but I'd actually be ok if he didn't.  He is not as athletic as DH and I'm pretty sure he realizes that, but he loves playing and being part of the team.  DD got the athletic genes.  Poor Camden.

Anyway, he just likes goofing off.   

shadypines

Awe how sweet @Libby1978.

Just when we are SO close to throwing our hands up, they pull something so sweet & reminiscing of the old days..... Gotta love them.....

Libby1978

Manneek1977 said:

Awe how sweet @Libby1978.

Just when we are SO close to throwing our hands up, they pull something so sweet & reminiscing of the old days..... Gotta love them.....

Hopefully we all make it out of the teen years alive.......

shadypines

Libby1978 said:

Manneek1977 said:

Awe how sweet @Libby1978.

Just when we are SO close to throwing our hands up, they pull something so sweet & reminiscing of the old days..... Gotta love them.....

Hopefully we all make it out of the teen years alive.......

We will @Libby1977 as long as we have

 

Libby1978

Manneek1977 said:

Libby1978 said:

Manneek1977 said:

Awe how sweet @Libby1978.

Just when we are SO close to throwing our hands up, they pull something so sweet & reminiscing of the old days..... Gotta love them.....

Hopefully we all make it out of the teen years alive.......

We will @Libby1977 as long as we have

 

I don't think I drink often enough.  I need to change that.

missyishere

My brother was a complete asshole as a teenager, too.  I remember every once in a while he would do something like that, and my mom would be so ecstatic.  I'm glad Camden isn't afraid to say he loves him mommy

Libby1978

missyishere said:

My brother was a complete asshole as a teenager, too.  I remember every once in a while he would do something like that, and my mom would be so ecstatic.  I'm glad Camden isn't afraid to say he loves him mommy

@missyishere Isn't it sad that I get so happy over that?  He used be the sweetest little boy.  So, that mean one day my sweet Oliver will do the same thing to me.  I don't know if I can go through this shit again. 
(

shadypines

I remember my mom saying,"payback's a bitch when you have your own."

she aint neva lied!!!  

( ( :-<

LuckyDad

Libby1978 said:

missyishere said:

My brother was a complete asshole as a teenager, too.  I remember every once in a while he would do something like that, and my mom would be so ecstatic.  I'm glad Camden isn't afraid to say he loves him mommy

@missyishere Isn't it sad that I get so happy over that?  He used be the sweetest little boy.  So, that mean one day my sweet Oliver will do the same thing to me.  I don't know if I can go through this shit again. 
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Boys in particular have to assert themselves outside of their family as a part of becoming grown men who can take care of themselves. There will always be a period where their friends and girls are way, way more important to them than family.

The hope is that if you raise them right, they will come back to you as mature adult men, ready to take their role within the family structure.

Libby1978

LuckyDad said:

Libby1978 said:

missyishere said:

My brother was a complete asshole as a teenager, too.  I remember every once in a while he would do something like that, and my mom would be so ecstatic.  I'm glad Camden isn't afraid to say he loves him mommy

@missyishere Isn't it sad that I get so happy over that?  He used be the sweetest little boy.  So, that mean one day my sweet Oliver will do the same thing to me.  I don't know if I can go through this shit again. 
(

Boys in particular have to assert themselves outside of their family as a part of becoming grown men who can take care of themselves. There will always be a period where their friends and girls are way, way more important to them than family.

The hope is that if you raise them right, they will come back to you as mature adult men, ready to take their role within the family structure.

Good god, I hope so!!!  I know there will be a day that I can say it was all worth it.  Well, I hope there is.

Libby1978

AshPal61 said:

I'm really scared to have teenagers.

You should be! @AshPal1 :P

Libby1978

Moidonna said:

I love it when they redeem themselves!

Me too!  I just wish it was more often! haha @Moidonna

ASmallWonder

Let's recap.  Three year olds are assholes.  Teenagers are assholes.  There's either a delightful stage in the middle that no one has spoken of or, the possibility that scares me more is that they're worse than three year old and teenagers and those parents aren't physically or mentally able to comment at this time. 

Libby1978

elmoali said:

Let's recap.  Three year olds are assholes.  Teenagers are assholes.  There's either a delightful stage in the middle that no one has spoken of or, the possibility that scares me more is that they're worse than three year old and teenagers and those parents aren't physically or mentally able to comment at this time. 

There is definitely a stage between that is better.  But let's point out the fact that I deserve all the sorries since I am dealing with the 2 most asshole ages at the same time!!!! 

missyishere

Preteens are the WORST: FACT!

Libby1978

missyishere said:

Preteens are the WORST: FACT!

Just wait.  You'll singing a different tune in a few years.  When you have a teenager and an effing 3 year old. 

missyishere

My preteen isn't bad; it's those around her. She's actually pretty sweet.

ReeseFox

@missyishere my preteen is not terrible, but her attitude is starting to get out of control. I can't count the number of times I've wanted to knock her into a wall recently. Her mouth is constantly getting her in trouble.

Libby1978

ReeseFox said:

@missyishere my preteen is not terrible, but her attitude is starting to get out of control. I can't count the number of times I've wanted to knock her into a wall recently. Her mouth is constantly getting her in trouble.

@ReeseFox DH tells DD that her mouth is her worst enemy all.the.time.  And it's 100% true.  She feels this overwhelming need to have the last word.

ReeseFox

Libby1978 said:

ReeseFox said:

@missyishere my preteen is not terrible, but her attitude is starting to get out of control. I can't count the number of times I've wanted to knock her into a wall recently. Her mouth is constantly getting her in trouble.

@ReeseFox DH tells DD that her mouth is her worst enemy all.the.time.  And it's 100% true.  She feels this overwhelming need to have the last word.

Yes! This exactly! I was saying in a post yesterday, you can see in her face that she knows she should stop but she just keeps. on. going. Like she has no control over it. It's infuriating.

Libby1978

I feel your pain @ReeseFox.  This is exactly what DD does.  When she actually keeps her mouth shut you can see the pain on her face.  It's crazy!!

ReeseFox

@andrea99 DD has always been like this to an extent. It's actually worse now.

Libby1978

andrea99 said:

Libby1978 said:

ReeseFox said:

@missyishere my preteen is not terrible, but her attitude is starting to get out of control. I can't count the number of times I've wanted to knock her into a wall recently. Her mouth is constantly getting her in trouble.

@ReeseFox DH tells DD that her mouth is her worst enemy all.the.time.  And it's 100% true.  She feels this overwhelming need to have the last word.

Oh hell.  SD does this at 7.  Please tell me she's just getting it out of her system now.  And as a preteen she'll be a complete joy.

@andrea99This is what we used to think about DD.  Not so much......sorries.

Libby1978

andrea99 said:

In that case...  I'll be making a stop at the liquor store on my way home.

Good idea!  Just do that for the next 12-13 years or so.

Libby1978

speer06 said:

Libby1978 said:

LuckyDad said:

Libby1978 said:

missyishere said:

My brother was a complete asshole as a teenager, too.  I remember every once in a while he would do something like that, and my mom would be so ecstatic.  I'm glad Camden isn't afraid to say he loves him mommy

@missyishere Isn't it sad that I get so happy over that?  He used be the sweetest little boy.  So, that mean one day my sweet Oliver will do the same thing to me.  I don't know if I can go through this shit again. 
(

Boys in particular have to assert themselves outside of their family as a part of becoming grown men who can take care of themselves. There will always be a period where their friends and girls are way, way more important to them than family.

The hope is that if you raise them right, they will come back to you as mature adult men, ready to take their role within the family structure.

Good god, I hope so!!!  I know there will be a day that I can say it was all worth it.  Well, I hope there is.

My brother turned the corner when he left for college. You're almost there.

@speer06 So close, yet so far away.........*sigh*