Reassurance needed!

aliwisewoman

My twins boys were born at 30 weeks. They will be two weeks in the NICU on Wed. Dominic has not had any big poops yet and when they feed him they are getting a green residual. Basically things are not moving! Vincent has been doing better but he is suddenly spitting up. I'm feeling discouraged and scared. I'm beginning to think that I'll develop PPD because of the hormones, lack of sleep and stress. I also have a 4 and 2 year old. I don't want to be morbid but a part of me is terrified that I'll lose one of my babies. Is that normal? Has anyone felt that way with a baby in the NICU? I am trying to get extra sleep, I'm up right now to pump but I'm hoping to feel better in the morning. I'd say this is out of character for me, but I've never been in this type of situation.

ashleymarie512

Have they given him a suppository? My DD seems to have pooping issues every few days and ends up working them out, usually with the help of a suppository.

The anxiety is normal, but if it's moving beyond normal mother anxiety, I'd talk to a doctor. I had major anxiety during my pregnancy and ended up seeing a therapist that helped a ton! Hang in there, the babies are exactly where they need to be to be! Thinking of you!!

aliwisewoman

They have done lots of suppositories, to little or no effect. They did a barium enema with X-rays which helped some; he has had quite a few small poops but when they try to feed him it has that green color and quite a bit just sits in his tummy.

I'm nervous about talking to a doc about PPD because I don't want to be put on medication. I am pumping for my boys and its about the only thing I can do, successfully, right now to help them. If Dominic would just poop so he can start eating, I think I'd feel so much better!

ashleymarie512

I didn't take meds for my anxiety while I was pregnant, but talking to a therapist was extremely helpful for me. She helped me talk through my anxious thoughts and learned how to notice the trigger thoughts and do it myself. She's on maternity leave herself (yup, went for anxiety over infertility and saw a pregnant therapist lol) otherwise I'd probably be seeing her again now! I'd really encourage you to try it, there are several that focus on women's issues that would be good for situations like these.

jbranden12

The other ladies have given good advice, just want to send good wishes and calming thoughts! Remember it's all temporary. 

DrRx

I know that I had anxiety after we brought her home, with irrational fears that she would stop breathing while I was driving and I wouldn't know since we were told that she didn't need her apnea monitor during the day.  I did go on meds for about 4 months, but it was after I had already stopped pumping. 

I can't imagine how stressful it must be to not only have 1 but babies in the NICU and have 2 other small children at home.  ((((((hugs)))))) 

aliwisewoman

I just wanted to say thank you, to all of you who responded. I've been going to bed with my big kids around 8pm and I'm feeling better. Much less emotionally-unstable. I'm still very worried but in a normal way. Looks like Dominic is going to need surgery. I'm terrified but I'm holding that wave of emotion back until I can have a consult with the surgeon that will be doing the surgery. I can ask all my questions and hopefully be able to minimize some of my fears.

Thanks again. It's hard right now and I really needed some extra support!

LaciJaxx

Oh my gosh yes, it's normal. My baby was in the NICU for 37 days and I didn't start to relax until he'd been home for a few weeks and was doing fine. Keep trying to get as much rest as you can and keep asking the nurses/doctors questions.