Push Present

pennstated912

aessary03 said:

I'm not expecting or demanding one, but if he did it of his own free will .... who am I to turn down a present?!

Lol! This.

fyrefairie

I had never heard of them before DD#1 and they are somewhat ridic if expected.  I think if the father just feels compelled to do something its sweet.  But seriously, it seems like Retail America concocted this nonsense

nbbride06

I think they're ridiculous.  However, with DD, I did request a cleaning lady once a month which I had never had before...best "push present" ever.  You know what I asked for for a "push present" this time?  For the cleaning lady to come every 2 weeks.  Worth way more than any diamonds!

Piach

I hadn't heard the term until the bump and didn't expect anything. I was shocked when DH gave me a very nice watch on the day we arrived home with DD. He even used the term push present, which I thought was funny. I don't expect anything, so any present will be a nice surprise.

happyturtle03

It's a silly idea, but it can be done right. We didn't call them that 10 yrs ago when my daughter was born, but my hubby did want to get me a little something to make labor a little easier, so he bought a CD (I know, this was back in the day, lol!) that had soothing music I liked and he played it for me when the labor got hard and I was having trouble focusing on my breathing and stuff because of the pain. It was a nice sweet gesture, but it meant the most because I never expected it and it was truly something from the heart that he'd put some thought into. Had it been something completely frivolous and expensive I probably would have demanded he take it back and told him he was an idiot, lol, but something inexpensive and thoughtful to make labor a little easier to tolerate would be nice. Otherwise maybe just some flowers or a good take-out meal for after baby is born. Again though, asking or demanding would just be tacky and spoiled. I'd enjoy it if it were spontaneous though, his idea, not anyone else's suggestion.

Sam&Dan05

Just bring me some wine!

ashleywiz

MrsGraham06 said:

I just asked DH what he was getting me for my push present, and he said "your what?" I explained, and he said, "Um, a baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes?"

Thanks, dear, and that's why I married you
:x

Haha! This was MH response, too. Though he read about it in his book as "optional" and I laughed saying that valentines day is very close to the due date so I'm good with some new earrings then I truly do not expect a present for giving birth- other than his support and love...end of story. It's sweet if the hubs thinks to get something on their own but that's it.

kiki1978

I totally agree with you @aessary03! I think push presents are another way to get gifts. Shouldn't your push present be the baby???

juliasmama2010

I'd never even heard of this until someone posted about it a few weeks ago and I'm a STM. I do like gifts and DH is incredibly thoughtful with this kind of stuff, but I absolutely do not expect a gift and think this type of gift is kind of silly. I'm incredibly frugal so I'd much rather prefer the money spent go to diapers or clothes.

sugarland726

I have no problem with a husband buying his wife a present to celebrate the birth of their child. But it sounds tacky and gauche to coin it as a push present. Arguing semantics? Most definitely. I told DH that I wanted a necklace with DD's DOB and her birth stone after she was born. I have worn it every day for 3 years. I have already picked out the infinity bracelet I will be getting after this LO to have both of their stats on it. It's barely $50, so it doesn't bother me at all.

mommabird77

I think they are nice, but not necessary.  I did not receive a push present after my son was born, and I do not expect to get one this time.

Galaxy8227

I like presents so I would never turn one down   DH and I had talked about getting something with DS's birthstone for me but we decided to wait until we were done having children and do something for both of them.  I really like the necklaces that have the children's name on them (Etsy has a ton) so I might order one of those.