Push Present

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push present

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1. A push present (also known as a "push gift" or "baby bauble") is a present a new father gives a new mother when she gives birth to their child. In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room.

What are your thoughts on push presents? Have you ever received one for previous children? Do you expect one from your S/O? Do you think they're dumb?? 

Arrgcr

I like presents.

aessary03

I'm not expecting or demanding one, but if he did it of his own free will .... who am I to turn down a present?!

Deblondie1

I told J I want new minimalist shoes as a push present lol And maybe new running shoes. Kills two birds with one stone.

goldenB

My present will be a healthy baby in my arms.

KimberlyTX

DD was born on Valentine's Day, so I didn't get a "push present," but DH did get me a necklace for VDay that was engraved with DD's initials. Push presents are regional, I think.

jmjj1310

I've never heard of this, seems like a fun idea! But, no, I really don't expect anything from DH after delivery. 

blue_elle

Arrgcr said:

I like presents.

Haha

I don't expect a present for birthing our child, and I would fall over of shock if DH gave me something. I'd probably just get annoyed at him for spending the money, lol. And I don't consider this a gift to him. I'm pushing our child out of my vagina because that's the exit and I don't have a choice, not because I'm doing DH a solid. It's not like birthing a male heir to the throne in the Victorian era (side question - do you think Kate got a big fat sapphire or something when she gave birth?)

quidditchcapn1120

The idea of a push present bothers me for some reason, even if solely due to semantics.  My push present will be a healthy baby.

If someone wants to get me something at the birth of this baby they can get me a 6 pack of Angry Orchard and some delicious sushi.

However, DH got me a ring with DS' birthstone for Mother's Day following his birth and will probably do something similar this time.

Rebis58

aessary03 said:

I'm not expecting or demanding one, but if he did it of his own free will .... who am I to turn down a present?!

Agreed - I don't expect one, won't ask for one, and won't be disappointed or upset in any way if I don't get one, but thoughtful gifts are always appreciated and I would be pleasantly surprised if he did decide to get me a little something. 

I don't know many people who have gotten "push presents" (I think one of my friends got a second band along with her engagement ring/wedding band set when her son was born but that's the only one that comes to mind) so I don't think it's common in my area. I also hate the term "push present" - it bothers me for some reason, not sure why.

jldubb0626

I'm being told that once this LO is here I'm going to get a mother's ring, but I certainly don't expect it as a push present. I didn't expect anything with DS and I didn't get anything either. Mother's Day isn't too far off from DS's birthday and the birth of this kid, so he makes that day special.

flufy82

I'm all good with people who want/get them, and I think the gesture is really sweet, but I'd kill my husband if he spent any kind of money on it (jewelry, etc). Baby is all I want/need...and we need that money for diapers!

COgirl29

goldenB said:

My present will be a healthy baby in my arms.

This.

COgirl29

goldenB said:

My present will be a healthy baby in my arms.

This.

wedbliss5

I personally think a designated "push present" is dumb.

LimeDrops

H surprised me with birthstone earrings shortly after I had DD which was unexpected and very sweet. He didn't buy me anything around DS's birth and it didn't bother me one bit.

apickett925

I'm not expecting or asking for anything, but I'm due 2 weeks before our 1st wedding anniversary and Valentines day, so I definitely see him combining everything, lol.

lmills730

I told DH I would like a bottle of Riesling or bubbly for a push present lol.

indiana101

Didn't get one last time, not expecting one this time. I think it is a bit of a weird idea but well intentioned.

LindsB314

I feel like it is common around here. I did not ask for one but dh did get me one for dd. It was her birthstone designed in a pretty necklace. I loved it! This time though I almost prefer he didn't spend that kind of money and I could just get some new clothes after. I dont expect a present again so I wouldn't tell him that.

sarahlisa00

I don't think the idea is dumb at all!  Certainly the most important thing that day is bringing a healthy baby in the world, however, my husband giving me a gift to celebrate or thank me will certainly be appreciated and accepted on my end!  Clearly we are doing more work then they are that day and for the 9 months leading up to it.  I think a gift is well deserved to acknowledge that! Will I be upset or probably even realize that day if I don't get anything... of course not!

baby2ra

I think they are a little silly.  The gesture is nice I guess.  DH did not give me anything when I had DD and I do not expect anything this time around.  I'd rather have him help change diapers and get up in the middle of the night than spend money on something silly.

MissSusieQ

I didn't receive one with DS and I don't expect one this time. Especially with Christmas just being over and my birthday is the beginning of December. I get we did a lot of work carrying these babies and pushing them out but a push present just is something extra that people have come to expect. 

Dishylo

I think the idea behind it ok but I'm not a fan really. If DH wanted to get something for me, I'd be ok with it but I'd be a bit upset if he spent a lot of money on it. I'd rather something inexpensive that means something instead of expensive jewellery.

km_md

The term "push present" is just icky. I don't like it lol I don't need a gift, I will be getting the greatest gift of all when I give birth to our baby. However if a husband chooses to get his wife something, I think that is really sweet. 

Strunella

DH surprised me with a beautiful pendant with DS's birthstone and wrote me a card that made me cry. I love having this necklace because every time I wear it, I think about receiving it on the happiest day of my life.

aessary03

Whenever I hear the term "push present," an image of Kim Kardashian immediately pops in my head.  It just seems like something bratty she would demand.  Anyone else?  No?  Just me?

HappyDoc

I just asked DH if I was getting a push present, he obviously had no idea what I was talking about. When I explained it to him, he said, "Isn't a baby enough of a present?" I proceeded to tell him that I would like a pair of 2 carat diamond stud earrings, he rolled his eyes.

brideandbreve

I don't necessarily disagree with push presents.. I mean, DH bought me a "mommy necklace" a couple months after DS was born, and I got an "A" charm for my Pandora bracelet after he was born.. but I disagree with the expectation of getting a push present.

moosebaby2011

aessary03 said:

I'm not expecting or demanding one, but if he did it of his own free will .... who am I to turn down a present?!

This. I certainly didn't ask for a gift when DS was born. DH heard about push presents on the radio or something and brought it up when I was pregnant, but I told him it really wasn't necessary or expected. He asked my sister, who said that he should get me something and helped him pick out earrings in my DS's birthstone. It was really sweet, and they are lovely.

ETA: I do think the term "push present" is pretty gross, though.

Shannahbee

I don't really like the term, it makes women seem like divas demanding a gift. But the sentiment would be nice, if my hubby came up with it on his own. Something like the baby's initial on a chain or something, or maybe his/her birthstone.

megngregk

I think the idea is kind of messed up. I think it's sweet for the SO to do something special for the mother, but it should never be expected and it certainly doesn't need to be extravagant. 

BABYROSEJEANS17

All of my friends get push presents, but I'm the type of person that likes to get gifts because you have to (we don't celebrate Valentine's Day).  If SO wants to give me a gift that's great, but I won't insist nor expect one.  As far as I'm concerned, my gift is our healthy first born.

ach298

My DH gave me a lavaliere necklace with his fraternity letters and a small sapphire right before our son was born. It was not expected, but was a really sweet surprise.

I'm with aessary on this one. Presents should never be expected, but if your SO got you one, would you REALLY be upset over it (assuming money wasn't spent that you don't have, etc...)?

quidditchcapn1120

ach298 said:

My DH gave me a lavaliere necklace with his fraternity letters and a small sapphire right before our son was born. It was not expected, but was a really sweet surprise. I'm with aessary on this one. Presents should never be expected, but if your SO got you one, would you REALLY be upset over it (assuming money wasn't spent that you don't have, etc...)?

For me, it is not the gift that is the problem.  It is the possibility that this will become an expected thing.  Or that it is a trend to begin with.  It's another thing for mommy wars to start over and that shizz makes me ragey.

The gift itself is a nice gesture if your SO decided to do it just out of the goodness of their heart.  That doesn't seem the direction the trend is going though.  I have an acquaintance that posted a picture of her push present on FB the day after her LO came home from the hospital and labeled it as such- a new Mercedes SUV.

bookkitten

I think it is a sweet idea, but I didn't expect one and was not disappointed when MH didn't get me one when my son was born.

jgraham80

The only reason I'd heard of it was because Rachel mentioned it to Ross on Friends.

I'm not expecting anything, but if he wants to get me something, I wouldn't deny him the opportunity 

rowanthefrog

Who doesn't like a present? That said, I haven't gotten or expected a push present for my past children nor am I expecting one this time around.

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SvedkaStoli

I don't expect one; having a healthy baby would be enough. That said traditionally in our culture if the first born is a boy, a man gives his wife a piece of jewelry that has diamonds.

MrsGraham06

I just asked DH what he was getting me for my push present, and he said "your what?" I explained, and he said, "Um, a baby with 10 fingers and 10 toes?"

Thanks, dear, and that's why I married you
:x

Kismc

I didn't get a present for my first DD and never expected one either. So I don't think I will be getting one this time. Secretly I'd love to buy myself a ring or necklace with our four birthstones as this will be our last baby...
The best gift will be a healthy baby girl!!!