A/S - Found abnormality in scan

FormerlyKrista555

I'm sorry for what you're dealing with, and equally happy to know it's nothing more serious. 

Kids CAN be cruel, but it's not always the case, and the vast majority of her peers will be fine with it. Especially if you raise her with a very healthy view of herself and with knowledge in how to answer people when they ask questions, I bet she'll do great. If it wasn't for her arm, it would be some other random thing a kid decided to pick on: hair color, clothes, whatever. Little punk bully kids don't need much. 

You're going to do great and so is she, because she's loved unconditionally. She's a blessed girl. 

alinafed

I just wanted to say my T&P are with you. I'm sure you must be feeling so overwhelmed and that probably will continue for a while, but know your little girl is very lucky to have someone so caring who loves her so much as a mom and I think life these days with these types of things is easier than it was in the past - I know I would never let something like this stop me from befriending or dating someone and I'm sure most people worth being around are the same. I'm sure your daughter will be an amazing person regardless and I truly hope there is nothing else that the follow up will find. Best to you

miam4

Hi I see what your concerns are, but think positive: it is an arm!
How many people you see around with mental issues!? How many people you see in wheelchair? Don't judge yourself!
It is not what you did or didn't do! It happened!
Plus you can always show her "Nemo" and let her know that she is special!
Treat her normal! Have you ever seen this https://youtu.be/IIuz6fUtfRE

I know it might be frustrating! I lost my first son because of a bad syndrome and I had no chance to fight for him. I had no chance to hold him and say how much he was special... Your baby girls will have issues, she will go to school, people will look, but come on! Don't people do that to people that have everything in place also?
I was bulled at school because of my nose, my husband also, kids get bulled because they are fat, short, tall,... but teach her to be strong and to accept the differences!
You need to accept it in order to be able to help her to accept!!
I will pray for your family, so then God can guide you all to guide her... But I think you will do fine! I think you just need time to understand that it was not something you did and accept.
God bless u!
Ps- we are here for you!!!

Dishylo

I'm sorry you got bad news but I echo everything PP's have said: it sounds like she's already loved and you will be an exceptional parent.

I read an article the other day which talked about how many other words there are to call a little girl other than just "princess" so that they grow up to be strong, independent and confident women. If I find it, I'll post it for you.

Your little girl will be just fine if you raise her to know she is beautiful, smart and strong. She will probably be made fun of at school, most kids are. I was made fun of because I was from a different country and had a different accent. Kids get made fun of for all sorts or rubbish but reach her to be strong and she'll get through it.

Cara1024

Many many hugs to you. I'm so sorry you received such difficult news. You seem to have an amazing attitude about it though I imagine you are just doing the best you can right now. Praying that everything else with your little girl is simply perfect.

Armyratt

Sending thoughts and prayers.

moosebaby2011

T&P for your family

mommabird77

First off, congratulations on another girl!  That is exciting!  Sending you big, big hugs.  Just a little personal story, I had a great friend in high school and through college who had a similar congenital deformity with his left arm and hand.  His left fore arm was much smaller, and his hand did not fully form.  I will tell you that he was very well liked.  He had a ton of friends, people who truly respected him a lot.  He did have some challenges growing up, but he is very successful and now married to a wonderful woman.  Thinking lots of positive thoughts for you and baby girl!

Firefly9

Hugs, I know this has to be scary and stressful for you.

I have a friend with an arm that has a malformation.  He has never let it stop him.  He's incredibly driven and successful and has never, ever let it slow him down.  He looks at it as something to drive him and motivate him, not as a hindrance or handicap.  He owns a successful company and is very physically active--he lifts weights, jousts, sword fights (just to give you examples of the things he does!), and if you see him in action, you would never know his arm isn't like other people's.

LuGal623

Congrats on seeing your little girl again! I'm glad that nothing more serious is involved and I admire and am proud of your attitude/outlook on her being perfect!  I hope your scan(s) go well and you enjoy seeing her again! T&Ps for the future and your family

sparrowmomma24

My T&Ps are going out to you, hun.  I know that there are so many things weighing on you right now with this news but I could not be happier that your LO is safe and healthy. I wouldn't worry about how others will treat her.  Unfortunately kids are horribly cruel; they always have been.  I was teased in school for having blonde hair and super pale skin.  Silly, I know!  But you know what?  I think that she will amaze you. She is going to grow up to be the strongest person you know and she will astound and inspire you each and every day.  I know this because (even though I don't know you), I know how much we all love our LO's.  You are going to be a kick ass mom and she is going to have all the best parts of both you and your DH. I say CONGRATS and bet wishes, my dear.  

P.S.... I hope that came off as rock awesome and positive as I was hoping lol

shellyannsings

Sending love and happy thoughts!

tahloulah10

Good thoughts being sent to you and your family. It sounds like you have wonderful perspective on the situation, as difficult as it is. I wish all the best in life for your little girl!

angiek1

sparrowmomma24 said:

My T&Ps are going out to you, hun.  I know that there are so many things weighing on you right now with this news but I could not be happier that your LO is safe and healthy. I wouldn't worry about how others will treat her.  Unfortunately kids are horribly cruel; they always have been.  I was teased in school for having blonde hair and super pale skin.  Silly, I know!  But you know what?  I think that she will amaze you. She is going to grow up to be the strongest person you know and she will astound and inspire you each and every day.  I know this because (even though I don't know you), I know how much we all love our LO's.  You are going to be a kick ass mom and she is going to have all the best parts of both you and your DH. I say CONGRATS and bet wishes, my dear.  

P.S.... I hope that came off as rock awesome and positive as I was hoping lol

It did thank you!! 

angiek1

fergy2186 said:

Congrats on your little girl!

Many, many thoughts and prayers. I know the devastation of seeing an abnormality on a scan, and the anxiousness of waiting for official results (we are waiting for a blood test to rule out T18 right now). If you need any extra support at all, feel free to PM me.

Thanks so much! I hope everything turns out okay with your scan.  It was gut wrenching to hear "we found something", but now I'm in super mom mode (aka getting educated).  If I need anything I'll be sure to reach out!

Ladams30

You have done nothing wrong!!  It's been decided that you are strong enough to face having a child that will have special circumstances all throughout her life.  She is still going to be a beautiful girl and most importantly, your daughter.  Yes, kids are mean.  But after awhile they'll stop noticing the lack of arm and start noticing your daughter as a person. 

You are going to do fine, I can feel it.  My T&P's are with you.