I am so angry

rachaelT28

So this morning I am texting my husband (who lives separately from me) and I asked him how he got rid of the angry person he had become, he said he realized he only got that way when I pushed him and backed him into corners. I wanted to scream! Why does he ever not take responsibility for himself? I did not push him to cheat, throw me and our sons out, never go to baby appointments, leave me while I am pregnant. I did not push him to do any of that stuff he did it on his own! I am so mad right now I want to cry. If I text anything back to him indicating I am angry he won't come see our 11 year old today and my son has been looking forward to it all day. I think today everyone is just better off if I hide out in my room and do school work while he is here instead of seeing him. I am contracting anyway and having a bad day physically. 

mamaHippo23

I know you are angry and hurting, and I'm really sorry your dealing with this tough situation.

 I have a question though: Are you and your husband trying to work things out or are you planning to divorce? If you guys are trying to get back together, then maybe you should discuss these issues in person, and possibly even a counselor. Bringing up serious topics through text message can lead to a lot of misunderstandings. However, if you're headed for divorce then there's really no need to keep engaging in conversations about personal or relationship issues. Keep your exchanges limited to polite chit-chat, and I agree with not being present during his visits.

Also, if your husband ever misses a visit with his son because he's angry with you, that is completely on him. He is responsible for maintaining his relationship with his child, and if he chooses to disappoint his son that is his fault, not yours.

rachaelT28

I think your right, we are not getting back together in fact I am filing for divorce on the 13th of September. We were working on being friends, but I don't think that will ever be a possibility. I don't think I could ever handle being his friend, when everything is my fault according to him. I am just done I think from now on. I cared so much about him for 12 years and I always put his needs above my own, but that was still never good enough. So I will put my children first from now on and go on.