FFFC!

Meynara

Heaven802002 said:

I still don't get it and probably never will so we'll have to agree to disagree.

Kay! Can do.

shoeflypie

adawn1981 said:

My FFFC is that I am fattening up my H on purpose.  I do not want to be the only chunky one in the house after the baby is born.  We can go on a diet together in January.  Poor H has been eating healthy until he gets home and I force cookies and other crap on him.  He has a say and he still eats the cookies so I do not feel all that bad.

Same here but for different reasons... I don't want to weigh more than him!!! Honestly, weight is not that big of a deal to me, I'm just doing it to make sure I don't go overboard. Plus, we have notches on our scale and I don't want to switch with him lol I'm a naturally dense person and he isn't, he can barely maintain his weight. I weigh around 140 whether I'm a size 4 or 8.

bishesbcrazy

 ktox61 said:

@Meynara I really appreciate that you shared your experiences and situation with us being on givernment assistance. I haven't weighed in on the topic yet so I want to back track a little first by saying that I believe the majority of people who are on assistance do not abuse it and only take what they need. But my problem is not with the people on assistance it is with the way the government handles it. By telling us your story, you gave everyone an insight into how handicapping it can be. It provides you with what you need now not for anything for your future or your children's future. Why did your aid run out when you were so close to completion of school? Why haven't you been offered specific job training? Where are your childcare benefits so you can complete school and become a higher earning member of society? I get so frustrated because the system doesn't set you up with a plan to move forward or come off of assistance. It just provides you with what you need in this moment without the opportunities that you would need to better your own life. I don't mind paying taxes but what I mind is that those tax dollars are being used to maintain people on assistance without providing them the chances to make changes for themselves. You are clearly not afraid of hard work and I don't believe anyone should be told they can't have a family. I just wish that the government had more foresight to put people like you through their last three classes and help you get a job where you have a dual income home and didn't need assistance anymore.

All of this.  6 years ago, my sister got a divorce from her abusive husband and she didn't work while married.  While she was getting on her feet, she was able to get TANF ($200/mo), SNAP and childcare assistance. 

As soon as she got a job, she lost her TANF and childcare assistance.  She couldn't afford daycare plus rent, utilities gas and other bills; so my niece couldn't go to daycare which then limited the hours my sister could worked. 

We helped where we could, we babysat my niece, I helped pay for her divorce, she stayed with us for about a year, I gave her my truck and I helped pay her bills for about a year when she lived on her own, but there was a point where I had to stop bc it was draining on me.

It was a constant struggle for her until my niece started kindergarten bc she could not get the assistance she needed to get a leg up.  Even when she was out of a job, she couldn't get TANF or childcare assistance (to adequately look for another one) bc they counted her $400/mo child support as income, so she didn't qualify. 

So basically if she didn't work or get 400/mo child support she could get TANF and childcare assistance ALL DAY LONG.

Ktrue85

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

While cleaning my baseboards just now, it took me probably a full 60 seconds to get up off the floor. Not flame worthy, but funny.

I am just impressed you were cleaning your baseboards.

Dirty baseboards tweak me out. Also dirty air ducts.

utlawgirl

Ktrue85 said:

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

While cleaning my baseboards just now, it took me probably a full 60 seconds to get up off the floor. Not flame worthy, but funny.

I am just impressed you were cleaning your baseboards.

Dirty baseboards tweak me out. Also dirty air ducts.

Wanna come do mine? My confession is that I haven't cleaned the baseboards (absent a spill) since we moved in a year and a half ago!

Mrbatesisinnocent

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

While cleaning my baseboards just now, it took me probably a full 60 seconds to get up off the floor. Not flame worthy, but funny.

I am just impressed you were cleaning your baseboards.

Dirty baseboards tweak me out. Also dirty air ducts.

Wanna come do mine? My confession is that I haven't cleaned the baseboards (absent a spill) since we moved in a year and a half ago!

You're supposed to clean the baseboards?...I wiped them down when I painted the walls about 2 years ago...does that count?

northport6

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

Currently, I'm sitting here in maternity jeans...And I unbuttoned and unzipped them.  and I am 1000000000000 times more comfortable.    Only thing that would be better...

WORKING FROM HOME IN MY FREAKING PAJAMAS RIGHT NOW!  But, since that isn't possible....I'll take what I can get...Just under 2 more hours.......

Confession: I work from home.  I'm not wearing any pants right now.  

...And that sounds creepy and now you probably think I'm coming onto you.

notkateanymore

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

While cleaning my baseboards just now, it took me probably a full 60 seconds to get up off the floor. Not flame worthy, but funny.

I am just impressed you were cleaning your baseboards.

Dirty baseboards tweak me out. Also dirty air ducts.

Wanna come do mine? My confession is that I haven't cleaned the baseboards (absent a spill) since we moved in a year and a half ago!

You have to clean them???

LOL

leahraewku

Ktrue85 said:

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

While cleaning my baseboards just now, it took me probably a full 60 seconds to get up off the floor. Not flame worthy, but funny.

I am just impressed you were cleaning your baseboards.

Dirty baseboards tweak me out. Also dirty air ducts.
I saw on Pinterest that if you wipe them down with dryer sheets, it'll repel dust and you'll have to do it less often. I've yet to try this.

shoeflypie

Not sure if this is flammable but DH and I have always showered together. We talk about our day, upcoming plans, bullshit drama with family, the usual. But now that I'm pregnant, there's less room and I'm a little nervous that he's gonna make me fall. He's not the most coordinated or conscientious person in the world and my center of gravity is definitely outside of my body. I've been trying to shower before him or jump in right when he's about to be done. I think talking to him about it might upset him so making excuses seems easier.

Ktrue85

KateMW said:

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

utlawgirl said:

Ktrue85 said:

While cleaning my baseboards just now, it took me probably a full 60 seconds to get up off the floor. Not flame worthy, but funny.

I am just impressed you were cleaning your baseboards.

Dirty baseboards tweak me out. Also dirty air ducts.

Wanna come do mine? My confession is that I haven't cleaned the baseboards (absent a spill) since we moved in a year and a half ago!

You have to clean them???

LOL

Mine get nasty looking. Not sure why, but there is normally a film of dirt on them, with dog hair stuck to that. Grosses me out so I must 409 them bitches.

m88bloom

Meggie0421 said:

nicholssquared said:

KateMW said:

Do people really put notes on cars? How crazy!

I leave notes if I break their taillight with my car, but that's about it.

I can't imagine leaving a note out of sheer passive aggressiveness.

I'm not gonna lie I have left an angry note on a ladies car the other day. Our condos don't allow dogs more then 20lbs. So she leaves her dog in the car all day with the windows rolled up. My hormones got the best of me.

Instead of a note why wouldn't you call the police or animal services. Your note isn't going to stop that poor dog from cooking alive.

Screw a note I would call the police and animal control and then bust out the windows. 

nofcksgiven

m88bloom said:

Meggie0421 said:

JaxxM said:

nicholssquared said:

KateMW said:

Do people really put notes on cars? How crazy!

I leave notes if I break their taillight with my car, but that's about it.

I can't imagine leaving a note out of sheer passive aggressiveness.

I'm not gonna lie I have left an angry note on a ladies car the other day. Our condos don't allow dogs more then 20lbs. So she leaves her dog in the car all day with the windows rolled up. My hormones got the best of me.

Instead of a note why wouldn't you call the police or animal services.
Your note isn't going to stop that poor dog from cooking alive.




Screw a note I would call the police and animal control and then bust out the windows. 

I was looking for that chart!
I'm glad you added it. Doesn't take long at all for an animal to get hear stroke in a car.

nofcksgiven

JaxxM said:

m88bloom said:

Meggie0421 said:

JaxxM said:

nicholssquared said:

KateMW said:

Do people really put notes on cars? How crazy!

I leave notes if I break their taillight with my car, but that's about it.

I can't imagine leaving a note out of sheer passive aggressiveness.

I'm not gonna lie I have left an angry note on a ladies car the other day. Our condos don't allow dogs more then 20lbs. So she leaves her dog in the car all day with the windows rolled up. My hormones got the best of me.

Instead of a note why wouldn't you call the police or animal services.
Your note isn't going to stop that poor dog from cooking alive.

Screw a note I would call the police and animal control and then bust out the windows. 

If you saw the rest of the thread I said I did call and nothing has been done about.

Keep calling.

lp0

Meggie0421 said:

JaxxM said:

m88bloom said:

Meggie0421 said:

JaxxM said:

nicholssquared said:

KateMW said:

Do people really put notes on cars? How crazy!

I leave notes if I break their taillight with my car, but that's about it.

I can't imagine leaving a note out of sheer passive aggressiveness.

I'm not gonna lie I have left an angry note on a ladies car the other day. Our condos don't allow dogs more then 20lbs. So she leaves her dog in the car all day with the windows rolled up. My hormones got the best of me.

Instead of a note why wouldn't you call the police or animal services.
Your note isn't going to stop that poor dog from cooking alive.

Screw a note I would call the police and animal control and then bust out the windows. 

If you saw the rest of the thread I said I did call and nothing has been done about.

Keep calling.



I would call the local news. Put the cops/animal control under heat.

penelopemaria

Meggie0421 said:

nicholssquared said:

KateMW said:

Do people really put notes on cars? How crazy!

I leave notes if I break their taillight with my car, but that's about it.

I can't imagine leaving a note out of sheer passive aggressiveness.

I'm not gonna lie I have left an angry note on a ladies car the other day. Our condos don't allow dogs more then 20lbs. So she leaves her dog in the car all day with the windows rolled up. My hormones got the best of me.

Instead of a note why wouldn't you call the police or animal services. Your note isn't going to stop that poor dog from cooking alive.

Screw a note I would call the police and animal control and then bust out the windows. 

If you saw the rest of the thread I said I did call and nothing has been done about.

Keep calling.

I would call the local news. Put the cops/animal control under heat.

This. Keep trying until that dog is saved.

MamaGrillo

JaxxM said:

Cashingn2 said:

I think people are being really judge mental regarding people that receive govt assistance like TANF and SNAP.

agreed

While I agree that there is a story behind everyone's situation, perhaps the feelings are based on negative experiences?
It's frustrating to me, to work, for us to pay taxes, cut here and there so we can save for vacations, save for Christmas presents, pay for each and every thing and then there's the girl at work, who has her Dunks and blunt every day, pays next to nothing for rent, gets assistance for every conceivable thing, and when my kids are getting one present each under the tree, hers get Wii, laptops, Xbox, tablets.... For real.
I think when you see that, that's when it gets hard to remember that there ARE people out there who tried and are struggling.

AGriffin620

northport6 said:

superspecialsnowflake said:

My FFFC:

1) I threw up in my mouth a little bit when I logged on today and saw the FFFC thread was already over 100 posts.  Oi.

2) I am legitimately concerned that my husband is on his way to developing Type II diabetes.  The man loves his sugar and carbs.  He can down two cans of coke in one meal.  LOVES his white rice - sometimes eat plain white rice for lunch (which is weird to me).  He adds sugar to koolaid mix (...shudder....).  When he has a glass of milk, he has a big, bar-sized glass of milk.  Same thing with his morning OJ.   I will fully admit to being sensitive about watching how people consume carbs and what kind of carbs.  I have tried pointing this out to him, offered to help him improve his eating habits, etc.  He's aware of how I feel, but really doesn't seem motivated to change anything.  And of course, I can't make him change, either.

3) My university used to let people leave an hour or two early on days before vacations, but stopped that practice in the last year or so.  Out of protest (because no one's doing anything and students aren't contacting me anyway), I'm perhaps not as dedicated to being productive today as I should be. : )

1) ME TOO.  

2) Oh my g-d, this sounds like my husband when we met, only he was addicted to meat and I was a vegetarian.  I tricked him into getting a physical and when his cholesterol came back elevated I just kinda let the rest work itself out -- just kidding, I insisted on having conversation after conversation after conversation about it.  (Prior to my pregnancy, he'd been vegan for a year -- we're taking a break from veggie living until the baby is born because bacon and also maybe because pastrami)  I know how unsettling that can be. 

3) This sounds like my Friday, too.  SOUL SISTERS 4EVA.

I'm stuck at work this afternoon, too, while so many other people took the day off.  This campus is a ghost town...AND it is a SUPER nice day outside!  Arg. 

AGriffin620

1)  This FFFC is way too long for my liking today. 

2)  I hate feeling unliked.  It makes me feel insecure.

3)  I like SPAM

sporklemotion

Meynara said:

Also, something else to keep in mind? I've never been in a family who made more than about $28k a year. Never. And that was DH on his own combined with my meager earnings as a work study student in college which was all of $1k. My parents combined never made that much, so low income damn well doesn't mean can't care for your kids. You just have to get creative and figure it out. Unfortunately, I didn't get the right kind of creativity from my parents to figure out how to make it work with us without being on benefits, but I'm still trying.

I think this is what some PPs were getting at before. I think it's easy to lose sight of the privileges you have and to feel like you've earned it all yourself, when some of it is just an accident of birth. Ii had my Ramen years when I worked my tail off for low wages, but I always knew that in the back of my mind, I had my parents as a safety net if I needed it. It was a HUGE point of pride that I didn't ask them for help at all, but I also didn't sweat saving for retirement or building up an emergency fund because, quite frankly, I knew they could help me if I got too desperate. If I didn't have that, it would have been hard for me to do some of the resume building stuff I did, or student teach, or otherwise help myself move up a career ladder. So no judgment from me on those who need/use government assistance.

ReggieLou13

My FFFC is that DH still does his own laundry. He doesn't mind though.

opolanco

My FFFC is that Im leaving to miami on tuesday and im trying to keep
cool and collected but im annoyed that i have to leave everything for last minute because i had to go into work all this week couldnt get half things done but glad im leaving and having my hubby all to myself and leave both my SIL for 6 months without them nagging and calling everyday at 8 am to make him do stuff for them..

nofcksgiven

roxymatt said:

My FFFC is that DH still does his own laundry. He doesn't mind though.

That shouldn't be a confession, that's an achievement.
Keep it that way. :-)