I've been wondering about how and when to talk to DD about safety - specifically talking to strangers, private parts, etc. DD is very shy and typically doesn't speak to anyone she doesn't know. But, sometimes people will come up to her in public and compliment her hair, or the cashier at the grocery store will ask how she's doing, etc. I encourage her to speak back to people in those situations, just to be friendly. But, she has a typical 4-year old way of viewing the world and I'm sure if I say "don't talk to strangers" she will wonder why I sometimes encourage her to do the opposite. Is there an easy way to explain the difference? Do I say "you can only talk to strangers when mommy says it's okay?" Or, only when I'm talking to them too?
The other thing is talking about her privates. I want to tell her that they are private and not for others to see or touch. However, obviously DH and I need to do so when bathing her or if there is ever something wrong. My mom or MIL might also bathe her while babysitting. So, do I say only family members and doctors? Do I give her a specific list of names?