Advice &rant.

tashad18

I would have called CPS already.  I hate seeing threads like this with people talking about how horrible someone they know is to their kids and how they wish they could call CPS.  Umm....just call.  I would call in a heartbeat if I knew someone like this, and I would call on your friends if I knew her info.

As far as her calling CPS on you, if you aren't mistreating/abusing your children you have nothing to worry about, and she can get into trouble for making a false claim to CPS just to get back at you. 

Amjoy25

Felt like a good spot for a cat gif. You're welcome.

ranaverde

imakeeff0rts said:

1. None of us here are 40, either. Insinuating that people are old is just as rude as those you're accusing.

Hey now...  I may be 43, but I'm not exactly standing here with one foot in the grave, either.  X(

(Just poking you - I'm not really offended.  I know I'm an outlier.)





To the OP: if you didn't want advice, why post in the first place?  The advice people gave you, even if not phrased to your taste, is good.  Stop being "friends" with someone who does illegal drugs and threatens you, and start acting like the mother you're about to become - someone who is mature enough to take care of an infant and raise a child.  Enough with the high-school style drama. 

I get that it's not easy to do these things if you've never stood up for yourself before as an independent adult, but you're pregnant, and about to become a mother. You're about to become responsible for the care of another person, a person who will be completely dependent on you.  You don't have the luxury of acting like a teenager any more, even if chronologically you are one.  Until you face up to this, you're going to find it really hard to do what is necessary for the well-being of your child.

ETA: You might also consider going to the site called Captain Awkward, and see what she has to say about cutting ties with bad friends.  There is a lot of great advice there, if you're willing to learn from it.

MrsLaurenAsh

AFwifelife said:

Trinakriberg said:

llybeck said:

Ladys just stfu . Please you're ignorance is not appreciated . Poor me for being a teen mom? Holy shit I just asked for a little advice and to rant about what I was pissed off about . I didn't need to get this many horrible responses from ignorant people who throw there judgemental asses in places they Should just ignore . but didn't you're parents teach you to have manners ? and to treat people the way u wanted to be treated or IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? You girls arnt helping with you're "advice " (negativaty) so please let people with real advice give it . Gosh what has this world come to ?. Anyways I'm done replying because you girls are just annoying drama
Thanx and have yourselves a great day.

It was actually painful to read that... "Ladys"

msronzio

MrsLaurenAsh said:

Trinakriberg said:

Ladys just stfu . Please you're ignorance is not appreciated . Poor me for being a teen mom? Holy shit I just asked for a little advice and to rant about what I was pissed off about . I didn't need to get this many horrible responses from ignorant people who throw there judgemental asses in places they Should just ignore . but didn't you're parents teach you to have manners ? and to treat people the way u wanted to be treated or IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? You girls arnt helping with you're "advice " (negativaty) so please let people with real advice give it . Gosh what has this world come to ?. Anyways I'm done replying because you girls are just annoying drama Thanx and have yourselves a great day.

It was actually painful to read that... "Ladys"

Did I miss any? My eyes are slightly bleeding so I may have. 

Also, I wish I had the energy to "throw" my judgmental ass anywhere, lol

Hollywogg

Well OP, your atrocious spelling doesn't help your case here either. Your original post was severely misguided in threatening to call CPS on a friend. If you have a reason to go to such a drastic measure you would. And you would have no qualms about ending the friendship. Without consulting strangers online. Being pissy and annoyed is not sufficient reason. I'd say end the friendship with this person if it gives you such pain. Your friend will be lucky never to hear from you again.

PrimRoseMama

Are you still in high school? For real, just stop messing with the dumb broad. If she calls CPS on you (why would she do that?) then if they need to come out they will. Odds are they will laugh at her attempt at drama and move on. CPS has so many other, more pressing issues to deal with than two catty girls trying to involve them in their petty drama. Seriously. 

PrimRoseMama

Telling someone to grow up doesn't help it's rude . If you think it isn't then you're crazy . I'm 18 not 40 .. & it's not to get back at her I strongly think she's not gunna be a good mom . Wasn't expecting it to be sweet . But as rude as u all were .

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Wait wait, you are the one dealing with all sorts of dysfunction and we are crazy? So what if some of us are 40? I'm almost 30. So what? What exactly are you trying to say? If she isn't a good mom then that is not your business. If she is putting her child in danger then tell an adult (you clearly are not one) and let them handle it. If you call CPS on her out of spite then it can actually hurt the child more than help them. If you are genuinely concerned for the baby's well being then talk to your folks. You want this to be as clean and free of petty BS if you are actually going to report drug use. You would understand this if you pulled your head out of your bum and stopped focusing on your petty drama. Focus on the big picture. That is a mark of maturity. No one was rude to you. We are speaking to you like an adult. Clearly, you have issues being an adult and acting like one. You may have reached majority but you are acting like a little girl here. Stop throwing a tantrum and listen to the advice being given to you. Sometimes adults have to hear things they don't like and function. This is your crash course. I'd definitely soak it up before you bring that baby into it. Petty crap like that doesn't matter. Focus on what matters. Find good people to surround yourself with.

PrimRoseMama

Trinakriberg said:

Ladys just stfu . Please you're ignorance is not appreciated . Poor me for being a teen mom? Holy shit I just asked for a little advice and to rant about what I was pissed off about . I didn't need to get this many horrible responses from ignorant people who throw there judgemental asses in places they Should just ignore . but didn't you're parents teach you to have manners ? and to treat people the way u wanted to be treated or IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? You girls arnt helping with you're "advice " (negativaty) so please let people with real advice give it . Gosh what has this world come to ?. Anyways I'm done replying because you girls are just annoying drama 
Thanx and have yourselves a great day.

Wait wait, if you have nothing to say that is nice, then don't say anything at all. Wouldn't this apply to your own expression telling us to STFU? That's not very nice, is it? Yeah, its not. So why are you saying it? Follow your own advice. You sound like a hypocrite because your own typing is dripping with ignorance and ill spirit. Seriously, you've gotten some great advice here and have chosen to throw a diaper-baby tantrum instead of listening to it. 

Your immaturity is showing, dear. 

Disneygeek77

PrimRoseMama said:

Trinakriberg said:

Ladys just stfu . Please you're ignorance is not appreciated . Poor me for being a teen mom? Holy shit I just asked for a little advice and to rant about what I was pissed off about . I didn't need to get this many horrible responses from ignorant people who throw there judgemental asses in places they Should just ignore . but didn't you're parents teach you to have manners ? and to treat people the way u wanted to be treated or IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? You girls arnt helping with you're "advice " (negativaty) so please let people with real advice give it . Gosh what has this world come to ?. Anyways I'm done replying because you girls are just annoying drama 
Thanx and have yourselves a great day.

Wait wait, if you have nothing to say that is nice, then don't say anything at all. Wouldn't this apply to your own expression telling us to STFU? That's not very nice, is it? Yeah, its not. So why are you saying it? Follow your own advice. You sound like a hypocrite because your own typing is dripping with ignorance and ill spirit. Seriously, you've gotten some great advice here and have chosen to throw a diaper-baby tantrum instead of listening to it. 

Your immaturity is showing, dear. 

Ha ha ha, what is it with these kind of tirades lately?

" You stupid, selfish, ignorant, bitches; stop calling people names. 

TashnBabii

Odd and possibly a bit immature. I cannot say that I relate. Maybe just cut ties with her for a little?

imakeeff0rts

ranaverde said:

imakeeff0rts said:

1. None of us here are 40, either. Insinuating that people are old is just as rude as those you're accusing.

Hey now...  I may be 43, but I'm not exactly standing here with one foot in the grave, either.  X(

(Just poking you - I'm not really offended.  I know I'm an outlier.)

I'm glad you're not offended because I didn't mean it that way at all. I felt like she implied that anyone even a second older than her was old and that's why we don't understand. 

Some people....smh. 

ranaverde

imakeeff0rts said:

I'm glad you're not offended because I didn't mean it that way at all. I felt like she implied that anyone even a second older than her was old and that's why we don't understand. 

Some people....smh. 

No worries.  I mostly just thought it was funny, given that by her standards, I'm not just old, I'm OLD. 
@-)

I also find it funny when people younger than us assume that we "can't understand" what it's like to be their age... given that, well, we once were their age.  (And I am so, so happy to no longer be 18.  Oy, the drama.)

allurea

ranaverde said:

imakeeff0rts said:

I'm glad you're not offended because I didn't mean it that way at all. I felt like she implied that anyone even a second older than her was old and that's why we don't understand. 

Some people....smh. 

No worries.  I mostly just thought it was funny, given that by her standards, I'm not just old, I'm OLD. 
@-)

I also find it funny when people younger than us assume that we "can't understand" what it's like to be their age... given that, well, we once were their age.  (And I am so, so happy to no longer be 18.  Oy, the drama.)

@ranaverde

Wait a minute.. you're trying to tell me that anyone 19 years of age and up was once 18?  That can't be right, are you sure you aren't just hallucinating in your "OLD" age? :P

Trinakriberg

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

Trinakriberg

Lets see how many comments we can get on this post ! See if we can get it up over 100

allurea

Trinakriberg said:

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

For me personally, can't sleep and have been on bedrest the whole pregnancy, so yes...bored...almost always.

msronzio

Trinakriberg said:

Lets see how many comments we can get on this post ! See if we can get it up over 100

No

Go back to your hiding

llybeck

Trinakriberg said:

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

Are you bored? If I recall correctly, I thought we were ignorant "ladys" and you were done commenting.

HFrizzle

llybeck said:

Trinakriberg said:

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

Are you bored? If I recall correctly, I thought we were ignorant "ladys" and you were done commenting.

No, we are all rude old ladies.

HFrizzle

AFwifelife said:

HFrizzle said:

llybeck said:

Trinakriberg said:

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

Are you bored? If I recall correctly, I thought we were ignorant "ladys" and you were done commenting.

No, we are all rude old ladies.

Ladys***

You're correct! My iPhone autocorrect does what it wants and I didn't make sure It was right.

imakeeff0rts

HFrizzle said:

HFrizzle said:

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

Are you bored? If I recall correctly, I thought we were ignorant "ladys" and you were done commenting.

No, we are all rude old ladies.

Ladys***

You're correct! My iPhone autocorrect does what it wants and I didn't make sure It was right.

What's really funny about this is that she probably doesn't get the joke.

ranaverde

imakeeff0rts said:

What's really funny about this is that she probably doesn't get the joke.

Of course not.  Only old people can get this joke.

allurea

ranaverde said:

imakeeff0rts said:

What's really funny about this is that she probably doesn't get the joke.

Of course not.  Only old people can get this joke.

Do I qualify as old yet?  I have a few months to 30 still.

imakeeff0rts

allurea said:

ranaverde said:

imakeeff0rts said:

What's really funny about this is that she probably doesn't get the joke.

Of course not.  Only old people can get this joke.

Do I qualify as old yet?  I have a few months to 30 still.

Based upon the context of what she said, we're all old because we're not 18. Welcome to the old lady club, my friend.

allurea

imakeeff0rts said:

allurea said:

ranaverde said:

imakeeff0rts said:

What's really funny about this is that she probably doesn't get the joke.

Of course not.  Only old people can get this joke.

Do I qualify as old yet?  I have a few months to 30 still.

Based upon the context of what she said, we're all old because we're not 18. Welcome to the old lady club, my friend.

Well that's good, because I got the joke.  Also, if being young is going to make me that dumb, than I don't want to be young again, though I wasn't nearly that dense when I was that age.

msronzio

allurea said:

imakeeff0rts said:

allurea said:

ranaverde said:

imakeeff0rts said:

What's really funny about this is that she probably doesn't get the joke.

Of course not.  Only old people can get this joke.

Do I qualify as old yet?  I have a few months to 30 still.

Based upon the context of what she said, we're all old because we're not 18. Welcome to the old lady club, my friend.

Well that's good, because I got the joke.  Also, if being young is going to make me that dumb, than I don't want to be young again, though I wasn't nearly that dense when I was that age.

Or as much as an AW, amirite?! Look at OP's other posts....

It's like she didn't want to believe people when they blanket warned her "you're gonna pee a lot, you're gonna be tired, etc."

allurea

msronzio said:

Or as much as an AW, amirite?! Look at OP's other posts....

It's like she didn't want to believe people when they blanket warned her "you're gonna pee a lot, you're gonna be tired, etc."

AlwaysForgetful

Trinakriberg said:

. I'm worried if I do she might do something like call CPS on me after my baby is born . It's really hard

So? Let her call CPS. My ex use to play that game. CPS can be embarrassing but other than that, unless there is an actual issue somewhere they will see you once and you will never see them again. If the accusations are drugs, offer to do a drug test. That will clear it right up.

hollowway

Boo hoo OP.

2010weddinggal

Trinakriberg said:

Telling someone to grow up doesn't help it's rude . If you think it isn't then you're crazy . I'm 18 not 40 .. & it's not to get back at her I strongly think she's not gunna be a good mom . Wasn't expecting it to be sweet . But as rude as u all were .

well that is not for you to decide, ur 18 and acting like a child grow up your going to be a parent too. would you appreciate someone comming on a internet forum and saying i do not think so ans so is going to be a good mom.... excatly

MamaHanna

Trinakriberg said:

Holy shit you people are still going haha bored eh?

Wow she wasn't kidding! She can't leave a bad situation alone. We can be your practice. Stop talking to bumpies and maybe that will give you the courage to stop talking to your friend who is obviously as big of a hot mess as you are. Seriously girl focus on yourself and your baby. You don't need to invite trouble in for dinner...and a smoke!

hisbeautyalways

(Lurker)

On the bright side, it will be really easy to cut ties. You're having a baby. You are about to be tired, grumpy, and VERY busy. Your friendship will naturally die if you let it. So let it.

MegStark

Oh I do love me some Teen Mom!