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3rd Trimester
Advice &rant.
Little pregnancy rant . Do any of you have a friend that is pregnant at the same time? . I do we are close to birth. but lately I just can not stand to be around her , everything she does it annoys me , like being around Mary Jane (weed) and getting her friends to blow it in her face! Its like why not just smoke it same thing. And she thinks its okay NO DRUG IS OKAY. Im not going to care if CPS Takes youre kid because i find you to be an unfit mom . Seems like she just doesn't care and she's having a baby for attention . & It just seems like she try's to one up me on everything. Like she's trying so hard to be better than me copying what i do and say (its creepy) complaines all the time .. before I got pregnant I can take the annoyance but now I can't even stand talking to her . Anyone else have the same sit. And how can I stop being friends with her without her being upset (been friends for 3 years)
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Re: Advice &rant.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
No, it shouldn't be hard at all to stop being friends with someone like that if you are responsible. To be honest, you both sound very immature, you've brought up calling CPS on each other twice already and neither of you have even given birth yet. Not to mention drug use and the fact that you are actually concerned that she is "trying to be better" than you and accusing her of having a child for "attention." It sounds like you are still in junior high and if you think deciding to cut ties with someone you feel to be an "unfit mother" is a hard decision, wait until you have to make actual decisions about your child and their care/upbringing/etc.
You shouldn't have to ask strangers for advice on this, stop being childish and don't hang out with someone you "can't stand." And hanging out with someone whose doing drugs is a stupid choice already on your part, are you going to just keep being friends because it's sooo hard not to and then let her be around your kid while she's high? Start making the right choices now, it's not going to get easier when the kid gets here.
I'm curious though, if you are that worried about her calling CPS on you, what reason would she have for calling? You realize CPS is NOT a game, it's incredibly serious and not something you should throw around as a threat. It's also not something you can just abuse and abuse just to have children taken from a home, there is a ton of investigation that goes into any of those cases, they don't just come and take your kid because some idiot called and made a bogus claim. It makes me furious that people actually think this way about CPS, it's mind boggling that people could be low enough to use calling them as a threat. Unless you have a reason to be investigated (which it sounds like you might based on your fear) than all you can do is worry about yourself and your child. If she's stupid enough to try to call and accuse you of something that is untrue, you should have no problem showing you are innocent (if it would ever even get that far).
As far as CPS is concerned, she can call CPS all day. You know that they investigate claims, right? So, if you're not doing anything wrong/neglectful, then you should have nothing to worry about.
I think that right there IS the problem.
Seriously, though, if she annoys you that much, just stop talking to her. BOOM. Done.
CPS is not a toy used to get back at your BFF cause she pissed you off last week. Grow up, take charge of your life and your baby and get rid of the drama. If you don't like what she's doing, then stay away from her and let her life play out the way it's meant too.
2. You asked a question, you got answers.
3. I wasn't being rude - I laid it out for you. No one else was rude to you, either. If you choose to take it that way, that's YOUR problem. But since you're going to pull that card, expect some rudeness.
4. Get over yourself.
ETA 5. To answer your question - No. It doesn't appear as though any of us are in this situation because we're all mature and responsible enough to put on our big girl panties and do what's best for ourselves, our families, and our children. But nice try.
In every thread that you've posted, you've called people rude for telling you how it is and for not coddling you. Sorry, but no one is going to pat you on the head and tell you that it's ok. You have to do what you have to do, and you've gotten advice from people. If you don't like the advice you get here, take it to BabyCenter where it's all unicorns and puppies and quit being so damn sensitive about what people say to you on the internet.
Awesome contradiction there.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
BTW, I'm not 40. I am baby #4, I've been married for almost 14 yrs, I'm educated and have probably been through more crap growing up, than you will ever understand. You're 18, you do need to grow up. Just because you're pregnant doesn't make you an adult. Take the advice that was given and listen to it.
DH: 37
Married: May 24, 2008
TTC #2 since: June 2020
Hahaha, poor you for being a teen mom, that's totally an excuse to act like an idiot and call good advice "rude." I doubt very many (if any) of us are 40 and do you really think you need to be 40 in order to have common sense? Your age doesn't mean a thing, if you were old enough to get pregnant than you're old enough to be responsible and act like a parent. Do you think you are exempt from being a responsible parent because you are 18? There are plenty of young moms on this site and they don't go around using their age as an excuse, it shouldn't even factor into anything that's posted here. You're about to be a mom, doesn't matter how old you are.
If you understand how serious CPS is and what they do and that they need an actual reason to investigate you, than what are you hiding? Oh wait, that's right, you back tracked and said it was your dad that was worried, not you. If that's true, than your dad is as immature as you and I understand a little better how you can be as naïve and childish as you are. Please, for the love of God, stop using being 18 as a crutch and act like a parent. Start making the right choices now for yourself and your child, it doesn't get easier from here, you're going to have to be mature and act like an adult.
Hahaha, poor you for being a teen mom, that's totally an excuse to act like an idiot and call good advice "rude." I doubt very many (if any) of us are 40 and do you really think you need to be 40 in order to have common sense? Your age doesn't mean a thing, if you were old enough to get pregnant than you're old enough to be responsible and act like a parent. Do you think you are exempt from being a responsible parent because you are 18? There are plenty of young moms on this site and they don't go around using their age as an excuse, it shouldn't even factor into anything that's posted here. You're about to be a mom, doesn't matter how old you are.
If you understand how serious CPS is and what they do and that they need an actual reason to investigate you, than what are you hiding? Oh wait, that's right, you back tracked and said it was your dad that was worried, not you. If that's true, than your dad is as immature as you and I understand a little better how you can be as naïve and childish as you are. Please, for the love of God, stop using being 18 as a crutch and act like a parent. Start making the right choices now for yourself and your child, it doesn't get easier from here, you're going to have to be mature and act like an adult.
Ladys just stfu . Please you're ignorance is not appreciated . Poor me for being a teen mom? Holy shit I just asked for a little advice and to rant about what I was pissed off about . I didn't need to get this many horrible responses from ignorant people who throw there judgemental asses in places they Should just ignore . but didn't you're parents teach you to have manners ? and to treat people the way u wanted to be treated or IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? You girls arnt helping with you're "advice " (negativaty) so please let people with real advice give it . Gosh what has this world come to ?. Anyways I'm done replying because you girls are just annoying dramaThanx and have yourselves a great day.
Please tell me this is your GBCB response and would you like a "3rd Trimester made me cry badge"?
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Trinakriberg you're calling us ignorant for giving you actual advice yet you are the one having a hard time not being friends with someone who you don't even like? No one was rude in any of their original posts, we were giving you the advice you asked for and you were the one who came back with the unwarranted response. Coming from people who are responsible and want to do what's best for our children, we gave you the best advice we have which was to grow up and cut ties. What kind of advice were you looking for? Let me try again and see if you like this better:
You're friend hangs out with people who do drugs, you think she's trying to one up you, you're accusing her of having a child just to get attention, you think she's going to call CPS on you (whoops, I meant your dad thinks that), and you "can't stand" her. Wow, what a tough decision. I can see why this is difficult for you. I often find that I have a hard time not talking to people I hate and who I think will be terrible mothers. Just remember, you will get through this with your strong rationing skills and maturity. Also, I bet if you keep calling the women on this board mean and rude and ignorant, they will start to be really nice and like you a lot. You'll get so many friends by doing that, you won't even need that one you're having trouble with in real life. You should probably use the abuse flag more as well. Hugs!
Is that better? See, no one in their right mind would respond with that because its terrible advice, there is no logical reason for you to have a hard time making the right decision and being responsible.
Also, you're going to flag me for calling you immature and using being a teenager a crutch? Go for it, it's not against the TOS so your flag means nothing. If you don't want honest advice, don't ask for advice on the internet. And asking if our parents taught us manners... well did yours teach you common sense? No one was being ill mannered initially and anyone can post anything they want on a public forum, we don't have to censor ourselves because honest, blunt advice offends you. Only you can control your feelings and if good honest advice upsets you, that's out of our control.
Posting the question you did to internet strangers and asking for advice then calling it rude, then wrongly flagging people, then using age as an excuse, and then ONCE AGAIN using the flag button on people who you disagree with, all while having no regard for grammar/spelling/etc... I can tell you right now this isn't the place for you. If you need support from strangers that badly, try Baby Center or Baby Gaga. And THAT is probably the best advice I can give you.
No one here has violated any TOS. And if you're "done replying", quit coming back to the thread, for God's sake.