Announcing second pregnancy? (mostly whining)

adventureolive

Ah, yes, the ever-present "how to announce our second pregnancy" question.

DD was a big surprise as I was on birth control. I told my close family at around 8 weeks, told work at 12 weeks, and made the official announcement on my birthday, which was a couple weeks after. The only reason I told my close family so early was because I was living with them at the time. Now I have less inclination to tell anyone before 12 weeks, and lately I don't want to announce it at all. DD is only 7 months only, and DH and I just got married in June. It kind of feels like we're going "Okay guys, we're having a baby, now we're buying a house, we're getting married, oh guess what, we're having another baby!" I figure I'll probably have to tell people at some point before I start showing, so I've been trying to figure out when and how to announce. Problem is, I just can't seem to decide on anything. Every idea I have I manage to poke holes in, and then I just feel guilty for throwing myself a pity party.

How did others announce their pregnancies? And what were people's reactions?

bookworm982

I had the same feelings about having two back to back pregnancies. Aside from a few people, we didn't tell anyone about our second pregnancy until the beginning of second trimester. I was actually content to keep the secret longer, but I started showing and I didn't want to hurt family members feelings.

We let most people know as they noticed my bump. For family, we skyped with DD wearing a big sister onesie. I also texted a picture of her in it to a few friends.

Honestly, everyone was excited for us. (We made sure to let them know we were excited, and that helped.) A few people, mostly my parents, were concerned for my health even though they were happy. Since they were still celebrating the pregnancy, I actually appreciated that they cared about me and not just the new grandbaby.

Do what feels right for you, and don't let anyone rain on your parade. Even if people don't react they way you want, you have every reason to celebrate all of the awesome changes in your life these past couple years!

StayingSecret

Our LOs will be 18/19 months apart.  I told family at 8 weeks and made it facebook official at 18 weeks, told work at 20 weeks.

It isn't the big hoopla that it was for my first pregnancy, but that's okay.  Who needs all that?  It's a baby - that's exciting enough.  No need to make it a big production - just tell people.

jutimala

I told my family between 8-12 weeks and I didn't tell anyone else until about 20+ weeks. I wasn't too excited so I wasn't in a hurry to tell anyone anyway. Actually when I told people they were excited for me, which was awesome and made me feel better.

Tell them when you are ready, there is no hurry. If I were you I would just put a big sister onesie on your little girl and post/send the picture. Its a one shot deal and its over with quickly.

Congratulations.

Arielle27

I felt OK announcing #2 because we had warned everyone around us that we wanted our kids really close together (though basically no one took us seriously). So even though DS was only 7 months old when I got pregnant with DD, we told our immediate family right away and then friends a bit later and co-workers by the end of the 2nd trimester.

With our third pregnancy in under 3 years, I felt much less inclined to hear people's opinions!! I really didn't want to tell anyone at first. There was also a lot of crap going on with my family exactly when we found out we were expecting (illness, etc.), so we waited a couple of months to tell even our close family.

 By the time we told friends and others, in the second trimester, we were excited enough ourselves about the situation that I didn't care what others would say. Lucky we felt this way, because people had some unbelievable things to us! The number one response was 'Was it planned?' which people don't realize is very rude, I guess... But one family member actually found out before we were ready to tell people and asked if I was pregnant or trying and, when I lied (very uncomfortably), gave me a lecture about how I shouldn't get pregnant again too soon! And he KNEW I was pregnant! That really pissed me off!!

Scarlett&Gatsby

DD2 was planned, so we were excited to share the news, and we told our families about a week after we found out, on Easter (his family and mine were celebrating together that year).

#3 is....a surprise. We told our families right away just because I suck at keeping secrets and we both come from very close families (there's no one I'd mind "un-telling"). We're pretty far removed from both of our families, so we told them over Face Time.

Honestly, I was kind of embarrassed to tell them we were pregnant again. I'd made it pretty clear it was going to be a while before #3, and I thought they'd be a little aloof about it. But everyone's excited. Having a baby is an exciting event. They'll be happy. They might be shocked first, but they'll be happy.

Elli143

I waited much longer to announce the second baby. DD was only 6 months when I got pregnant and it was a complete surprise, one that I wasn't excited about at all. I told my family at 12 weeks because I felt like if I waited any longer that feelings might get hurt, but honestly I didn't want to tell anyone. We found out we were having a boy the same day that the royal prince was born, so I ended up announcing it on Facebook that same day, but haven't mentioned it on Facebook since, so anyone who didn't log on that day probably has no idea.

Most people were shocked, then excited. I was having a hard time sharing because I was so NOT excited about it. I wouldn't say that I'm excited about it yet, but it's getting easier to talk about and plan for. Good luck!

rkmmore

we announced at 12 weeks with ds2 we just went around to family with scan picture, we made sure we told them how excited we were etc so they didn't start with the was it planned etc. with #3 we have only just told everyone at 18 weeks as no hiding bump any longer we went for the shock value this time and snuck our announcements into everyday conversations, no one has  said anything negative yet, only the wow you will be busy from strangers when out with ds2.5 and ds10.5 months

MamaP19

I held off on telling my family until 14 weeks or so b/c I was worried about their reactions. They were much milder than I expected though. I think to them it sounded like a lot to handle, but when they saw that we were happy about it, they were happy for us too.