re-hosting a shower?

rbtrumpet

A very good friend of mine offered to throw me a shower the second I announced I was pregnant!  I know she got in contact with a second friend, but haven't heard anything lately, so no clue what's being planned or not.

Anyways, this friend (first one) recently announced that she is pregnant, she's only 6 weeks behind me (but waited until she was 16 weeks to tell people).  I would LOVE to turn around and host a shower for her!  Unfortunately, I cannot do it when she is 32+ weeks, because it seems like a bad idea for the host to be 38+ weeks, so I'd have to do it a bit early.  

We have mostly mutual friends who would be invited to go to both showers, so I'd rather not have then a week or two apart.  Although depending on if/when mine is, I may not have many options if I host hers.

Should I offer to host, which 1) I would LOVE to do and 2) feel like I should since she's hosting my shower (I know they're gifts, and do not need to be returned, but it would be nice) - or should I sit back and hope someone else (who is not pregnant) will step up to host her shower?

Babi2comingSoon2014

thats a toughie, if you really have your heart set on hosting for your friend i think the time lines would be pretty close.
instead of weeks apart couldnt it be a little stretched out maybe a month apart? having them earlier than normal?

Babi2comingSoon2014

thats a toughie, if you really have your heart set on hosting for your friend i think the time lines would be pretty close.
instead of weeks apart couldnt it be a little stretched out maybe a month apart? having them earlier than normal?

Babi2comingSoon2014

Sing2phins said:

Would it be really crazy to just do a joint shower?  I mean, if the guest lists overlap that much and you're that close together pregnancy-wise? 

I don't know - maybe that's a terrible idea.  I'm imagining competitive gift openings, comparing who got each of you what, etc, not to mention that maybe it makes the shower bigger than people are comfortable with.  Ok, forget I said anything. 8-}

LOL i thought of that too but quickly dismissed it, the images i saw of two pregnant women competeing at their showers though hilarious it was just a big fat no...

Helenahhandbasket

Don't do a joint shower unless you are both inviting exactly the same people, which I can't imagine you are.

Personally I think two showers a week apart is totally fine-- esp if most or all of the guests are local.    It's not really stressful to attend a shower simply as a guest, which is what I think your concern is? 

I think it would be really neat if you host each other's showers.

 

rbtrumpet

Sing2phins said:

Would it be really crazy to just do a joint shower?  I mean, if the guest lists overlap that much and you're that close together pregnancy-wise? 

I don't know - maybe that's a terrible idea.  I'm imagining competitive gift openings, comparing who got each of you what, etc, not to mention that maybe it makes the shower bigger than people are comfortable with.  Ok, forget I said anything. 8-}

it crossed my mind, then was dismissed for a couple reasons:

1) If I host her shower, and she hosts my shower, and we do a joint shower - then to the guests it ends up being "come to this shower trumpet & friend are hosting for themselves"

1.5) or to get around problem 1, we go to 2nd friend and ask "well, we know you offered to co-host my shower, but would you be willing to fully host a shower for both of us?" (which may actually be MORE rude!)

2) Also, although most people would go to both, we both have friends who would come to mine or her shower, but if we combined them, then they would be invited to a shower with a feeling of "oh, BTW, you have to buy a gift for this person you've never met too!"

Helenahhandbasket said:

Personally I think two showers a week apart is totally fine-- esp if most or all of the guests are local.    It's not really stressful to attend a shower simply as a guest, which is what I think your concern is? 

 

yeah - I just didn't want people to feel burdened by travel or finances by having two showers close together (we live in suburbs, and her and I live near each other, but 20-30 min away from some of our friends).


I guess I'll mention it to her and see what she thinks and then hope she's not planning a 34+ week shower for me :-p (or I'll just have her shower before mine - that would be odd, but not unheard of, I guess).

ArgyleBride

I think it is a very good idea to host for her.  The sentimentality of it is the point, I'm sure you can work the logistics.

theseaword

Go ahead and host. I hosted my sister's when I was 36 or so weeks, and it was fine. I did have some family helping. Would you be all on your own? Also, I would aim for maybe when she is 27 weeks or so.