Is it possible for your husband to make you sick...literally?

AprilW20

I'm about 10 weeks pregnant (first time being pregnant) and it's like my husband makes me sick, literally. He's so sweet and wonderful and handsome and he tries to help me and do what he can, so It's not some kind of emotional thing were I'm resenting him or anything, but when he's close to me it's like I just feel sick, especially when he touches me or kisses me, and I feel terrible about it because I told him and I could see it hurt him, but I don't know what to do...so I thought I'd check to see if any other pregnant women have gone through or are going through this too and if anything helped it. PLEASE HELP!!!

ktpaladino

Well I dont think I have it to the extent you do, but I just really don't like being touched while pregnant. My hubs actually knew something was up when I wasn't cuddling any more. I think it's just cause I feel so sick all the time and I just want to be left alone. I think last time it went away around 20 weeks.

MormonMrs1218

For me, it has a lot to do with temperature. My husband is always hot, and if I'm feeling overheated, I can't be near him. Also, when he falls asleep, I can't have his arm across my belly because it's just too heavy. I'm sorry you're going through this! Hopefully it will get better soon!

AprilW20

Tonight when he got home he came over and kissed me (and it was just a peck on the lips) and I had to run to the bathroom and throw up. :-( I feel horrible about it, but I don't know what to do...

AprilW20

Thank you! And I've actually noticed that his arm feels really heavy when he puts it on my belly at night, glad it's not just me

AprilW20

Everyone tells me that morning sickness and all gets better the further into pregnancy, but so far it just seems to be getting worse...especially now with the whole husband sickness thing...I have my first appointment Tuesday, but is there anything I can do for it, that won't harm the baby, until I can ask the doc about it?

MamaFantastic

sounds like it's a combination of first trimester hypersensitivity/sickness AND a consequential psychosomatic response.  (like if you had the flu and threw up a bunch of tacos, you'd maybe feel sick the next time you ate tacos just because you associate the two.)

i can't think of any other reason, unless his deodorant or cologne is somehow trigger some oversensitivity with your nose that is then causing a bodily reaction.

sorry!  that sounds like the pits.  i can only hope and assume it will get better with time.

GoyaBean913

Lurking from 3rd tri but yes! At some point very early in my 2nd tri i suddenly became repulsed by dh's natural scent. It was not BO or anything like that...just a natural odor that was there even right after showers. After a couple of weeks it went away completely.

Now in 3rd tri, ive tried to figure out other logical explanations for this but i cant....... Every single time dh is around me i get Super exhausted. Its like clock work. I could be full of energy but the minute he comes within a few feet of me i start nodding off no matter where i am or what im doing. Both sides of the family have even picked up on this and its a running joke. So strange!

Pinklemondreams

Lol I was amorous as heck with my first pregnancy, which turned out to be a girl, and then repulsed by DH with my second, which turned out to be a boy.

lopezalonso

Have you noticed that your sense of smell has gotten stronger? If so, you may be reacting to the smell of his cologne, deoderant, aftershave, body wash, or maybe even natural scent! My sense of smell went into super hero mode in my 6th week and I could smell bad breath and yes... farts... a mile away. It made me want to stay away from my husband when he passed gas or early in the morning before he brushed his teeth. Everything that smelled "bad" made me nauseous.

Christal161

Yeah, I don't like the cuddles or kissing much.. I just don't want to be touched and that's really not like me.. Guess the pregnancy is changing me lol and my fiance doesn't like that.

AprilW20

GoyaBean913 said:

Lurking from 3rd tri but yes! At some point very early in my 2nd tri i suddenly became repulsed by dh's natural scent. It was not BO or anything like that...just a natural odor that was there even right after showers. After a couple of weeks it went away completely. Now in 3rd tri, ive tried to figure out other logical explanations for this but i cant....... Every single time dh is around me i get Super exhausted. Its like clock work. I could be full of energy but the minute he comes within a few feet of me i start nodding off no matter where i am or what im doing. Both sides of the family have even picked up on this and its a running joke. So strange!

So glad I'm not alone!!! My family thinks it's hilarious because it's like I'm allergic to my husband. His deodorant did start bothering me when my sense of smell spiked like crazy, so he switched to unscented to fix that. But I think I'd much rather be exhausted when he's around then repulsed by him and see the hurt it causes him. You're right, it's so strange!

mimeberry

I've gone through 3 pregnancies and with all 3 I had the same nauseating feelings!  With the first, my husband was really confused and sad that I would have to hold back the throw-up when he would kiss me but because I've done it with all 3, he's so much more understanding now.  It's just something new for both of you and your body does/reacts differently now.  When your baby is born, you'll just look back and laugh!  In the mean time, ask him if there's another way you could return affection instead of getting physically close. 

jessib10

My husband is a diesel mechanic.... So yes, his smell totally gets me sometimes.

ocmommy2B

oh totally! His natural smell bothers me, his cologne/deodorant/toothpaste smell bothers me... hell, my OWN smell bothers me sometimes! sometimes you really can't win. but my husband is so over the moon that we're finally pregnant that he's being so kind and understanding and isn't taking any offense

momofmanyinthemitten

I can't be around DH from weeks 6 to 13. I'm totally repulsed by him.

tinyhumantoe

Lolz I just changed our shampoos and soaps. It helped a little, but DH knows to stay away for now. His leaning/hugging/heaviness makes me feel nauseous.

AprilW20

Thank the good Lord I'm not alone!!! Thanks everyone for your comments! :-)