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Bellodomani

happybride 276 said:

I feel guilty even saying this. I am so tired, swollen, and mean at work that I wish my doctor would put me on Modified bed rest. I am honestly so mean this week I have wondered if I will get fired, but my boss "blames it on my hormones", which really pisses me off. I just need to have a break from work so I can like my job again. Just to be clear I in no way, shape, or form hope something is wrong with my son or my pregnancy, and I am not trying to make light of bed rest. I just have no idea how else I can get away from the immense stress of work and still get paid.

You could try asking your doctor... My doctor has had 3 kids and she said especially for moms who have active or on their feet jobs, she's pretty much willing to write them a note at any point after 30 weeks.

Bellodomani

My confession- I have a super active job, and for the past 2 weeks I have 8-10 contractions an hour when I'm at work. Every time I see my doctor (she also goes to my church) she suggests going off work early, but she hasn't required it yet, and I REALLY want to stay until the end of August, when my classroom switches to a bilingual immersion class. I don't trust anyone else to get that process started off right. Don't get me wrong, if my doctor told me that continuing to work was actively harming my baby, I would for sure put him first and leave early, but for now, I'm barely dilated at all, the FFN test was negative last week, and until my doctor says that I have to stop working, I'm gonna keep on doing it. 

mcg512

kennazebrowsky said:

We avoided telling the majority of the people we know about getting admitted into the hospital because we knew they would blow my phone up and come bother me at the hospital. Now that I'm home I'm probably still going to keep it on the down-low because its hard to get rest when people want to visit you or bother you.

I would have done the same thing!!  

msronzio

Not to mention the combative little old ladies that have hit my belly. 

Unacceptable. I would lose my shit if someone did this to me. As in, get fired if I were in your position. lol! I know they have dementia or are just coming out of episode or a shock they're naturally combative.. But even when DH tells me about his patients assaulting him I can't help but feel protective and a little flash of anger. The belly? OH HELLLLL NO.

Hope you feel better soon. Try to avoid telling yourself "only x more days of this" because that can seem hopeless. One day at a time!

VitaLuna

msronzio said:

Not to mention the combative little old ladies that have hit my belly. 

Unacceptable. I would lose my shit if someone did this to me. As in, get fired if I were in your position. lol! I know they have dementia or are just coming out of episode or a shock they're naturally combative.. But even when DH tells me about his patients assaulting him I can't help but feel protective and a little flash of anger. The belly? OH HELLLLL NO.

Hope you feel better soon. Try to avoid telling yourself "only x more days of this" because that can seem hopeless. One day at a time!

Usually they have advanced dementia and there's no reasoning with them, but I did have a relatively "normal" person a while ago (maybe slightly confused, but mostly just a b*.. she knew what she was doing). We had to hold her down to put an oxygen mask on her because she was rapidly desatting and getting a little gray in the face. She got an arm loose and caught the side of my face, then hit my belly closed fist. I am one of the most calm people ever at work, but when she screamed "just let me die you b*", I responded with "I do NOT have time to do the paperwork". Not my proudest moment, but man I was pissed.

mcg512

xxpairofmedicsxx said:

I've not eaten very well at all this pregnancy. I would say 65% of it has been junk food (fast food or eating out) for the most part. For having only gained approx 35lbs in 33 weeks, I would be curious to see what the scale said had I eaten what I was supposed to and not what I wanted.

That is so me too!  

redfallon

susanb887 said:

@llybeck when I was in college my mom cleaned my room one day (rite fully so, it was disgusting). I left a note on my door that said, "thanks but don't ever go in my room again". I know it's different, but reminded me of it. My confession: I hate the word ratchet. As in, "so and so is so ratchet". To mr it feels like someone mispronounced wretched and everyone and there mother ran with it. When I hear people say it, it sounds uneducated to me.

I've never heard any person described as "ratchet" unless they are referring to the character Nurse Ratched from One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, meaning a horrible or sadistic person.

A ratchet is a tool or refers to something being moved up or down. So if someone is describing a person as "ratchet" they are not using the word correctly, so you're correct, the person is uneducated about the meaning and use of the word.

Being "wretched" would be a way to describe a person or a situation.

https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/ratchet?s=t

https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/wretched?s=t

:-B

blondii428

My confession is that I get so jealous anytime I hear about someone that gets to stay at home or work from home.  I have such a long train/bus ride commute to work on top of a several block walk to the bus stop and it completely wears me out.  I also have soooo much on my to do list that I wish I could have more time to focus on.  I know, I know.. they say that the grass is always greener on the other side but I really feel like it is in this case!

mcg512

redfallon said:

susanb887 said:

@llybeck when I was in college my mom cleaned my room one day (rite fully so, it was disgusting). I left a note on my door that said, "thanks but don't ever go in my room again". I know it's different, but reminded me of it. My confession: I hate the word ratchet. As in, "so and so is so ratchet". To mr it feels like someone mispronounced wretched and everyone and there mother ran with it. When I hear people say it, it sounds uneducated to me.

I've never heard any person described as "ratchet" unless they are referring to the character Nurse Ratched from One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, meaning a horrible or sadistic person.

A ratchet is a tool or refers to something being moved up or down. So if someone is describing a person as "ratchet" they are not using the word correctly, so you're correct, the person is uneducated about the meaning and use of the word.

Being "wretched" would be a way to describe a person or a situation.

https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/ratchet?s=t

https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/wretched?s=t

:-B

Ratchet is slang.   And I agree, @susanb887,  I HATE that word!! 

https://www.internetslang.com/RATCHET-meaning-definition.asp

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ratchet

kennazebrowsky

JocelynB0911 said:

I am getting super annoyed with my ILs telling me to "keep those babies in" and giving me suggestions on how not to dilate while on bedrest. Yeah, no. The only time I am allowed to get up is to go to the bathroom and to take a quick shower. Guess what? Still dilating people! They make it as if I have a choice in whats going on.

Yeah hate that! We have several family members whose birthdays are in late August who have requested that I have the baby on those specific days. Ok really?

mcg512

I've gotten so annoyed by the stupid things people post on FB that I have "hidden from newsfeed" 5 people today, 2 of them being family members.  I used to just keep scrolling past all their ridiculous posts but I'm tired of it and now my feed looks so much better without them   

I'll have to remind myself to periodically go check their pages in the rare case that they post something actually worth reading.  Learned that the hard way when I "hid" a former coworker and didn't know about her pending divorce when I saw her at the grocery store and asked about her husband.  AWKWARD!!  

redfallon

I chose to eat at Taco Bell today solely because it's located next to the gas station that has the honey buns I like.

BTW I didn't get any of my food dropped down my front!

redfallon

MandyCody36 said:

redfallon said:

susanb887 said:

@llybeck when I was in college my mom cleaned my room one day (rite fully so, it was disgusting). I left a note on my door that said, "thanks but don't ever go in my room again". I know it's different, but reminded me of it.
My confession: I hate the word ratchet. As in, "so and so is so ratchet". To mr it feels like someone mispronounced wretched and everyone and there mother ran with it. When I hear people say it, it sounds uneducated to me.

I've never heard any person described as "ratchet" unless they are referring to the character Nurse Ratched from One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, meaning a horrible or sadistic person.

A ratchet is a tool or refers to something being moved up or down. So if someone is describing a person as "ratchet" they are not using the word correctly, so you're correct, the person is uneducated about the meaning and use of the word.

Being "wretched" would be a way to describe a person or a situation.

https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/ratchet?s=t

https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/wretched?s=t

:-B

Ratchet is slang.   And I agree, @susanb887,  I HATE that word!! 

https://www.internetslang.com/RATCHET-meaning-definition.asp

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ratchet

So they're using it like Nurse Ratched, but probably don't know that's where it came from.

WhitneySherwood

This is baby #4 and I'm 35 weeks. I went from 2cm and 50% last week (was put on modified bed rest) to 3cm and 70% this week (strict bed rest). My babies get earlier and smaller and all I see is how messy my house is getting. While I want her to stay in and be healthy...I really would like to be able to clean up.

I also find myself getting pissed off at how much I worry...and sweat.

Sweating is gross.

HBirdie

Jilly82 said:

Sometimes I have to fake smile at the dr when she listens to the heartbeat and looks at me for so,e reaction. I feel like I have to be excited or something but I generally fake an "aw" and a smile. I feel him everyday so I know he's ok, the heartbeat just doesn't excite me anymore

YES! I thought I was the only one... with the exception of the very very first ultrasound, where it actually was crazy and overwhelming and kind of emotional to see our baby, I've felt the need to like fake cry or something every time we have one. Same for hearing the heartbeat. I'm a FTM but I feel really relaxed about this pregnancy and I haven't really had any moments yet of freaking out that something's wrong with my baby, so it's not like I'm waiting on pins and needles for two weeks just to hear the heartbeat again. I feel kind of terrible about it, like I'm already a bad mom or something. In fact, the other day, DH's cousin (who's a nursing student) was trying to find baby's heartbeat with a stethescope and she couldn't and her mom was really concerned and kept trying to make her stop, thinking that it would worry me or make me think my baby wasn't okay. Nope, I know he/she is in there doing just fine...

devilglrk7

I made the egg free cookie dough from the post yesterday and I've been eating it all day.... Now I'm craving McDonald's French fries. I swear I was so healthy until a few weeks ago now I just can't stop with the sweets and fast food.

Jenmarie279

I adore my husband and children, I really do, but lately nothing makes me happier than having the house to myself.

happybride 276

Bellodomani said:

happybride 276 said:

I feel guilty even saying this. I am so tired, swollen, and mean at work that I wish my doctor would put me on Modified bed rest. I am honestly so mean this week I have wondered if I will get fired, but my boss "blames it on my hormones", which really pisses me off. I just need to have a break from work so I can like my job again. Just to be clear I in no way, shape, or form hope something is wrong with my son or my pregnancy, and I am not trying to make light of bed rest. I just have no idea how else I can get away from the immense stress of work and still get paid.

You could try asking your doctor... My doctor has had 3 kids and she said especially for moms who have active or on their feet jobs, she's pretty much willing to write them a note at any point after 30 weeks.

I think I might ask in a week or two if I am still as miserable as I am now. I feel bad, but maybe I could even work from home. I know my boss would be ok with it if it were medically necessary, but it would be great to not have to work so I know I am not screwing something up.

mcg512

Jilly82 said:

Sometimes I have to fake smile at the dr when she listens to the heartbeat and looks at me for so,e reaction. I feel like I have to be excited or something but I generally fake an "aw" and a smile. I feel him everyday so I know he's ok, the heartbeat just doesn't excite me anymore

Same here!  My mom went with me to my appt this week because she was off work so we went to lunch, the appt and went shopping.  I felt bad because she cried and I didn't really have a reaction.  Oops!  

HBirdie

I have another one. DH and I have a wedding to attend tonight, and I don't have a dress to wear, so I'm heading to the mall after lunch to get one. I fully intend on buying a cinnabon and enjoying it in the middle of the food court, alone, unashamed. And I may or may not tell DH about it.

KMD1106

Lately I have been trying very hard not to gain more than a pound a week. This week though, I have about given up. I figure I only have 4 weeks left to have an excuse to eat junk food. I don't want to balloon up, but I want to give into cravings! Hopefully my doctor doesn't yell at me today.

Mrsdrev929

I lied to DH about the time of my appointment and ultrasound today just to get out a half hour early. I was even done a half hour early and treated myself to a milkshake. It was nice but now I came home to a mess and a cranky ds.

Bellodomani

HBirdie said:

I have another one. DH and I have a wedding to attend tonight, and I don't have a dress to wear, so I'm heading to the mall after lunch to get one. I fully intend on buying a cinnabon and enjoying it in the middle of the food court, alone, unashamed. And I may or may not tell DH about it.

Oooh, good idea! I have to go to the mall in a minute to grab a shirt because mine has blood all over it (long day at work)... if there's a cinnabon there i am for sure getting one

redfallon

MandyCody36 said:

I've gotten so annoyed by the stupid things people post on FB that I have "hidden from newsfeed" 5 people today, 2 of them being family members.  I used to just keep scrolling past all their ridiculous posts but I'm tired of it and now my feed looks so much better without them   

I'll have to remind myself to periodically go check their pages in the rare case that they post something actually worth reading.  Learned that the hard way when I "hid" a former coworker and didn't know about her pending divorce when I saw her at the grocery store and asked about her husband.  AWKWARD!!  

There is also an uncle I have that only posts religious quotes and sayings. I set my FB to not see his posts anymore, but then my aunt (his SIL) "shares" them so I see them anyway. sigh...

I need to go through and hide a lot more people.

katiebenes

sugarkissed said:

I gave DH a huge guilt trip this morning.  I took mat leave early because I'm a flight attendant, but I feel like since I'm no longer working he sees it as though I need to constantly be doing something to keep busy. Every day he gives me a huge list of things to get accomplished and I quite frankly just want to sit on my butt and do none of it. I finally lost it this morning, and maybe overreacted a little bit... I feel bad but don't plan on apologizing until he is home from work.   

yeah, I wouldn't apologize even when he gets home... I would not be okay with being given a task list. I'd feel like a servant.

Babybabybabyohhhhhhh

I secretly like Miley Cyrus' We Can't Stop. I turn it up when it comes on the radio and sing along to it... I look forward to it being played. I think the music video is disgusting but I am drawn to it and have watched it several times.

puppyciao23

andjess11 said:

I'm late here, since it's like almost 2am Saturday, but I'm posting anyways. I'm starting to get sadden by the idea that I'm about to lose so much of my time alone with my husband. This is our first and I feel like our whole life is about to get turned upside down. I can't help but thinking maybe we should've waited longer so we could have more time together. And then I feel guilty for feeling this way. Because I already love this baby so much. I can't wait to meet him and get to know his little personality. And then the hormone induced crying cycle begins. It's like I'm a bad mom before I even give birth.

I feel exactly the same way. We had 7 weeks after my husband got back from deployment, and as soon as we bought our house I got pregnant. I'm happy about the baby but I've definitely had a few "is this too soon?" meltdowns.