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katiebenes

FLAME FREE FRIDAY CONFESSION.

Yeah. I decided to use an edit we printed poster sized for my Dad this father's day instead of a gif. Meet my awesome Dad. 

katiebenes

My confessions: 

I know I'm getting territorial over all things baby in my last month and I am okay with that. They are my twins after all and barring two families that I rarely talk to anymore (not counting my online MoMs and the twins club): no one has twins... so no one really will get to tell me how "easy" it is or "hard" it is. 

I seriously love the help I'm getting "finishing up" getting ready but I just want to sit on my ass and relax til the babies come. Is one weekend alone with my hubbers too much to ask?

I hate that my Mom is constantly bragging about my "easy pregnancy." Yeah... I guess its been complication free and I didn't puke much but I'm in pain, I'm tired, and I want to not feel like I'm being a baby for being bothered by these things... because they suck...

HBirdie

Starting early! It's barely after midnight here!

My confession: Sometimes I sleep in late, get up and laze around for hours on the computer/my iPad, stay in my PJ's... then in the 4:00 hour, I get dressed, I straighten the house, I open all the curtains and windows... just so my DH doesn't know I was lazy all day. When he asks what I've done, I'm fairly vague and then ask how his day was. It's not every day, and I never lie to him, but I'm still ashamed of myself.

LBib

EDD is 9/1 at my last appointment I was told that I'm beginning to 'soften'. We haven't washed the newborn clothes, DS is still sleeping in the converted crib to toddler bed and needs to be kicked out to a bigger big boy bed, the gear has been taken down from the garage but not washed, our names lists (team green) still hasn't been reduced past 4 girl and 5 boy names, and the only new things I've bought for this LO possible going home outfits. Second kids are so different!

katiebenes

HBirdie said:

Starting early! It's barely after midnight here!

My confession: Sometimes I sleep in late, get up and laze around for hours on the computer/my iPad, stay in my PJ's... then in the 4:00 hour, I get dressed, I straighten the house, I open all the curtains and windows... just so my DH doesn't know I was lazy all day. When he asks what I've done, I'm fairly vague and then ask how his day was. It's not every day, and I never lie to him, but I'm still ashamed of myself.

I posted it at 1:38 according to the bump... I thought it was 12:30 lol. I'm in Chicago

Curls218

Mine's more of an amusing/embarrassing moment than a confession but yesterday I went to BuyBuyBaby with my BFF to buy my glider. The one I picked reclines all the way back to a sleeping position. My friend was elsewhere in the store when I tried the chair out. Yeah, I definitely had to call for help getting out of the chair. They should put a warning sign on those things "do not try if super pregnant and awkward".

tittytwistertortoises

I had a double scoop of chocolate malted crunch and black cherry ice cream for dinner last night and then around 9 I made myself some microwave nachos.

happybride 276

I feel guilty even saying this. I am so tired, swollen, and mean at work that I wish my doctor would put me on Modified bed rest. I am honestly so mean this week I have wondered if I will get fired, but my boss "blames it on my hormones", which really pisses me off. I just need to have a break from work so I can like my job again. Just to be clear I in no way, shape, or form hope something is wrong with my son or my pregnancy, and I am not trying to make light of bed rest. I just have no idea how else I can get away from the immense stress of work and still get paid.

kennazebrowsky

We avoided telling the majority of the people we know about getting admitted into the hospital because we knew they would blow my phone up and come bother me at the hospital.

Now that I'm home I'm probably still going to keep it on the down-low because its hard to get rest when people want to visit you or bother you.

xxpairofmedicsxx

I've not eaten very well at all this pregnancy. I would say 65% of it has been junk food (fast food or eating out) for the most part. For having only gained approx 35lbs in 33 weeks, I would be curious to see what the scale said had I eaten what I was supposed to and not what I wanted.

katiebenes

I didn't even attempt closed toe shoes today. they're in my bag. but I just... ignored dress code and pretended my feet got swollen (they started that way)

michelle7482

HBirdie said:

Starting early! It's barely after midnight here!

My confession: Sometimes I sleep in late, get up and laze around for hours on the computer/my iPad, stay in my PJ's... then in the 4:00 hour, I get dressed, I straighten the house, I open all the curtains and windows... just so my DH doesn't know I was lazy all day. When he asks what I've done, I'm fairly vague and then ask how his day was. It's not every day, and I never lie to him, but I'm still ashamed of myself.

I did this my first pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant in the summer, and I was a teacher so I was off and literally did not get off the couch until 4 pm. Then it was a sprint to shower, get dressed, and cook dinner before DH got home lol.

martinsgirls

I confess I am getting super annoyed with my MIL. We asked DH's side to get the tdap shot (everyone on my side already got it when my nephew was born) and she is still kind of resisting.

We offered to even pay for it if her insurance didn't cover it.

WTF-You are probably due for a booster anyway!

Just know you won't be holding your grandson in the hospital if you don't get it...

curlyq625

I do nothing after dinner, I mean nothing unless it involves getting ice cream out of the freezer. The plates and pans stay in the sink until the next morning. It's just me and DS, my husband works late so there's noone to help me. I do it all in the morning when I wake up. This bothers me because I feel like the sign of a dirty house is dirty dishes in the sink... I do have a dish washer which makes it even worse.

bookworm982

LBib said:

EDD is 9/1 at my last appointment I was told that I'm beginning to 'soften'. We haven't washed the newborn clothes, DS is still sleeping in the converted crib to toddler bed and needs to be kicked out to a bigger big boy bed, the gear has been taken down from the garage but not washed, our names lists (team green) still hasn't been reduced past 4 girl and 5 boy names, and the only new things I've bought for this LO possible going home outfits. Second kids are so different!

We have a name, but aren't doing much better otherwise. The second crib we are getting is still at a friends house, clothes are still in boxes, DS's quilt isn't even started, I don't have a coming home outfit, none of the gear is washed, etc. With DD I wanted everything ready weeks in advance. This time I'm saying "I still have a month." Poor second baby!

ajbook

DH is going golfing with the guys this morning and I am practically pushing him out the door. He isn't annoying me I just really want the few hours to myself. I know come next week when football season starts I'll be begging for time with him, but today I'm ready for just me time.

Kristonita12

martinsgirls said:

I confess I am getting super annoyed with my MIL. We asked DH's side to get the tdap shot (everyone on my side already got it when my nephew was born) and she is still kind of resisting. We offered to even pay for it if her insurance didn't cover it. WTF-You are probably due for a booster anyway! Just know you won't be holding your grandson in the hospital if you don't get it...

Mine did this, too! My FIL even went as far as to say he wasn't comfortable getting it because his doctor said it was "only for 6 year olds" and had never heard of this practice. I just told him that a) we can't force him to get a vaccination he doesn't feel comfortable with but that we do have choices about our child and disregarding our doctor's recommendations isn't one of the choices we're willing to make, and b) perhaps he should find a doctor who is more up to date on medical best practices. So annoying.

Zmommy2

tittytwistertortoises said:

I had a double scoop of chocolate malted crunch and black cherry ice cream for dinner last night and then around 9 I made myself some microwave nachos.

That sounds amazing!

EllaBelle2010

martinsgirls said:

I confess I am getting super annoyed with my MIL. We asked DH's side to get the tdap shot (everyone on my side already got it when my nephew was born) and she is still kind of resisting. 

We're having this issue with my MIL as well. FIL is fine with it. When we were talking to her about it her response was, "why would I want to do that?" I just said so you don't kill your grandson. I know my response was a little overdramatic but I have little tolerance for those that annoy me right now.

My confession is this: I'll be 34 weeks on Sunday and I've gained about 30lbs. Not too bad in my opinion. However, my doctor stresses me out about my weight at every single appointment. I have no health issues whatsoever. I was maybe 10 lbs over my ideal weight when I got pregnant but still within a healthy range . So there's no medical concern, its just one of his areas of focus. So the day before my appointment I eat nothing but fruit and drink tons of water to try and flush out my system so I don't get lectured. 

Jilly82

Sometimes I have to fake smile at the dr when she listens to the heartbeat and looks at me for so,e reaction. I feel like I have to be excited or something but I generally fake an "aw" and a smile. I feel him everyday so I know he's ok, the heartbeat just doesn't excite me anymore

Surfergirl013

I don't know if this is a confession or a vent..probably just a vent...I am not going to miss throwing up/gagging every morning.....I am so over it...

MegStark

Ajboocher said:

DH is going golfing with the guys this morning and I am practically pushing him out the door. He isn't annoying me I just really want the few hours to myself. I know come next week when football season starts I'll be begging for time with him, but today I'm ready for just me time.

I confess, my husband golfs at least once a week and I pretend sometimes that it annoys me that he doesn't want to hang out (I would normally go golf with him but it's been hot and I feel like an idiot at this point trying to bend down to tee up the ball)... but really I secretly love it when he goes, and I get alone time/organize the nursery and shampoo carpets.

strlitemiss

After my appointment yesterday., I'm refusing to step foot on the scale until delivery and stop letting food consume my life.

JocelynB0911

I am getting super annoyed with my ILs telling me to "keep those babies in" and giving me suggestions on how not to dilate while on bedrest. Yeah, no. The only time I am allowed to get up is to go to the bathroom and to take a quick shower. Guess what? Still dilating people! They make it as if I have a choice in whats going on.

wlux

I haven't had the urge to nest at all. I don't want to cook or clean or set up the nursery. I just want to take a nap.

ajbook

Lealyn2585 said:

I am excited to have my baby and do not want her to be born before term, but I am ready for my body back. DH has not said anything but I know it freaks him out and ourrelationship shows it. I just want to feel like me again....and knowing I want 3 kids means I have to go through this 2 more time :-/

Me too!! I HATE feeling my belly touch my legs when I sit and I miss having the desire to put on clothes and try to look cute. I know it's all well worth it, but I am soooo looking forward to working towards my former body

stephl3055

I'm not telling anyone other than my H and my mom that I have GD.  I just think most people hear "diabetes" and automatically assume I sit around eating ice cream all day and don't exercise.  They don't realize it's something I can't help.  I don't need or want the comments or negative thoughts, and I don't want to constantly try to explain it to people. 

I could tell my grandmother having GD is not my fault all day long and I know she wouldn't believe me.  She told me gaining 25 pounds during pregnancy was too much (I haven't even gained that much), and that it would be too hard for me to lose.  So yeah, I'm not opening that can of worms with her. 

Zoly1103

whitneylux said:

I haven't had the urge to nest at all. I don't want to cook or clean or set up the nursery. I just want to take a nap.

I am here as well. Doing even basic tasks makes my back hurt. But I really want the house to be clean when we come home from the hospital. We are talking about throwing money at the situation and having someone else come clean.

I suppose the flameful part of this is that it makes me feel smug because one of my co-workers kept telling me over and over about the crazy that is nesting and how I would have the crazy eventually as well. It really irritates me when people tell me how I'm going to feel.

kissamary

My baby brain is getting so bad that I am becoming an epic liar.  

Last week I accidentally went to the wrong side of a square building and walked into a Papa Murphy's instead of Subway.  I must have had the "this isn't Subway" look on my face because the guy said, "Hi!  Are you looking for Subway?"  I told him I wanted pizza, but since they didn't have precooked cookies for my friend I was going to go to Subway.  LIES!  

Yesterday I took my car to get the oil changed at the dealership and when I pulled it in I noticed it looked a little different, but I chalked it up to me having not been there for months.  I am having a nice conversation with the guy when he realizes I have no appointment.  Then I see the big "Ford" sign.  Totally meant to go to the next driveway at the Dodge dealership.  Eff.  I told him they had very similar shops.  Mild LIES!  He assured me it happens all the time, the only difference being I wasn't yelling at him like most people.

Mama3+1

I've been a total nympho in the last two weeks. We have three other kids so its taken on quite a lot of effort to not only get away but to find a position say, in the closet. Yesterday we were ah hem, together, four times before 2pm working on getting these thighs back to prepregnancy shape LOL

sugarkissed

I'm eating cheesecake for breakfast. Rolo cheesecake if we're being specific.   

redfallon

I'm sitting on the couch in my robe. I haven't showered today and didn't yesterday. I did brush my teeth today. I have a list of things I need/want to do, and don't want to get up and do any of them. Put me in the "don't want to do anything until 4pm" club.

ksf13

My family is coming to visit for the weekend and I have barely cleaned the house at all to prepare for their visit. It's decent, but the floors could definitely use a good sweeping and I could always clean the bathrooms. I honestly don't know if I will though haha.

msronzio

@katiebenes I love the poster! Someone is awesome at photoshop. My family is huge into HD and did you mention you're from Chicago?? So are they, lol! Suburbs Tinley Park & Joliet to be exact.

I don't even know where to begin with a confession, because it seems like everyone else's could totally be mine. I sleep in due to getting up nearly four times through the night, wear a t-shirt and no bra all day, and barely do anything. I get nesting urges, and then I whisk them away. I'd be ashamed if our friends and family saw me this way but I too do NOT get dressed unless I absolutely have to. Getting dressed and looking presentable is a chore, walking down the stairs from the apartment is a chore, getting in and out of the car is a chore, and I have no interest in doing any of it.

Have no appetite but when I do I eat horribly? Check. Bitchy at people and realize it but totally do nothing about it? Check. I guess if I had to pick a confession it would be that I looked at the dishes in the sink this morning, looked in the messy unorganized closet, looked at the laundry piling up, and decided I was too overwhelmed to start and sat down with a glass of milk on TB. Horrible!!!

jjkaye

I just decided to treat myself to all new, expensive makeup. I figure we'll be photographed with the baby coming up here pretty soon and since I know I'm not going to be feeling great about my body, I'd treat myself to some fun new makeup. To the tune of $200. OOPS!  

katiebenes

msronzio said:

@katiebenes I love the poster! Someone is awesome at photoshop. My family is huge into HD and did you mention you're from Chicago?? So are they, lol! Suburbs Tinley Park & Joliet to be exact.

I don't even know where to begin with a confession, because it seems like everyone else's could totally be mine. I sleep in due to getting up nearly four times through the night, wear a t-shirt and no bra all day, and barely do anything. I get nesting urges, and then I whisk them away. I'd be ashamed if our friends and family saw me this way but I too do NOT get dressed unless I absolutely have to. Getting dressed and looking presentable is a chore, walking down the stairs from the apartment is a chore, getting in and out of the car is a chore, and I have no interest in doing any of it.

Have no appetite but when I do I eat horribly? Check. Bitchy at people and realize it but totally do nothing about it? Check. I guess if I had to pick a confession it would be that I looked at the dishes in the sink this morning, looked in the messy unorganized closet, looked at the laundry piling up, and decided I was too overwhelmed to start and sat down with a glass of milk on TB. Horrible!!!

that's me. I love editing, but I'm not as good as I want to be.
I'm not too far from there. I love Tinley Park for their Irish stuff!!!

amy11401

Lealyn2585 said:

I am excited to have my baby and do not want her to be born before term, but I am ready for my body back. DH has not said anything but I know it freaks him out and ourrelationship shows it. I just want to feel like me again....and knowing I want 3 kids means I have to go through this 2 more time :-/

I don't mind being pregnant at all.  But I know that the baby moving inside me, etc freaks out DH.....he has actually told me!  When we are laying in bed at night and the baby kicks him in the back or he feels him moving, he scoots away some.

sugarkissed

I gave DH a huge guilt trip this morning.  I took mat leave early because I'm a flight attendant, but I feel like since I'm no longer working he sees it as though I need to constantly be doing something to keep busy. Every day he gives me a huge list of things to get accomplished and I quite frankly just want to sit on my butt and do none of it. I finally lost it this morning, and maybe overreacted a little bit... I feel bad but don't plan on apologizing until he is home from work.   

redfallon

sugarkissed said:

I gave DH a huge guilt trip this morning.  I took mat leave early because I'm a flight attendant, but I feel like since I'm no longer working he sees it as though I need to constantly be doing something to keep busy. Every day he gives me a huge list of things to get accomplished and I quite frankly just want to sit on my butt and do none of it. I finally lost it this morning, and maybe overreacted a little bit... I feel bad but don't plan on apologizing until he is home from work.   

My DH is the same way. He doesn't give me a big list of things to do every day, but he would like to see a big list of things done every day.

Here I am sitting on the couch in my robe. I haven't even taken a shower yet, although I plan on taking one today. Didn't take one yesterday.

One thing is that I've told him to not expect a lot of things to get done when the baby gets here - not for the first few weeks. I'm going to be spending the majority of my time BF'ing her, and will be really tired. And I told him that the first (or maybe second) time he complains about something not being done when he gets home, I'm leaving him with the baby for a couple of days and going alone to his mom's house or something.

llybeck

My future MIL (who I absolutely ADORE) is insisting on coming over to help me clean. I don't need help cleaning, I have already told her several times that I will ask if I need help but I am still able to get around and don't need anything right now. Her daughter was much more, for lack of a better word, "needy" and begged her to come over almost daily to clean and do things for her. I am not anything like that and I don't like people cleaning my house.

It bugs the freaking hell out of me that she keeps pushing it and now she told my finance that she is just going to come over when I'm not there and clean so I can't stop her. WTF, my house is very clean, it doesn't even need to be straightened up! I appreciate the offer and I would ask if I needed it but this is SO and my house, not hers. I would be furious if my mom did this to me without me agreeing to it, it's very strange to me.

Now when the baby comes or if I am close to the end and physically can't clean, I will absolutely ask and accept help. But at this point, I just want her to stay out of my business and let me keep taking care of it.

VitaLuna

I feel awful even saying this, but like happybride, I really wish my midwife would pull me out of work (not on bedrest, just take me out of work). I can hardly walk by the end of the day, and I'm in so much pain when I get home that it takes at least a day or two for me to get back to a point that I'm not hurting every time I stand up. (I work 12-14hr days on my feet, with lots of bending, lifting heavy patients, twisting, squatting, etc). The joints in my hands are so painful it's hard for me to open medication packaging or grip anything, and my pregnant brain is fried so I sound like an idiot talking to people sometimes. Not to mention the combative little old ladies that have hit my belly. I can always take myself out of work, but then it cuts into my 12wks of leave and I don't get paid. If I'm pulled out for a medical reason, it is in addition to my leave and I get STD. So, for now, I'll just be miserable and whine to you all.