Time needs to slow down

alilovesmatt08

I'm sure many of you can agree that these sweet babies grow up way too fast! My son is three now and my baby girl will be 14 weeks tomorrow. I know we're done having kids. My husband is 110% done and I am 99% done. We have our boy. We have our girl. We only wanted two. It just makes sense. I can't help but feel sad as my daughter reaches new milestones. I love seeing her grow but hate knowing these are the last times I will experience many things. I loved being pregnant, loved labor and delivery, although I could have done without the postpartum depression. Anyways, it might sound weird but I feel like I am mourning a loss. The stage of having babies is totally over and that's hard to swallow. I try to take in every minute and not miss a thing. But I can't help but be sad. I try not to dwell on them growing, but sometimes that is hard. Anyone else experiencing these feelings? How do you deal with them?

mhchaela

I totally agree! I can't believe my baby boy will be 4 mos next week. I had a rough time with baby blues at the beginning but I miss him being brand new too. I'm taking tons of pictures so we can always look back at his babyhood.

alilovesmatt08

I do the same thing! I have a million pictures of them. My husband gets annoyed that I always have my camera out, but someday he'll be glad I did!

CrazyMary77

I think it's very common. My LO is growing way too fast. She's already the size of a 9-month-old, which I think makes it even harder. We are planning to have one more, so hopefully we have another baby to look forward to. As hard as it has been at times for me, I know I'm going to miss having a baby around once both our kids get older. For now, I hug, squeeze and kiss her as much as I can while she still tolerates it!

MrsG071809

I feel the same way..DD has recently started sitting up and it makes her seem so much older!  I love seeing her grow but I already miss her being tiny.  But at the same time I'm trying really hard to live in the moment and not dwell on the past or focus on the future.  Hard to do, but I'm trying.  lately I have been taking random videos along with the pictures...they aren't very exciting videos, just her babbling or playing, but I feel like I want to remember exactly how she was at this age, so why not have a couple video snippets to look back on to remember her laugh, her little voice, and her mannerisms.

I have always been in the one and done camp, but this feeling is almost enough to make me want another one...

alilovesmatt08

Good to know I'm not alone! I try to take in everything. Good advice to live in the moment. I definitely dwell too much on the past. Sometimes it helps to think about the future and the fun times to come. I know there will be many! It is just hard to imagine not going through all these stages again especially the precious newborn ones. I must say I am a crazy picture lady! I take millions of pictures and have started to try to take more video. I also try to keep in mind how blessed I am to even have my babies

alilovesmatt08

Very true! I try to keep in mind that I have gotten through the rough times of pp depression (mainly) and I know it would happen again. And like you said, no matter how many kids you have you'd still have to face being done sometime (unless you're the duggars!)

alilovesmatt08

Very true! I try to keep in mind that I have gotten through the rough times of pp depression (mainly) and I know it would happen again. And like you said, no matter how many kids you have you'd still have to face being done sometime (unless you're the duggars!)