Post count/drive by's

rooftop

MellyLuc said:

Who would decide who gets one? I joined in December when I got my BFP and I have been contributing since. I feel like I am an active daily poster and have gotten to know who the regulars are and the lurkers/drive-bys. What I wonder is if the other regulars view me as a regular as well. I would hope so. 

I totally wonder this. I don't post daily but I certainly try to contribute every 2 or 3 days. But I also tend to think of myself as not very memorable. I guess it comes from being a quiet person in real life.

MrsBlindLove

I just post where I can/want to contribute and don't care too much about who started it. However, that's just how I roll and can't speak for/don't care what others do.

kmr333

rooftop said:

I'm a FTM and often slip back into lurker mode because I'm not naturally a very vocal person in large groups but there's always SOMETHING each person can contribute.

Me, too.  Usually by the time I get around to reading the posts, someone has usually already said what would say, so I don't want to be redundant.  The new "love it" button is good, but we could use a "ditto" button, too.  For instance, if someone said, "I am so constipated!" the "love it" button isn't quite appropriate. 

I wouldn't post my birth story (maybe partly because I'm not a regular) unless I thought some of the info might be helpful or incredibly funny to people.  I'm actually hoping my birth story is really boring and drama-free!

Soleil3

Kristin030 said:

@AACaHa13 and @hermanswife I recognize you ladies, this topic isnt directed at you

Adds @Hhaber to list. 

Ladydianna said:

I hate the new format on iPad

You have to click the little <> on a little page button, it puts it into normal format instead of html.

PrimRoseMama

Kmartin75 said: Damn...I feel like I'm in high school with all the drama and opinions flying around. Sounds to me like all the "contributors" who "know each other" don't have much else going on in their lives but their pregnancies and are being jerks....since we're sharing ya know. Get over yourselves I get on here about once a week to see what others are going through and get a laugh out of the validation that some need. Call me a "lurker" if you want. There is me being a jerk right back at you. Best of luck ladies

Wait wait, do you actually know how to make friends? Because this is not the way to do it.

No one is saying that lurkers can't get into the groove and participate. Simply that its annoying that we are all the sudden suppose to care about them when they haven't taken the time to care about anyone else but themselves and their experiences. Know what I mean? It takes a friend to be a friend. Drive bys and lurkers don't care to involve themselves in the community so they can't be surprised when no fucks are given about their birth stories or babies. Right?

Using the "I'm so busy" or "FTM" excuse is lame. Period. Everyone is busy. Everyone has a life full of activities, loved ones, hobbies and things that make their world go round. What you have said here is far more in the jerk realm than anything anyone has said before this. So I mean, if you get off on being a jerk then more power to you. Not only are you proving that you are down with acting like a self-centered person who doesn't care about anyone else in the community, but you've also proven that you just want to pop up to act like a jerk. So I mean, it says waaaaay more about you than it does about anyone that is active, supportive and nice to folks here. 

Methinks that you are better suited to lurking if this is the way you want to express yourself. I really think you need to brush up on your people skills. Just sayin'...

Soleil3

lorow0715 said:

Thanks for the continued entertainment ladies. I guess I would consider myself a semi active contributor so please don't gif me when I post my birth story.

*starts collecting gifs specifically for Loro's birth story*

tanabeans

adamnkel said:

I think it would be difficult to decide who gets one. I have been on the board since December and have replied to posts but only created a couple. I doubt anyone recognizes me but I'm sure there are others in my situation.

I recognize other peoples avatars or screen names but i remember the siggies the most. I doubt most of you recognize me though, i have been active since december but i only have like 300 posts. I never made a siggy because 1) I am not tech savy at all it took me like 2 months to change my avatar, and 2) Im too lazy to figure it out.

PrimRoseMama

Lol I'm willing to bet you all aren't this mean in person

---

So far the only person I see being anything close to mean is you.

coraggiosa

She'sGotAWay said:

Kristin030 said:

This. I said a long time ago, I welcome new posters, even now. BUT if your post is strictly using me as google or "first post, here is my baby" Im not going to respond. Thats the whole point I think the other "regs" were trying to make. I dont want to stop people from posting, just saying its annoying when the first post is a birth announcement and the poster is shocked that no one cares.

Yep. I am more semi-regular than really regular; teaching high school is too busy to post too much for me, so summer has become my time to participate more on the boards. I am fine with people joining in whenever as long as they actually participate. :-)

I totally agree with this. I don't mind new people, but I do get annoyed at drive-bys and people who use us as Google. If people do an intro and stick around, I certainly don't mind. 

TurtleMomma

@Prim Did J13 have this problem, too? How did you guys handle it? (Not to say I don't think you're a part of this board)

PrimRoseMama

TurtleMomma said:

@Prim Did J13 have this problem, too? How did you guys handle it? (Not to say I don't think you're a part of this board)

No worries. Yes, we had this problem. We flamed the shit out of them until everyone had babies. Now there is a lot of rainbow sharts and stuff. I think with the new format people are wary to snark in case its a regular. I've pretty much given up snarking drive bys because frankly it doesn't matter. Now if they get uppity or bitchy with the regulars straight off the bat then yeah, I'll bust out some snark and flame them. GIF threads were also common. 

I think the most I do now is a good "who are you?" or "can I help you?". I've even gotten one drive by to flip the heck out on me for saying, "I'm sorry, but I don't know how to answer your question. It doesn't make much sense." That was the truth. Her post was incoherent and she flipped shit on me and DD'd. 

Soleil3

I don't think anyone here has a problem with new blood. The problem lies in the "I'm going to use you as google and then call you all meanies when you ignore me" people.

PrimRoseMama

I lurk here frequently and "know" (internet know) a lot of the regulars. However, I am more wary to flame someone for a drive-by on August only because I feel that I am a newcomer (sort of) and I might fuck up. So, I share the August Regulars annoyance for drive bys from my own July 13 experience. However, rarely will I join in the snarking (unless its a GIF party!) on August 13' unless shit goes down (like in this thread) and some newbie/driveby/AE is getting nasty. Then well, I'll open the can 'o whoop ass and let the GIF's fly. 

Entertainment yo. Entertainment.

henderson1026

rfrazier611 said:

So... how DOES one get on the google doc?  I must have missed that somewhere.

through a series of super-secret handshakes passwords.  Or you can just PM me.

WheeLinTheSky3

PrimRoseMama said:

I lurk here frequently and "know" (internet know) a lot of the regulars. However, I am more wary to flame someone for a drive-by on August only because I feel that I am a newcomer (sort of) and I might fuck up. So, I share the August Regulars annoyance for drive bys from my own July 13 experience. However, rarely will I join in the snarking (unless its a GIF party!) on August 13' unless shit goes down (like in this thread) and some newbie/driveby/AE is getting nasty. Then well, I'll open the can 'o whoop ass and let the GIF's fly. 

Entertainment yo. Entertainment.

your posts are usually the most thought out and make the most sense so IMHO you should snark away on here as much as you want. Especially now that your baby is officially an August baby.

BelhurstBride

Soleil3 said:

I don't think anyone here has a problem with new blood. The problem lies in the "I'm going to use you as google and then call you all meanies when you ignore me" people.

The best part of ignoring them? Didn't know they were calling me mean! 

DaisyMaeMommy

I am seriously enjoying reading all of this!

I like to lurk and post... Some days I can post regularly and contribute, others I'm just too tired to form complete sentences so posting anything would just be a waste because I'd probably spell everything wrong, have horrible grammar, and basically just give everyone a headache!

But come on... A badge for regulars? Who would decide who was a regular or not? And somehow or someway, everyone (even non-regulars) would end up with that badge just for the hell of it.

tanabeans

Ha I finally got to the end! Just wanted to share my excitement. I will now get back to work for fear of being fired for misuse of gov. resources!

rfrazier611

henderson1026 said:

rfrazier611 said:

So... how DOES one get on the google doc?  I must have missed that somewhere.

through a series of super-secret handshakes passwords.  Or you can just PM me.

Hot damn!  YGPM

sdegrootmom3

rooftop said:

MellyLuc said:

Who would decide who gets one? I joined in December when I got my BFP and I have been contributing since. I feel like I am an active daily poster and have gotten to know who the regulars are and the lurkers/drive-bys. What I wonder is if the other regulars view me as a regular as well. I would hope so. 

I totally wonder this. I don't post daily but I certainly try to contribute every 2 or 3 days. But I also tend to think of myself as not very memorable. I guess it comes from being a quiet person in real life.

Same here, it's hard to know if you are regular enough to post something and not get all sorts of "who are you" GIFs. Although the GIFs in general are great. I laugh so hard at my desk my boss looks at me funny. I do agree with OP though if you are on here enough you start to just know who the regulars are.

Edit: I have no idea how this double posted the way it did. Weird.

Smom901316

We all know who the regulars are and who had kept the board going and who has provided a bulk of the advice... I am not one of those ladies. Although I have not been lurking since December either. I found the forum within the last couple of months and have tried to contribute a few times a week. I think you regular ladies have our respect and recognition regardless of stickers or badges. I am fully aware that my name is not known enough to post a birth story when that time comes, I am just excited to see all of the ladies welcome their LOs.

girlmama83

SDeGroot said:

rooftop said:

MellyLuc said:

Who would decide who gets one? I joined in December when I got my BFP and I have been contributing since. I feel like I am an active daily poster and have gotten to know who the regulars are and the lurkers/drive-bys. What I wonder is if the other regulars view me as a regular as well. I would hope so. 

I totally wonder this. I don't post daily but I certainly try to contribute every 2 or 3 days. But I also tend to think of myself as not very memorable. I guess it comes from being a quiet person in real life.

Same here, it's hard to know if you are regular enough to post something and not get all sorts of "who are you" GIFs. Although the GIFs in general are great. I laugh so hard at my desk my boss looks at me funny. I do agree with OP though if you are on here enough you start to just know who the regulars are.

Edit: I have no idea how this double posted the way it did. Weird.

It's really not. If you have to question it, you probably aren't that active of a member.

mochalattemama

Theusualmischief said:

Chrismarisa05 said:

Lol just get your badge if it makes you feel that much better.

Have you ever heard the phrase "don't poke a sleeping bear?"

Aw snap! 

himymlover

I feel bad because I mainly post over on the Sept board (due Sept 1st), but I really have lurked here awhile and intro'd back in either Dec or Jan. I didn't spend a ton of time posting, but now that the dr's have taken me out of work I have more time to bump They are thinking that I may go early based on the way my pregnancy has been going, so I probably will try to post more over on this board. I promise I won't just be a drive by.

girlmama83

himymlover said:

I feel bad because I mainly post over on the Sept board (due Sept 1st), but I really have lurked here awhile and intro'd back in either Dec or Jan. I didn't spend a ton of time posting, but now that the dr's have taken me out of work I have more time to bump They are thinking that I may go early based on the way my pregnancy has been going, so I probably will try to post more over on this board. I promise I won't just be a drive by.

I remember you!

himymlover

lindsey61811 said:

himymlover said:

I feel bad because I mainly post over on the Sept board (due Sept 1st), but I really have lurked here awhile and intro'd back in either Dec or Jan. I didn't spend a ton of time posting, but now that the dr's have taken me out of work I have more time to bump They are thinking that I may go early based on the way my pregnancy has been going, so I probably will try to post more over on this board. I promise I won't just be a drive by.

I remember you!

I was hoping someone would It makes my post at least a little more believable then.

magdalina.h

All of y'all better know me ;-)

sparks4stp

Wow....I think this is the longest thread I have ever seen on here. I've been a lurker all along but have tried posting more and more in the past couple of months. Now that I'm off work I have more time to spend on here and contribute  And I talk to my DH all the time about things from the Aug 13 board so it's a pretty substantial part of my life now. Haha 

Definitely a great source of information and entertainment!! 

CourtJack

well, I've been a mobile Bump creep for a while now and didn't feel right trying to jump in on a board that was already so well established. I very recently (like two days ago) started posting on the more transient boards, as that seemed more appropriate. But reading this thread, I decided to just jump in.

However, I'm hoping that as everyone transitions into the new mommy phase that I could slowly integrate into the community. I'm an experienced birth board contributor (first son born sept 07 and our board still going strong). So I hope my contributions will be useful and eventually I look forward to being considered part of the community.

henderson1026

banging my head on the steering wheel over the latest birth story. don't worry, I'm parked

CaliforniaDream87

msspeedymarie said:

henderson1026 said:

banging my head on the steering wheel over the latest birth story. don't worry, I'm parked

Ok, it's not just me? I've never seen that poster before.

ETA: Oh, because she's never posted in Aug13 and her last post on the Bump was in February.


True definition of a drive by...

shelbell1028

SarahKate31 said:

I'm not a reg on this board but I consider myself an occasional poster and I have posted since the beginning. I recognize who the regs are - I don't think you need a badge.

I do think the newbies coming out of the woodwork this late is a little odd. But on my other BMB (June 11) the board changed a lot after our babies were born so maybe that will happen here too, who knows.

Agreed. DD's BMB changed a lot after everyone had outside babies. Drive bys became much less frequent. Hopefully the same will happen with August '13.

amarissa85

CaliforniaDream87 said:

msspeedymarie said:

henderson1026 said:

banging my head on the steering wheel over the latest birth story. don't worry, I'm parked

Ok, it's not just me? I've never seen that poster before.

ETA: Oh, because she's never posted in Aug13 and her last post on the Bump was in February.

True definition of a drive by...


Pretty safe to say July doesn't want her either then.

LokiLahve

I've been out of the loop and apparently missed some drama! I'm late to this party as usual but this is just my 2 cents...newbies who want to be a part of this board pay attention. Idk if I'm considered a reg...at least a semi reg I would say. I haven't been posting since December. I lurked OCCASIONALLY for months but never enough to know who the regs were or what the social norms were for the community. I don't think I started posting until feb or march. I don't remember if I did an Intro...I'm leaning towards no. I just started replying here and there where I thought I could add value. It was awhile before I posted my own thread I think and it was a stupid question and I got flamed. I think I even DD'd not knowing that would piss everyone off. I didn't see the need to get butt hurt over Internet strangers at that point...and I wasn't going anywhere bc this was the most informational place I had found as a FTM. I kept posting and replying and over time I like to think it established me as a contributor to the community. If you want to be a part....just start contributing and stop whining if someone doesn't agree with you. It's their right in a public forum to do so and it's your right to not listen to their opinions if you don't want to. I've never been active on a public forum before the bump so there was a learning curve for me. I imagine a lot of ftm's find this board the same way I did hence the drive bye of randoms. Some of them probably have no clue there is a group of regulars who know each other....I didn't. They just know there are others due in August on this board probably sharing their experiences. I get annoyed with the same posts over and over, but I just choose to ignore them 95% of the time. You will never stop newbies from coming on and posting ignorantly on what regulars consider to be taboo. My prediction: as we get close to the end we will have more and more drive bys...some will be lurkers wanting their 15 minutes of fame. They are in fact having a baby and probably over the moon excited just like we are. Maybe they didn't contribute, but I'm sure they got great insight from this board along the way and feel some sort of comeradery even if they seem like strangers to the regs. Some will be new members to the bump who joined in the end out of curiosity and maybe anxiety about the final changes their bodies are facing in the last few weeks before LO arrives. They have no clue we do to want to hear about their mucus plug. Regs can choose to ignore these posts or reply with snark....neither will make the posts go away. As we all get our precious babies in our arms the randoms will die down, some regulars may even fade away and there will be a core group of ladies left. I summary to my freakin novel above: Newbies/lurkers who want to be a part - TALK THE TALK regulars who are annoyed - choose to ignore it or gif bomb if it brings you enjoyment Everyone - best wishes with your last few weeks

CaliforniaDream87

Stephw32 said:

I've been out of the loop and apparently missed some drama! I'm late to this party as usual but this is just my 2 cents...newbies who want to be a part of this board pay attention.

Idk if I'm considered a reg...at least a semi reg I would say. I haven't been posting since December. I lurked OCCASIONALLY for months but never enough to know who the regs were or what the social norms were for the community. I don't think I started posting until feb or march. I don't remember if I did an Intro...I'm leaning towards no. I just started replying here and there where I thought I could add value. It was awhile before I posted my own thread I think and it was a stupid question and I got flamed. I think I even DD'd not knowing that would piss everyone off. I didn't see the need to get butt hurt over Internet strangers at that point...and I wasn't going anywhere bc this was the most informational place I had found as a FTM. I kept posting and replying and over time I like to think it established me as a contributor to the community. If you want to be a part....just start contributing and stop whining if someone doesn't agree with you. It's their right in a public forum to do so and it's your right to not listen to their opinions if you don't want to.

I've never been active on a public forum before the bump so there was a learning curve for me. I imagine a lot of ftm's find this board the same way I did hence the drive bye of randoms. Some of them probably have no clue there is a group of regulars who know each other....I didn't. They just know there are others due in August on this board probably sharing their experiences. I get annoyed with the same posts over and over, but I just choose to ignore them 95% of the time. You will never stop newbies from coming on and posting ignorantly on what regulars consider to be taboo.

My prediction: as we get close to the end we will have more and more drive bys...some will be lurkers wanting their 15 minutes of fame. They are in fact having a baby and probably over the moon excited just like we are. Maybe they didn't contribute, but I'm sure they got great insight from this board along the way and feel some sort of comeradery even if they seem like strangers to the regs. Some will be new members to the bump who joined in the end out of curiosity and maybe anxiety about the final changes their bodies are facing in the last few weeks before LO arrives. They have no clue we do to want to hear about their mucus plug. Regs can choose to ignore these posts or reply with snark....neither will make the posts go away.
As we all get our precious babies in our arms the randoms will die down, some regulars may even fade away and there will be a core group of ladies left.

I summary to my freakin novel above:
Newbies/lurkers who want to be a part - TALK THE TALK
regulars who are annoyed - choose to ignore it or gif bomb if it brings you enjoyment
Everyone - best wishes with your last few weeks

I don't think you understand the original point. There is nothing wrong with newbies posting. It's when they come here, drive by and get pissed because no one cares that's bothering regs. No one is trying to "stop" the drive by's. It won't happen. I've been around long enough to know that.

LokiLahve

I've been out of the loop and apparently missed some drama! I'm late to this party as usual but this is just my 2 cents...newbies who want to be a part of this board pay attention. Idk if I'm considered a reg...at least a semi reg I would say. I haven't been posting since December. I lurked OCCASIONALLY for months but never enough to know who the regs were or what the social norms were for the community. I don't think I started posting until feb or march. I don't remember if I did an Intro...I'm leaning towards no. I just started replying here and there where I thought I could add value. It was awhile before I posted my own thread I think and it was a stupid question and I got flamed. I think I even DD'd not knowing that would piss everyone off. I didn't see the need to get butt hurt over Internet strangers at that point...and I wasn't going anywhere bc this was the most informational place I had found as a FTM. I kept posting and replying and over time I like to think it established me as a contributor to the community. If you want to be a part....just start contributing and stop whining if someone doesn't agree with you. It's their right in a public forum to do so and it's your right to not listen to their opinions if you don't want to. I've never been active on a public forum before the bump so there was a learning curve for me. I imagine a lot of ftm's find this board the same way I did hence the drive bye of randoms. Some of them probably have no clue there is a group of regulars who know each other....I didn't. They just know there are others due in August on this board probably sharing their experiences. I get annoyed with the same posts over and over, but I just choose to ignore them 95% of the time. You will never stop newbies from coming on and posting ignorantly on what regulars consider to be taboo. My prediction: as we get close to the end we will have more and more drive bys...some will be lurkers wanting their 15 minutes of fame. They are in fact having a baby and probably over the moon excited just like we are. Maybe they didn't contribute, but I'm sure they got great insight from this board along the way and feel some sort of comeradery even if they seem like strangers to the regs. Some will be new members to the bump who joined in the end out of curiosity and maybe anxiety about the final changes their bodies are facing in the last few weeks before LO arrives. They have no clue we do to want to hear about their mucus plug. Regs can choose to ignore these posts or reply with snark....neither will make the posts go away. As we all get our precious babies in our arms the randoms will die down, some regulars may even fade away and there will be a core group of ladies left. I summary to my freakin novel above: Newbies/lurkers who want to be a part - TALK THE TALK regulars who are annoyed - choose to ignore it or gif bomb if it brings you enjoyment Everyone - best wishes with your last few weeks

I don't think you understand the original point. There is nothing wrong with newbies posting. It's when they come here, drive by and get pissed because no one cares that's bothering regs. No one is trying to "stop" the drive by's. It won't happen. I've been around long enough to know that.

I understand....I just went off on my own little tangent i suppose.

Soleil3

Holy wall o text.

CaliforniaDream87

Soleil3 said:

Holy wall o text.

Seriously...

Katie6202

*raises hand*
I also got flamed back in January for sticking up for someone when I really shouldn't have.

Now I just shrug my shoulders. I've been here since December, and have learned a lot from this board. I don't think badges are necessary for the regs- they obviously post enough that we recognize them.

Speaking of-- V&G where are you? How is life with little Nicholas?!!