BF leaving/sad vent

JBear02

So, my BF has approximately a week left before he leaves for law school down in Virginia. I knew this day was coming since the beginning of the pregnancy, but that doesn't make it any easier. I'm going to miss him so much. He's coming back up for the birth of LO and will stay as long as he can at that time- the only problem is that my due date is the 23rd and his classes start the 26th. So if baby comes even remotely on time then he's probably going to miss the first few days of classes. Oops! (Better than missing exams, I guess, right?)

Even though this pregnancy was unplanned, and he originally wasn't wanting to start law school with strings, he has really "stepped up to the plate". He's been so supportive of me, so understanding and helpful... I'm just going to miss him so very, very much. We're planning on skyping every night- he wants to read to LO every night and is already stocking up on baby books (he's already reads to LO almost every day which just absolutely melts my heart). He's been the cook (since I can't make anything unless it comes out of a box) and so to help me out once he's gone he's started making freezer meals and has started a "sanity fund" which he has filled with extra cash and take out menus.

I was thinking of making/getting something special for him that he can take with him to remind him of baby and me. It doesn't have to be ready by the time he leaves next week, because I could also give it to him after the birth for him to take. Unfortunately, I'm not very good at coming up with cute ideas. Do any of you ladies have any suggestions?

Sorry this was so long, thanks for reading!

amarissa85

((Hugs)) DH and I are in a similar situation. But by the time DH retires from active duty I will be out of grad school if everything goes well.

lefender

So sorry. It sounds like he is a great guy who is super excited about your LO! Maybe you could make him a scrapbook of your relationship, the pregnancy and the last page be a photo of LO and the foot prints? The end of one journey, the start of another? Is that too cheesy? Sorry, I like cheese.

Snowbird7

This may be a little cheesy, but one of my friends had a suggestion about a special way to commemorate bringing the baby home from the hospital. She suggested taking his coming home outfit and putting it on a little teddy bear to put in the nursery somewhere. Maybe you could do the same thing with your LO's coming home outfit, and your BF can take it with him?

henderson1026

ayanahazel1 said:

This may be a little cheesy, but one of my friends had a suggestion about a special way to commemorate bringing the baby home from the hospital. She suggested taking his coming home outfit and putting it on a little teddy bear to put in the nursery somewhere. Maybe you could do the same thing with your LO's coming home outfit, and your BF can take it with him?

That is really cute! I may have to steal that!!

lkobriant

He definitely sounds like a great guy!! PPs ideas are fantastic, maybe a stuffed animal or something that you can record LO on? That may work better in a few months when theyre doing a little more than crying

mommabmb

henderson1026 said:

ayanahazel1 said:

This may be a little cheesy, but one of my friends had a suggestion about a special way to commemorate bringing the baby home from the hospital. She suggested taking his coming home outfit and putting it on a little teddy bear to put in the nursery somewhere. Maybe you could do the same thing with your LO's coming home outfit, and your BF can take it with him?

That is really cute! I may have to steal that!!




This is adorable. I second this and might do it myself!

BlondieBia21

You could also make a shadow box and include the hospital bracelet, outfit, baby hat, I would do a picture of the 3 of you, etc. 

mattsdorothy

When I was in law school that first year, feeling totally swamped with work and really low in confidence about my abilities, it helped to have some positive reinforcement. I would make sure that he has a pic of you and LO together to keep in his study carrel or locker or whatever, at school so he can glance up and see the reason he is studying at two in the morning. It's easy to get so bogged down with school that you forget you have any other life, so happy reminders of the two of you will be super welcome.
I know you are already down about him leaving, so I will make this bit of advice brief, but I just wanted to say that the first semester of law school was really hard on me and a lot of my classmates - after that it wasn't bad at all. So, just remember that the hard part is four months. (by the time the bar exam comes, you will be pros at dealing with the seasonal-type stress) You can do it and so can he! Hang in there.

starshower22

Aww I'm sorry but I think it's so sweet that your BF made you freezer meals and a "sanity fund". And his reading to LO is soooo heartwarming! Sounds like he's pretty excited. As for a gift idea, you could make a photo album. MH made me one for an anniversary gift, literally made it with construction paper & scrapbook supplies. It was one of the best gifts ever! You could start with pics of the 2 of you, then maybe some u/s pics if you have them and leave room for some shots of all of you once LO arrived.

JBear02

Thanks ladies! This is all really great advice/ideas. I'll definitely have to use one or two of them!