Loss of 1 multiple

pharmacygirl

So how am I suppose to feel when I find out that I was preggo with twins and one did not make it? I was 7 weeks preggo and I started bleeding so I had my husband take me to the ER because I figured I was miscarrying yet again. (my first m/c was 11-2206) So after being in the ER for hours and waiting on ultrasound results, the md comes in and says "Good News. your baby is fine, but we did see another egg sac that is reabsorbing." I was like WHAT, how am I suppose to take this? I was happy that the 1 baby I thought I was having was fine but then to realize I was preggo with 2 babies was really shocking then a major letdown to know I lost one. Has this happened to anyone else??

shaysmom05

I'm sorry for the loss. It hasn't happened to me, but I've heard of a few women on the tri boards who have. GL to you!

PlannedChaos

I'm right there with you pharmacygirl.  We went through that with this pregnancy too.  It's so hard, because you're supposed to be happy for the baby you've got that's healthy, but you still lost a baby.  I had a REALLY hard time with that this time.

Strangely, I think it was harder than my previous m/cs.

Mrs.EmmaLouise

Ive heard of this, but havnet had it happen to me.  Im sure you are full of mixed emotions happy for one healthy child, and sad for a lost one.  Just try to focus on the positives for now.  GL and a happy and helathy 9 monhts to you.

ilovemygirls

Someone else just posted about this last night.  I have not personally experienced this, but have two friends who had 'vanishing twin' occur.  One of them shared with me her very mixed emotions- feeling guilty for not being as excited about the baby that was left because she was so sad for the one they lost.  You need to grieve the baby that you lost, because even though you still have one healthy baby, you did suffer a loss & I'm sorry for that.  btw, both of my friends went onto have healthy babies in those pregnancies. 

CincyRaysb2b

I'm sorry that you have to go through this! One of my co-workers had this happen to her. She said at the time it was really hard, but looking back now she said it was a blessing her and her husband weren't financially or emotionally ready for twins!

luckyangel

I am so sorry!  That is really hard to deal with.  A friend of mine was on the flip side of that, knew she was pg with twins but one was ectopic and they had to remove both even though the one implanted properly would have probably survived just fine.  Count the blessings you have and mourn the loss you have experienced but move on for the benefit of the child you still have growing inside you.

jinnymb

I'm so sorry you are going through this!! I pray your other baby is healthy and the rest of your pregnancy is smooth!!

pharmacygirl

thanks so much for the well wishers - I saw my surviving baby yesterday via ultrasound and he/she was so active. It was so cute the baby was moving all over the place. - That made it a lot more real to me and gave me some real excitment cause I am almost in the clear as far as m/c goes. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow!