@dragonfaerie YES it's like some people cannot grasp that it actually might NOT happen for us! Like, no, it's not just a matter of time. If it were I'd just chill and wait it out at home, med-free, and skip all those invasive, uncomfortable, and expensive procedures!
Also please don't tell me that "miracles" happen. Do you really think I want to wait for a MIRACLE (defined as "an event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws") to fulfill a very natural human desire to have a biological child? How is that comforting?
OK, end rant.
Me: 33, PCOS with anovulation DH: 36, No known issues TTC since 11/2014 1000mg Metformin daily
Oct-Dec 2015: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI = BFN x 2 Feb-May 2016: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN x 3 August 2016: Clomid 100mg no response, Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN
Just had to rant this out for a second--I was talking to my bff this morning after my iui and telling her about how we are moving on to ivf if this iui doesn't work. She said, "Why don't you guys just adopt? This seems like a lot of stress." Im not even going to add any of my own commentary to that. I was so irritated.
@kay6519 I am a mom with or without IF! I am a mom to my four legged babies.... My cat and dog mean the world to me just as much as any baby could ever and they make me a mom so tell her to go suck an egg! Mother's Day is for aunts and godmothers and anyone who feels like a mother to anyone and anything. Sorry I'll step off my soapbox now lol
From everyone who knows about the miscarriage I just had: "this is great news!" (because apparently not carrying a child to term guarantees I'm going to have a child)
From my RE today: "there is no baby until after 12 weeks" (OK, yeah, so I'll just stop being upset at this non baby I just lost) and "I refer to this as just a dud"
From more people than I can count: "at least you have (stepson)" (right, because raising someone else's kid from the age of 4 and constantly hearing that I'm not a real mom is totally the same)
@EverythingsBetterOutside as if that some how makes it better. I've always said I hate the term "chemical pregnancy" because it's so dismissive, like your loss wasn't a real one! Sorry for your loss.
My worst comments come from people who want to tell me that they can relate. "Oh infertility? I had that. It took me like four months to get pregnant!" Or "have you tried taking your temp or using OPKs? That's what finally worked for me."
I hate to be a B but jeez, If I'm going to a doctor surely I've tried the basics.
Unexplained infertility; TTC #1 for 5 years IUI #1; m/c;c/p 3/15/2012 IUI #2: Clomid, ovidrel trigger, prometrium;4/5/12; BFFN; IUI #3, clomid and injects; Beta June 8th????
When a good friends dad (whom I've known since I was 5) was asking if we were going to have kids I politely said "we are working on it" He responded with "well I guess you didn't pay enough attention in health class huh!?"
He was lucky I just walked away. I wanted to punch him!
@ChrisH22 The amount of times OPKS are suggested boggles my mind. It's like thank you for enlightening me that I am supposed to be having sex on fertile days. I wasn't aware of that literally most basic element of TTC.
Also when you are NOT OVULATING, they're not going to be much help!
Me: 33, PCOS with anovulation DH: 36, No known issues TTC since 11/2014 1000mg Metformin daily
Oct-Dec 2015: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI = BFN x 2 Feb-May 2016: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN x 3 August 2016: Clomid 100mg no response, Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN
@LizzieJ13 Actually, opks were what alerted me that something was wrong. I had used like 80 of them, and none of them were ever positive. I googled about not ovulating, which lead me to asking my ob about Clomid, which lead me to my RE and my diagnosis!
About us: Me - 28, Lean PCOS DH - 31 Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014 Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
You're young, you've got lots of time to have babies - always from someone that is my age and already has at least 1 kid
Why are you paying so much money to get pregnant when there are so many unwanted kids out there? - because adoption is free and thanks for the reminder that people who don't want kids can get pregnant
When are you going to have a baby? It's better for you and baby if you're young when you have kids
my sis-in-law said "are you sure you want kids". Really?
OMG. THIS. This SO MUCH. Is it a SIL thing? Because mine says it, too. Like, no - not funny.
Another frustrating thing she does (because she is, by far, the single worst offender in my world): She compares me with ONE OTHER WOMAN she knows who had similar, but not the same issues. This girl was far worse off than me (from what I know so far), and so my SIL insists nothing I am doing right now is going to help. Not for anything, but I am in FAR better health overall than the person she is comparing me to, and if you don't have all the facts about my situation, who the hell are you to assess it?! This SIL also happened to get pregnant like nothing, which I find infuriating, as she doesn't at ALL take care of herself.
Married: 8/23/2014 DX PCOS: 4/2016 - Metformin 2x daily IUI #1: 6/29/2016 - Letrozole CD 3-7, HCG Shot CD 14, Ovidrel CD 15, IUI CD 16 - BFN IUI #2: 7/30/2016 - Letrozole CD 4-7 (doubled up CD 4), Ovidrel CD 12, IUI CD 13 Me 36 - DH 39
a new one to add: "do you really want to be THAT mom at graduation? The one over 50?" Geez thanks for reminding me I'm exiting my prime child bearing years and every new year decreases those chances!
**TW** Me: 31, DH:33 TTC since October 2015: MFI Summer 2016: 3 IUI's: BFN October 2016: Switched RE's and began IVF cycle December 2016: Retrieved 13 eggs, 12 mature, 9 fertilized with ICSI. 5 day ET of 2 blasts with 4 frosites left. BFP!!!! EDD: 8/30/2017 August 25, 2017: It's a Girl!! April 12, 2019: FET, BFP!!! Baby BOY EDD: 12/29/2019
I nearly punched her in the face. Needless to say, I don't talk to her anymore. Other than that, I've just got the typical responses that everyone else has already posted. :P
TTC since 01/2011 07/2013 - First round of testing - CD21 and CD3 blood tests and HSG + multiple SAs for DH 07/2013 - Diagnosis - Anovulatory and DH has very low counts - Referral to urologist for further testing 08/2013 - Urologist showed varcocele veins and testicular defect from birth. Unable to repair 11/2013 - Consult with RE regarding treatment. Benched due to finances 2014/2015 - Took break from pursuing treatment, moved to a new province 06/2016 - DH redid SA as per direction from new family doctor - Counts have increased!! 07/2016 - Consult with new RE - ordered a repeat HSG 09/2016 - Providing no issues on HSG - Scheduled to start first IUI with Clomid 01/17/2017 - First IUI with Clomid - BFP - M/C @ 9 weeks
Mostly I've heard the same things you ladies have already said. I hate "just relax" and "it'll happen when you stop trying" But the one that got me the most is when DH and I got into a fight (over something small) and I was venting to my friend. And she tells me "Bringing a baby into the mix isn't going to make things any easier" Maybe it would make things a lot easier it we weren't both so stressed out and upset over the whole IF thing. Some people!
Yes @Toby102008! The whole "a baby isn't going to make it easier" is so ridiculous. Do you know how much I would love to have sleepless nights because I'm caring for a child, rather than because I'm stressed and anxious??
About me: /loss mentioned/ TTC#1 July 2014 dx: MFI (morphology) IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!! hb 146 bpm at 7w5d 1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w d&c, followed by cytotec TTCAL April 2016 IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
@Binkyetta you reminded me that i have a similar one!
me: ::getting Tums from the office kitchen:: co-worker: oh no, stomach bothering you? me: just a little heartburn co-worker: ohhhhh. y'know, the only times i've ever had heartburn was when i was pregnant with my two boys....i'll keep my fingers crossed that you are!"
(...i haven't told anyone at my office that DH and i are trying, let alone doing IVF. except my boss, my boss's boss (owner of the company), and one lady in HR...i've been keeping them in vague loop so they'll know when to expect when I might be late some mornings or why i have so many doctor's appointments, etc...)
I would be so annoyed!!! Even long before this journey, I always made it a point not to assume anybody's choices. For all she knows, you're actively preventing. Gahhhhh, people!
Got this one today bc I was chowing down on some sour gummies..."do you normally like sour? When I was pregnant that's what I craved all the time".. hinting that I might be having a craving as if a person can't like something sour on regular day....smh
Ugh all the superstitious stuff our family trades in... Carry this saint's card in your pocket, wear this color, do your hair like this, move your bed over here... And everything I'm doing wrong... "you work too much" "you exercise too much" "you're too skinny" "you don't eat enough" "you drive too much" "you don't eat the right foods" "you spend too much time at the office" "you spend too much time outdoors". And this is all from family, close family! WTF.
I am a therapist and one of my clients (six months pregnant with her first child, conceived first month of trying) came in and told me that she was so exhausted and that I should thank god I'm not pregnant because it's just so hard.
@srh18 That makes my blood boil when people complain about being pregnant or their kids being a pain. Then say things like "you're lucky you don't have kids" Like yeah, I'm so lucky that I get to deal with infertility. I would literally give anything to deal with morning sickness and sleepless nights, screaming babies, dirty diapers, etc., instead of pills, and ultrasounds, doctors, drained bank accounts, BFNs, tears, anger, jealousy, etc. Yeah, I'm so lucky.
Best most recently was a new visit to a PCP because of a spot on my face I wanted to get looked at. He insisted on going through my entire medical history and discussing why I was on Vitamin D and Synthroid which of course led to the infertility discussion. "You should probably just lose 10 pounds or so and it would solve all of that." Um thanks doc, but when we started trying 2 years ago, I was 15 pounds lighter. I've gained weight thanks to IVF drugs. Pretty sure my poor egg quality and low reserve are the problem and not my weight.
And of course you can't help the family ones. My SIL with a 2 year old says "we never thought we were going to be able to have kids and look at us now". Gee thanks. Really helpful.
Me: 33, Hubby: 36 TTC since May 2014 First RE Appt - September 2015 DX: Hypothyroid, DOR IUI w/ Clomid - October 2015 - BFN ER - 2/10/16, 2 Day 3 Embryos FET - 4/15/16 - BFN Summer 2016 - Taking a break to try herbal treatment and acupuncture
saraekelley I just cracked up in my office. That'll do it!! lol
**TW** Me: 31, DH:33 TTC since October 2015: MFI Summer 2016: 3 IUI's: BFN October 2016: Switched RE's and began IVF cycle December 2016: Retrieved 13 eggs, 12 mature, 9 fertilized with ICSI. 5 day ET of 2 blasts with 4 frosites left. BFP!!!! EDD: 8/30/2017 August 25, 2017: It's a Girl!! April 12, 2019: FET, BFP!!! Baby BOY EDD: 12/29/2019
This came from a girl who does hair at the same salon I go to. She doesn't do my hair. We've had all of 2 brief conversations.
She asked (while doing someone else's hair) "so, when are yall going to start having babies?" I replied "when ever it happens"
She said "are yall preventing?" (Again, YOU DON'T KNOW ME!)
my reply was something like "no, I have fertility issues. we are doing fertility treatments so hopefully soon"
Then here's where I wanted to cry/punch her- "Well having kids isn't all its cracked up to be..." and proceeds to talk about all the "bad" things her kids did that week.
Thanks for reminding me that I don't get the joy of parenting. I would do anything to have the chance to help a child learn and grow into a kind, mature part of society.
Trigger warning
me: 28 dh: 34 married since October 2015-started trying immediately dx: PCOS, anovulatory rx: provera metformin progesterone *TW* BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis 1 clomid cycle (March 2017) BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017 di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia *End TW* BFP Sept.2019
Well at least you don't have to pay for diapers and formula and stuff right now. Yeah, thanks, Instead I'm paying for medical bills
Travel, have fun just being married with out being tied down by kids. That sounds fun, we will just go to Disney by ourselves. Or we will wait till we are too old to walk all day in the hot sun.
You're still young. You have time. Yes, I want my kids to have to bury me when they are in college.
Trigger warning
me: 28 dh: 34 married since October 2015-started trying immediately dx: PCOS, anovulatory rx: provera metformin progesterone *TW* BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis 1 clomid cycle (March 2017) BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017 di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia *End TW* BFP Sept.2019
@mrsmoten313 No it's not bad that it's your family that pisses you off. Mine does on this topic all the time. My older brother has 3 boys with his booty call and he wasn't even around other than to knock her up and the day they were born, they're together now but it's taken years. My younger sister has a daughter and is due in October with a boy. I just got married in April, at my wedding shower my sister was asked if they were going to have any more children and her response was " no we don't want anymore" knowing she was already pregnant
Went to my general practitioner for a physical for insurance purposes and she said, "I see so many teenagers in here that don't need or want a baby and here you are struggling." and "children are a gift from God." Gee, thanks for reminding me that my ovaries think they're old and that God doesn't want to give me this gift. I'm looking for a new primary physician.
Me:32 DH:36 Me: DOR, poor egg quality, MTHFR DH: MFI TTC since 3/2014 2015: 3 IUI's-BFN 12/2015: 1st IVF cycle-(9 follicles retrieved, 5 mature, 3 fertilized w/ICSI, transferred 1 excellent and 1 good embryo on day 3)-chemical pregnancy 3/2016: 2nd IVF cycle- canceled (3 follicles retrieved, 3 mature, all fertilized w/ICSI, 1 fragmented, 2 arrested) 3/2016: RE suggested donor eggs- taking an ivf break and to supplement 9/2016: 3rd ivf cycle-cancelled due to early ovulation Oct./Nov 2016: 4th ivf cycle- EPP-AFC:5, retrieved 10, 10 mature, 8 fertilized with ICSI, 6 blastocysts biopsied and frozen. 3 CCS normal embryos
1/9/17: transferred 1 embryo-BFP 1/16 1/18/17: beta #1-104 1/20/17: beta #2-174 2/2/17: first u/s, heartbeat of 107 at 6w1d 7/20/17: baby boy born at 30+3 via emergency c-section
There's this seriously frustrating women in my social group, who has already said disparaging things about IF treatment, and the whole "medicalization" of pregnancy, which should be earthy crunchy natural.
I told someone else at a party that I'd had 7 failed medicated IUIs, and they asked if that was a lot. Then this jerkface, authoritatively, said "No, it's not."
But she sighed and, about my decision to try IVF, shrugged and said "well it *works*, and the *doctors* know people want instant gratification."
Judgmental hippie snob. And it freaking didn't work for me, thank you.
Me- 39 (turning 40 in April), TTC for the first time ever (since Jan 2015), low ovarian reserve
Married 3/14/14 to my wonderful wife, but her sperm count is rather low
TTC with frozen donor sperm and science
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs. 2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs. Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire. Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus! fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP! Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
Re: PLEASE don't say that! :D (loss mentioned)
Also please don't tell me that "miracles" happen. Do you really think I want to wait for a MIRACLE (defined as "an event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws") to fulfill a very natural human desire to have a biological child?
How is that comforting?
OK, end rant.
DH: 36, No known issues
TTC since 11/2014
1000mg Metformin daily
Oct-Dec 2015: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI = BFN x 2
Feb-May 2016: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN x 3
August 2016: Clomid 100mg no response, Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN
"It always happen when you stop actually trying."
And the most irritating of them all. A co-worker actually said this to me the Friday before Mother's day two weeks after my MC.
"Why are you celebrating mother's day? You aren't really a mom. No offense."
As if the no offense some how makes up for her total douche remark.
Unexplained/ Endo
Medicated IUIs # 1-3 BFN
IVF #1- BFN
FET #1- BFP; Ectopic pregnancy found at 7wks
FET #2- February 2017 BFP Beta #1- 119 (8dp5dt) Beta #2- 475 (12dp5dt)
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
From my RE today: "there is no baby until after 12 weeks" (OK, yeah, so I'll just stop being upset at this non baby I just lost) and "I refer to this as just a dud"
From more people than I can count: "at least you have (stepson)" (right, because raising someone else's kid from the age of 4 and constantly hearing that I'm not a real mom is totally the same)
My worst comments come from people who want to tell me that they can relate. "Oh infertility? I had that. It took me like four months to get pregnant!" Or "have you tried taking your temp or using OPKs? That's what finally worked for me."
I hate to be a B but jeez, If I'm going to a doctor surely I've tried the basics.
IUI #1; m/c;c/p 3/15/2012
IUI #2: Clomid, ovidrel trigger, prometrium;4/5/12; BFFN; IUI #3, clomid and injects; Beta June 8th????
He responded with "well I guess you didn't pay enough attention in health class huh!?"
He was lucky I just walked away. I wanted to punch him!
Also when you are NOT OVULATING, they're not going to be much help!
DH: 36, No known issues
TTC since 11/2014
1000mg Metformin daily
Oct-Dec 2015: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI = BFN x 2
Feb-May 2016: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN x 3
August 2016: Clomid 100mg no response, Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN
Me - 28, Lean PCOS
DH - 31
Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
Why are you paying so much money to get pregnant when there are so many unwanted kids out there? - because adoption is free and thanks for the reminder that people who don't want kids can get pregnant
When are you going to have a baby? It's better for you and baby if you're young when you have kids
Another frustrating thing she does (because she is, by far, the single worst offender in my world): She compares me with ONE OTHER WOMAN she knows who had similar, but not the same issues. This girl was far worse off than me (from what I know so far), and so my SIL insists nothing I am doing right now is going to help. Not for anything, but I am in FAR better health overall than the person she is comparing me to, and if you don't have all the facts about my situation, who the hell are you to assess it?! This SIL also happened to get pregnant like nothing, which I find infuriating, as she doesn't at ALL take care of herself.
DX PCOS: 4/2016 - Metformin 2x daily
IUI #1: 6/29/2016 - Letrozole CD 3-7, HCG Shot CD 14, Ovidrel CD 15, IUI CD 16 - BFN
IUI #2: 7/30/2016 - Letrozole CD 4-7 (doubled up CD 4), Ovidrel CD 12, IUI CD 13
Me 36 - DH 39
Geez thanks for reminding me I'm exiting my prime child bearing years and every new year decreases those chances!
Some people!
Me: 31, DH:33
TTC since October 2015: MFI
Summer 2016: 3 IUI's: BFN
October 2016: Switched RE's and began IVF cycle
December 2016: Retrieved 13 eggs, 12 mature, 9 fertilized with ICSI. 5 day ET of 2 blasts with 4 frosites left. BFP!!!! EDD: 8/30/2017
August 25, 2017: It's a Girl!!
April 12, 2019: FET, BFP!!! Baby BOY EDD: 12/29/2019
I nearly punched her in the face. Needless to say, I don't talk to her anymore. Other than that, I've just got the typical responses that everyone else has already posted. :P
TTC since 01/2011
07/2013 - First round of testing - CD21 and CD3 blood tests and HSG + multiple SAs for DH
07/2013 - Diagnosis - Anovulatory and DH has very low counts - Referral to urologist for further testing
08/2013 - Urologist showed varcocele veins and testicular defect from birth. Unable to repair
11/2013 - Consult with RE regarding treatment. Benched due to finances
2014/2015 - Took break from pursuing treatment, moved to a new province
06/2016 - DH redid SA as per direction from new family doctor - Counts have increased!!
07/2016 - Consult with new RE - ordered a repeat HSG
09/2016 - Providing no issues on HSG - Scheduled to start first IUI with Clomid
01/17/2017 - First IUI with Clomid - BFP - M/C @ 9 weeks
Come on Baby "B"! Time to come out and play!
Me to colleague: "I don't know why I'm so tired today."
Colleague: "Maybe you're pregnant!"
Me: "Nope. Thanks for the reminder."
Unexplained/ Endo
Medicated IUIs # 1-3 BFN
IVF #1- BFN
FET #1- BFP; Ectopic pregnancy found at 7wks
FET #2- February 2017 BFP Beta #1- 119 (8dp5dt) Beta #2- 475 (12dp5dt)
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
me: ::getting Tums from the office kitchen::
co-worker: oh no, stomach bothering you?
me: just a little heartburn
co-worker: ohhhhh. y'know, the only times i've ever had heartburn was when i was pregnant with my two boys....i'll keep my fingers crossed that you are!"
(...i haven't told anyone at my office that DH and i are trying, let alone doing IVF. except my boss, my boss's boss (owner of the company), and one lady in HR...i've been keeping them in vague loop so they'll know when to expect when I might be late some mornings or why i have so many doctor's appointments, etc...)
...yeah.
And of course you can't help the family ones. My SIL with a 2 year old says "we never thought we were going to be able to have kids and look at us now". Gee thanks. Really helpful.
TTC since May 2014
First RE Appt - September 2015
DX: Hypothyroid, DOR
IUI w/ Clomid - October 2015 - BFN
ER - 2/10/16, 2 Day 3 Embryos
FET - 4/15/16 - BFN
Summer 2016 - Taking a break to try herbal treatment and acupuncture
@BrightenMySky Amen to that!
Diagnosed with unexplained infertility
IUI #1- April '16 - BFN
IUI #2 - May '16 - BFN
IVF Fresh Xfer #1 (1 blastocyst) - Sept '16 - BFN
FET #2 - 11/8/16 (2 blastocysts) - Beta on 11/18
4 more blastocysts on ice
Me: 31, DH:33
TTC since October 2015: MFI
Summer 2016: 3 IUI's: BFN
October 2016: Switched RE's and began IVF cycle
December 2016: Retrieved 13 eggs, 12 mature, 9 fertilized with ICSI. 5 day ET of 2 blasts with 4 frosites left. BFP!!!! EDD: 8/30/2017
August 25, 2017: It's a Girl!!
April 12, 2019: FET, BFP!!! Baby BOY EDD: 12/29/2019
I literally just made this disgusted gasping noise when I read your comment. I can't BELIEVE she said that to you! Yikes!
She asked (while doing someone else's hair) "so, when are yall going to start having babies?"
I replied "when ever it happens"
She said "are yall preventing?" (Again, YOU DON'T KNOW ME!)
my reply was something like "no, I have fertility issues. we are doing fertility treatments so hopefully soon"
Then here's where I wanted to cry/punch her-
"Well having kids isn't all its cracked up to be..." and proceeds to talk about all the "bad" things her kids did that week.
Thanks for reminding me that I don't get the joy of parenting. I would do anything to have the chance to help a child learn and grow into a kind, mature part of society.
Trigger warning
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019
Yeah, thanks, Instead I'm paying for medical bills
Travel, have fun just being married with out being tied down by kids.
That sounds fun, we will just go to Disney by ourselves. Or we will wait till we are too old to walk all day in the hot sun.
You're still young. You have time.
Yes, I want my kids to have to bury me when they are in college.
Trigger warning
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019
Me: DOR, poor egg quality, MTHFR
DH: MFI
TTC since 3/2014
2015: 3 IUI's-BFN
12/2015: 1st IVF cycle-(9 follicles retrieved, 5 mature, 3 fertilized w/ICSI, transferred 1 excellent and 1 good embryo on day 3)-chemical pregnancy
3/2016: 2nd IVF cycle- canceled (3 follicles retrieved, 3 mature, all fertilized w/ICSI, 1 fragmented, 2 arrested)
3/2016: RE suggested donor eggs- taking an ivf break and to supplement
9/2016: 3rd ivf cycle-cancelled due to early ovulation
Oct./Nov 2016: 4th ivf cycle- EPP-AFC:5, retrieved 10, 10 mature, 8 fertilized with ICSI, 6 blastocysts biopsied and frozen. 3 CCS normal embryos
1/18/17: beta #1-104
1/20/17: beta #2-174
2/2/17: first u/s, heartbeat of 107 at 6w1d
7/20/17: baby boy born at 30+3 via emergency c-section
I told someone else at a party that I'd had 7 failed medicated IUIs, and they asked if that was a lot. Then this jerkface, authoritatively, said "No, it's not."
But she sighed and, about my decision to try IVF, shrugged and said "well it *works*, and the *doctors* know people want instant gratification."
Judgmental hippie snob. And it freaking didn't work for me, thank you.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)