My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. We were so excited when we found out I was pregnant that we told everyone! When people found out I miscarried I would get so pissed inside by the things they said. One of the worst for me was, "Oh you're young, you can just try again." Like I was supposed to forget about it. Sometimes people just don't know the right thing to say, but that is definitely not it. What about you guys?
Re: What was the worst thing someone said to you after miscarriage?
(((hugs))) sorry for your loss!!
I wanted to punch her. It's a pretty obnoxious and hurtful "blessing" if you ask me.
I lost my baby at 10 1/2 weeks found out at 12 week scan, no matter how far along a pregnancy your losing a baby, 1 week to 40 weeks you still lose your baby it has an impact to matter how far along you have still lost a child and I don't think many people understand that unless they have been through it or close to someone who has.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
This is my first miscarriage and I've seen it happen to many many girls in the office but now that it's me i actually get it now
The worst I ever heard is the woman who said to my mother after she gave birth to my stillborn baby brother, full term "it's not like you really knew him, could have been worse".
Edited:autocorrect likes to make me look stupid.
I have a new one today. I just told a good friend what I was going through. The very first time I miscarried she didn't say anything. Nothing. I asked her later why and she said she didn't know what to say. So this time she said she was sorry and then said, "I wish I could give you my mexican genes yes with a smiley face at the end. Um...I'm not miscarrying because I'm white...
But I know she wasnt saying it to be mean. She was trying to make me laugh. But right now this is too fresh...
Also hate when people say things about when the time is right... Yada yada. The time was already right! This was not supposed to happen.
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
The nurse from the PCM's office called to discuss my lab results because I'm still severely anemic. She reviewed all the usuals, that I need 325 whatever measurement OTC 3x a day, red meat, dark green leafy vegetables, and IF I could stomach it... liver.
Liver, people. Dark red, smooth, slimy liver. Considering I passed what looked like a half gallon's worth of clots on Monday, the LAST thing I want to think about stomaching is freaking liver. When I pointed it out, she and I were both able to chuckle a little at the absurdity of the suggestion.
I hope she won't make that suggestion in the future.
People DO NOT think.
Me: 38 DH: 42.
Married: 9/2008.
10/2014 BFP
5/2015 BFP
8/2015 MMC & D&C at 13 weeks
11/2015 BFP then CP at 6 weeks.
3/2016 Started IVF+PGS
4/2016 ER, only 5 eggs but 3 Frozen embryos made it to freeze. Only 1 PGS normal embryo.
DOR
Hypothyroidism
MTHFR
DH Sperm with Chromosomal Issues (high % FISH)
AMH .65
8/2016 FET #1 BFN
9/2016 IVF-ER #2 1 normal embryo.
11/2016 IVF-ER #3 0 Embryos
2/2017 FET #2 BFP CP at 6 weeks.
5/2017 BFP Natural. 3 Betas were ok. First US 5-31-2017. Hope it sticks and is healthy!!
January 1, 2016 - CP. Heartbroken and feeling helpless.
July 2017 - Finally!! FINALLY!! Our GORGEOUS baby girl was born on 7-15-17. Miracles do happen!!
7 years later, I still don't talk to her.