Hi everyone
I am looking for some advice please. I am a very career driven person and so is my husband. Our child is in school full time, has a full time live in nanny and spends many of his weekends with my parents, either at our house or theirs. He is well taken care of and I feel that we do spend quality time together when possible..for example if I have time off work we go on a family trip and do things together.
I have been called a bad mother several times, asked why I even had children etc. and that I shouldn't have any more.
Can I please have some insight as to why some people would say this, and how to respond? What do you all think?
I appreciate all the honest responses thank you so much
Re: Hurtful comments about my parenting
So, OP, people are insulting your parenting because you're not parenting. You had a child and it seems like your role ended there. That's all fine and dandy. Your kid is taken care of. People will question your choices. I know plenty of kids raised this way (from my nanny days). The kids manage, but don't expect some deep loving relationship with your child as they grow up. It will pretty much remain as detached as it is now. They'll find other people to form bonds with. No worries.
If this is real by any chance, you aren't a bad parent because you aren't actually parenting your child. You are more like an egg donor leaving others to parent your genetic offspring.
Let. It. Go. Already.
And dont get me wrong, i am not one of those "I stay at home and actually raise mmy children" moms. I am a full time working mom and I like my career but my kids/family are my priority. Yes I do things for myself on occasion or go out with my husband or friends but the majority of nights and weekends are spent as a family. I am away from them enough that I don't want to send them away a lot on the weekends and just fit them in when it's convenient for me.
Lay your weary heads to rest
Let's not post no more.
People say asinine things all the time - sometimes it's to fill the space or maybe they're just an asshole, but what does it matter?
If it bothers you, then perhaps you aren't as okay w the situation as you think you are.
That all being said I'm not going to judge op because it seems to work for their family.
Don't make up shit that didn't happen.
I said I would voice my concern if it was a friend or family member. Not some random stranger or acquaintance or something. I said I wouldn't be mean about it. People CAN have heart-to-heart conversations about parenting concerns without being insulting and being mean. Most normal people wouldn't be offended if a concern is coming from a good place. And if they were offended by a concern of mine that I presented in a respectful way, then that's their issue.
Here's how to not care what people say about your (anyone's) parenting:
Don't care what people say.
Easy enough??
::insert Christ dancing on a cracker gif::