hello everyone! I'm curious to see if anyone here is a single mom. I found myself single at 12 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I broke up and since he moved out he pretends I don't exist. How are you ladies dealing with going through an emotional time alone? I've been going to therapy and I'm finally beginning to enjoy the pregnancy and plan for my baby girl. I'm almost 20 weeks.
Re: Any single moms here?
I'm not in your position but if i was, the only thing i can think of doing is focus on the people close to you and your baby. Hang out with friends or relatives when you can and just try and be happy. Focus on the baby and think of your little girl. How beautiful she is going to be and how grateful she is to have you. You're going to do just fine.
Best of luck to you all the same. Stay strong, Mama!
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I agree with the father bashing. I don't plan to do that. I want my baby to be a positive person.
At this point I don't know if he plans to be part of my baby's life since he has not contacted me in two months. I need to speak to a lawyer because I don't plan to give her his last name. It's a long story but he is very irresponsible and has poor values. Thanks so much for your replies.
Right now you need to just focus on yourself and your baby. You will be an amazing mother and will surprise yourself at how strong you can be for your baby even if you feel like falling apart at times. You got this, mama.
Corbin | born 4.19.12
Baby boy #2 | due 4.13.15
I've had rough days because I didn't expect my ex to be so cold and disconnected. My ex moved out with the excuse that he would fix things and gain my trust again. Two days later he deleted me from Facebook like I never existed. I would say the hardest part was realizing that we wouldn't be a family.
My mom retires in March so I'm hoping she will help me with the baby. She's already expressed interest in babysitting when I go back to work. ❤️
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baby's father disappeared and we haven't spoken since.
She had my brother at 36 and me at 38 with the same man who was married at the time. She got pregnant with her eyes wide open (read: on purpose) because she wanted nothing more than to have kids. She had a successful career and was able to provide for us and told our sperm donor (it's weird to call him our father) that she was happy to raise us on her own and that he had a duty to his other family to be there for them (he wanted to leave his family when he found out my mom was pregnant).
She's never said a single bad word about him. And was always outnumber 1 fan. My brother is a doctor and I'm a neurophysiologist.
All this to say, that you can do it! I believe in you!
In hindsight it would have been less stressful and over all better for myself and daughter had he never been in the picture. All he did was leech on him and I kept giving and giving, hoping he would change. I felt I owed it to my daughter to try and give her a traditional family unit.
I had lots of support from others, which helped me get through my pregnancy. The 1st year was extremely difficult- sometimes doing it on my own, sometimes including him in things.
I moved out of state when DD was 18mos and it was the best decision ever.
I didn't have him weighing me down and I could focus solely on my daughter and myself. I met the man of my dreams a year ago and am so happy and grateful for our beautiful blended and growing family.
Moral of the story- what is meant to be will be. There is a reason for everything, even though it may hurt like hell and you may not understand it at first. Go about your life with your head up, don't look back and be confident in your abilities as a woman and mother. Make sure you have support and let yourself feel hurt or pain, then come back stronger for your child.
Your child and family are and will be proud of you for being the best mother you can be!