Hi there,
I've been lurking for a bit and have a question. Now is as good of a time as any to tell you all a bit about myself and where we want to be:)
My husband and I have one little girl, Caroline, who just turned 2! I always saw myself in the 2.5 kiddo american dream scenario. I had HELLP syndrome pretty severely with my daughter and ended up with an emergency c/s and a 3 week NICU stay for her. Because of this my husband is reluctant for me to conceive another child (we also had a loss before Caroline). I get that he's genuinely concerned about my health and well-being, but I'm heartbroken. I want to be a mommy again. I'm 110% on board with adopting and so is he. I actually always wanted to adopt a child, but...
My question, and please forgive me if this sounds rude, but how the heck does anyone afford it? We were thinking of international adoption, but realistically I have no idea where we'd obtain that much money?
we already live on a pretty tight budget as is (I'm a part the nurse and DH is a computer forensic analyst). Am I missing something?
Re: Lurker, honest question
Ditto the pp, there are a lot of ways to do it, you just have to do what works for you. There's taking on a second job, starting an Etsy or other type of store, holding fundraisers, taking out a loan or HELOC, getting loans/gifts from family, the sky is the limit. Best bet is to research what the costs are going to look like and set a goal to get there.
GL and post often!
We did DIA and spent much of what we had been saving up for a remodel on our house which will now be put off for a few more years. We also took out a home equity line of credit as a "just in case fall back", but ended up not needing it since we continued saving during our wait to adopt. If you consider the other large expenses in life (cars, college, etc.) finding the money to start or add to your family through adoption is doable, it just takes some work!
1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed 5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!