So tonight my DH text me and says he's going to Taco Bell before he gets home.. I said oh okay that's cool see you soon... And then I get a text saying that his ex girlfriend is going to come up there with him... (I've had some issues with them hanging out in the past. A lot of heavy flirting goes on when they are together.) so I ask him not to hang out with her tonight cause I'm it comfortable with it and I just want him home.. Then he sends me a 3 page text taking about I was overreacting and how im in the wrong cause I don't want him to hang out with her..
Am I overreaching? I'm just feeling really lost and hurt
Re: Pissed off and feeling lost.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
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For what it's worth, DH and I have an agreement that we don't have alone time with anyone we used to date. We personally do not believe it is okay for married people to be hanging out alone with ex partners. We see ex's only in groups with others. With that being said, if there is an ex we are not comfortable with even in a group setting, we don't have any contact with that person.
Grr
BFP #2 Aug 6th. Hoping to meet our Rainbow baby on or around 4/16/14
That said... I would be so pissed! Good luck keeping the hormones/anger in check, hopefully y'all can come to a beneficial understanding instead of this issue damaging your relationship!
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Started dating February 6, 2012
I do not think you are being unreasonable about this request, if it makes you uncomfortable as it would make most of us uncomfortable you have a valid point.
I don't know him so its hard to give advice on how to treat this situation now. I do believe that communication wins out with any personality type and if you are scared of a yelling match meet him somewhere public it helps to keep both parties civil.
Good luck with this. I was cheated on with my last pregnancy (different father) so even though I trust my bf more than anyone the ugly thought still creeps into my mind. Pregnancy does make us feel more vulnerable and our self esteems take a hit so our thoughts can go a little crazy. Well that's me anyway.
10 year old boy - April 13th 2003
MMC Feb 20th - May 20th finished naturally
BFP on July 25th 2013 LMP June 28th 2013
Sometimes in discussion with my DH, if he's arguing I'll ask. " do you really not understand why I'm upset? Or why this is not ok"
Usually he stops and says, yes I guess I do
Without flipping out just tell him how you see things today. I'm sure he wouldn't like you hanging out with your ex.
I am kind of surprised people believe all this drama.
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