Well I have lost the passion!!! I haven't had sex with fiance in about 3 weeks. Yikes! !
And the crazy part is I don't want to. I feel so full and bloated all of the time! It's like having sex right now would make me feel ugh...
I love cuddling and kissing and rubbing but the thought of sex right now doesn't even turn me on that's new to me
I feel bad for him! I told him how I feel and he said he understands but I still feel bad. I feel like I cut off his oxygen supply... that's a joke
I feel like i Should just suck it up and make love to him even though
It will totally be for him. And I will not be In it.
Have any of you lost your sex drive? I thought many women sex drive increases during pregnancy. Am I wrong about that ...I know in my case I am
Re: sex!?
Same here! I am exhausted! The worst part is I want it but am too tired to follow through! I feel your pain but don't worry your Fianc understands.
I soooo understand. Zilch desire for anything for weeks now. And I'm sickest in the evenings, which means I'm already in "don't touch me, don't kiss me, don't talk to me, don't breathe in my direction, etc." mode by the time DH gets home. Poor guy.
Like others said, this is common. I think you just have to talk about it. And maybe try to take advantage of the times when you DO feel good (or at least up to it). I'm trying to be "available" more in the mornings, when I feel not quite as crappy. It's still not my favorite thing right now by any means, but it makes DH feel taken care of, which makes me happy.
But wait. That wasn't her question...
Sex drive varies from woman to woman, and some find it gets better in the second tri. And it's certainly understandable to not feel sexy when you're feeling bloated/nauseous all day. Mine has definitely taken a nose dive, but I've found once we start doing stuff I get into it. You may find a little extra foreplay will help you get back in the groove.
There have been times, pg/not, where I wasn't super excited to do it, but I went ahead because H asked. Never regretted it. For me/H sex is a very important part of our relationship and staying connected. I've also found the longer we go without the lower my libido gets.
I know this isn't necessarily a popular opinion but we all do things for our partner that maybe aren't at top of our list of things we like. Sex can sometimes be for the other person and it's ok.
At the end of the day, this is a hugely personal decision. Some couples are fine going longer stretches in between, others need more constant sexual contact. And there are other factors that go into play, like history of m/c. It's about doing what works best for you two.
Whoops, I meant to quote Booger Bear!
BFP#2: EDD 2/11/14, MMC confirmed 7/15/13 (growth stopped at 6 weeks), D&C @ 12 weeks 7/25/13
Same here. My husband understands and hasn't questioned it.
This exactly.
This for me as well!
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