Just wanted to post something weighing on my heart.
Our second baby was due to be born on July 4, 2011. For most of today I didn't really think about it. But tonight watching the fireworks I did. Each year since I always think of her watching the same fireworks as me from Heaven's view. Although we had a second son, Nolan in March 2012, I will always have that missing piece. Every year for those few beautiful quiet minutes of awe, I feel like it is just her and I watching those fireworks. It brings me to tears yet I am so thankful for this connection to her since it is all I have.
It is a journey ladies. And it changes who you are forever. My thoughts and prayers are with you all for happy healthy future pregnancies Just know you'll always remember, and that is okay.
Re: Baby was Due July 4th
So touching! Thank you for sharing
Brought tears to my eyes
((hugs))
My first loss was also a July '11 EDD (7/15/11). It's amazing how much life has changed since the first loss, but there are some dates you don't forget.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11
BFP#4 8.27.13 (EDD 5.6.14) DD born 4.23.14
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~All AL'ers welcome~
this. I see it seems to have helped several others to read your story, but it doesn't really make me feel any better right now.
married my best friend 10/04/08, TTC since July 2012
BFP#1 Thanksgiving 11/22/12, mo-mo twins(one sac), traditional EDD 7/27/13, EDD due to risk 6/15/13
mmc Angel 2/7/13 @ 15w3d, mmc Aubrey 2/13/13 @ 16w2d, D&E 2/16/13
BFP#2 9/21/13, EDD 6/2/14, DD born 5/17/14
All AL always welcome in my threads!
This.
Diagnosed w/ endometriosis 12/2010 Laproscopic surgery & 6 months of Lupron
BFP 12/17/2011,EDD 8/23/12,ectopic discovered 12/29/11 at 6 weeks recieved methotrexate
Dec '12 HSG & ultrasound showed abnormalities & more endo. Laproscopic surgery in January '13 showed significant damage & scar tissue from Endo. IVF is our best shot to concieve our rainbow.
June '13 Decided to go the adoption route!
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Agreed.
OP, I'm glad your story helped some of the ladies here but personally, I have enough friends IRL who have children and say things like this to me. I don't need anyone's pity or their version of "hope".
2013: BFP #1 - M/C 3/13
2015: Dance break = got healthy
7/2016: IVF #5 = BFP!!!
Oh wow, that was not cool if you are not on the 6 board.
Eta: I would just feel dirty even lurking on the 6 board. I'm not sure if that was ballsy or foolish...both.
Uh, yeah, I am with snedge here. I don't need to see a patronizing post (that includes your rainbow baby) to tell me that I will not forget my lost LO. I already think of that baby all day every day.
I am sorry for your loss, and that yesterday was difficult as an EDD, but please keep this stuff to Parenting After a Loss. Hopefully I'll see you there someday.
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
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Thank you snedge!
OP, your post history shows that you know about PAL because you post there. That is where you should have posted this. Why on earth did you come to TTCAL? You are not TTC. That is great you thought about your little one but did you really have to come tell us that you remember your lost one while you hold your rainbow?
Many of us do not have a child to hold when we think about our lost little ones.
If you are TTC for a second rainbow, may I suggest you read the blog and intro?
Also - how incredibly insensitive that you posted this on 6+!
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
You are not going to make enemies.
What I would recommend though is to look at the signatures of those who are offended. All of them are (or where) active members of this board for over 6 months.
OPs post is inappropriate. PAL and March 2012 are her home boards. Coming on to this board to post "encouragement" is not appropriate.
Protecting everyone on this board from pain includes being respectful to those who are hurt by these type of posts. I hope you are not here long enough to understand this.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
This.
Diagnosed w/ endometriosis 12/2010 Laproscopic surgery & 6 months of Lupron
BFP 12/17/2011,EDD 8/23/12,ectopic discovered 12/29/11 at 6 weeks recieved methotrexate
Dec '12 HSG & ultrasound showed abnormalities & more endo. Laproscopic surgery in January '13 showed significant damage & scar tissue from Endo. IVF is our best shot to concieve our rainbow.
June '13 Decided to go the adoption route!
***PGAL/PAL WELCOME***
Wait a minute guys. Some new girl who's been here for 5 minutes wants to tell us how we're wrong. We should listen.
I agree with snegde.
BFP#1 9/5/12, MMC, MC confirmed 10/9/12,
D&C 12/12/12 BFP#2 7/30/13, EDD 4/12/14, DS born 4/14/14
This. I read this and was not by any means *encouraged*. We just passed our 1 yr TTC mark & are a week away from our 2nd EDD. Definitely not what I needed. HUGS to everyone & thanks to the girls who are so wonderfully protective.