My LO was born via emergency c section. For the first time today I'm angry about it. I was okay with it all along because even though I had wanted a med free birth, she came out how she needed, and is healthy.
Dh and I had always wanted kids really close together, like we only wanted to wait like six months before trying again. My doctor told me today that we have to wait at least a year before trying again. It means ill be 30 before trying again, and 31 before I have another assuming we get pregnant right away. While that's not terrible, it pushes out any other kids even further, and we want a housefull.
I'm suddenly so angry at my body's failure to progress, and my blood pressure.
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Re: Angry at my c section.
I'm not sure why being 30/31 when you have your next LO limits the amount of kids you have really. 30 is not that old.
I'll be 30 in 11 days and we are planning on at least 2 more. I dunno maybe it's because I'm pretty much 30 and don't feel like that is too old...
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I know a woman who has five kids, five csections and had last kid at 38
However, as for your age, count your blessings. Due to the age I met my husband and issues with infertility, I just had my first baby, via unplanned csection, and I turn 40 in two months. Like you, I also wanted to have my next baby right away and don't want to wait the year because then I'll be almost 41 and just starting to try, and hoping that we don't have all the infertility crap again. So I actually view you as lucky that you're only 30.
I was very depressed over my first csection. I cried everyday for at least a month. I got pregnant again after 8.5 months and was very hopeful for a VBAC. While my trial of labor ended in another csection, my second labor experience was very different from my first with no interventions aka "my ideal labor experience". It was very healing for me and I am now at peace with both my csections.
My dr only wanted me to wait 6 months before getting pregnant again even for a VBAC. You could always get a second opinion. [in no way am I saying to go against medical advice]
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
No silly. She is mad she is going to be Oldy Magoo for her next kid.
Thank you for the perspective. Not that everyone else didn't have excellent points, but this is definitely the one that hit home.
And no Blue, there weren't any complications with the section itself, but the section was done in part because of a pretty severe uteran infection, so the waiting period isn't something my doctor will entertain reducing.
Not to mention that the CDC suggests waiting at least 18 months between kids even if you had a vag birth.
There was a study that said women who got pregnant within 6 months had a 30-40% chance of preemies. So there is that.
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
BFP 5/21/10, Missed m/c 7/5/10 at 11w3d (baby measured 7wks), D&C 7/7/10
Aug/Sept 2010 - CD3&10 b/w & u/s, genetic testing, SA, HSG, & Lap/Hyst to remove septum
12/09/10 BFP -- 7/05/11 DS born at 33w5d. Came home after 23d in NICU at 37w0d
June 2012 - TTC #2! -- 10/05/12 BFP -- 5/23/13 DS2 born at 37w1d! Yay full term!
Surprise BFP 6/25/14 LO#3 due Feb2015!
My OB also mentioned to me after my first, that we should wait a minimum of 22 months in between pregnancies, because there is apparently a higher risk of PPD having them closer together.