DD is 8 months now and i can already tell she's starting to get ONLY CHILD SYNDROME! aka being ridiculously spoiled by her grandparents and everyone else
she cries for attention or to be picked up all the time (when she is capable of crawling). what do i do in a situation like this? is she too young to discipline when she's being bad? what do i do?
Re: when do you start disciplining a child?
This. She is still learning, so you need to help her learn what is acceptable and what is not. My DS will sometimes get a firm "No. Be gentle." and then I show him what "gentle" means by repeating the same action (usually petting the cats, LOL) in a gentle manner. He's getting it already and he's not even 8 months old.
This. Until a child is capable of KNOWING they are doing something wrong to manipulate a situation, they should never be disciplined. It will just be confusing and upsetting to her now because she doesn't understand why.
THIS thank you so much, this was the most helpful. i guess i should have used the term "CORRECT" not discipline. i know that my baby is too young to be TOLD what to do, i am just asking when the appropriate time is to start disciplining such as time outs and other forms of non-spanking discipline.
I feel ya. For us it was about age 2. We do a modified version of 123 Magic. It's wonderful. My daughter knows when to stop doing something by the time we get to 2.
I would not really call this only child syndrome. DD2 goes through days like this and she has an older sister who is 3. It is just babies being babies. I agree with a pp that said you need to teach at this age not discpline. When DD2 is crawling or playing with something she shouldn't I say no as I am redirecting her although at this point I know she doesn't understand no.
Babies do not act bad.
Oh and with DD1 I think I started around 1.5 years old with time outs but she didn't really start responding to anything like that till closer to 2 years old.
Of course you can teach her. TEACH / DISICIPLINE it doesn't matter what you call it. She may not understand your exact words but she does understand tone. If she falls down, calmly says she okay and encourage her to get up. Don't get excited that she fell, she'll realize that she gets attention that way.
i.e. DD is 6 months and every once in a while she throws a little temper tantrum when she can't do what she wants like rolling over, crawling, etc. When she starts screaming I give her a little puff of air in her face to stop the cycle. Then calmly speak to her. Works eveyry time.
Seriously? You blow air in a babies face to "teach" them to not cry because they are frustrated? Thats sick on so many levels.
God you are an idiot. My eyes about rolled out of my head.
Just wow O_O
This exactly. Seriously, OP.
Really? Do you realize that crying is the only way your child has to communicate how they're feeling at that age? Crying from frustration is totally normal, and you blowing in your los face to reprimand her is awful.
It's really less about the blowing in the babies face and more about the idea that a 6 month old is throwing a "temper tantrum" that needs to be "corrected." My kid loves to have air blown in his face too, so I do it for fun, not to try and "teach" him that crying is bad or sumshit.
But the pp isn't doing it for fun, she's doing it to discipline her child. Big difference.
Wow Milady. You're a tool.
OP: 8 months is too young for any discipline. Think 18-20 months.
This. We started doing time-outs when our kids were right around 18 months. You'll know when they're ready because you'll know when your kids understand exactly what you're saying
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