So my friend is getting married in April. We got the invitation yesterday. I asked her where she was registered and she said that they did not register as they do not want boxed gifts. This means she wants cash or checks, right?
I am kind of surprised because she is very smart and it was not something I expected from her LOL
Tacky??
Re: An etiquette question
Also this. That would have been reasonable and less of a weird and bratty thing to say.
No, they aren't moving. They are currently living with her dad though since she is starting PA school and he is in nursing school. But yes, atleast it was not in the invite!
This! And it's just a dumb idea because people enjoy giving boxed gifts! So, by not registering, they're opening themselves up getting a bunch of gifts they don't like, want, or need. It's inevitable.
LOL
If she actually wrote that on the invite or is telling every guest that then that's pretty crappy.
But I would think that she just told u that because your her friend and she felt she could be honest with you.
Around here you only would register for a shower. Everyone gives cash for the actual wedding gift.
Yeah this! Not registering is DUMB.
Oh yes, and I go one step further - I am the anti-gift receipt giver!! I also am anti giving cash/gift cards for 99.9% of all situations, don't care how much you want cash, sorry!! (if you don't want a box, you get a basket, storage bin, or gift bag LOL)
She's SO setting herself up here! (Random Silver picture frames, wine goblets, random wall hangings, sheet sets one size too small and wrong colors, and none of it from higher quality retailers..) Even if you don't want "box gifts" register somewhere even if it's for 20 items total!!!! Who doesn't need an extra set of their everyday dishes, or silverware???
If they're currently living with her dad space might be an issue in terms of storing gifts and they won't need housewares for a while. Around here cash is the standard wedding gift, so I wouldn't think twice about that.
I am this way too. Make a comment about gifts and you've earned yourself a random azz gift. Gifts are gifts. They are not required. People need to stop acting like they are. It is someone doing something thoughtful for another. Do not try to take the "thought" out of my thoughtful.
I think it is pretty tacky, although I think asking for cash in general is tacky. It's like saying, "we don't want thoughtful gifts, just open your wallets."
I'd be tempted to get her a gift...and put it in a gift bag.
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