I have been so enjoying this board because I am going to be a first time parent. I enjoy being able to ask questions or see if I can reply to someone else. It is also nice to be able to vent a bit just because you want too. I have been enjoying until today, now, I almost want to end being on this board.
I am so disappointed, I could not sleep this morning so I post on here and I get someone asking me what the point of my post was and that I should write a blog but others can vent and complain or whatever and it has been ok. That is why I did it was because I thought that was what this board was for to help each other out.
Now later on the same day I see someone upset that people have more tickers than some like. Does it really matter at the end of the day? You know I had a few too, I liked them this is all new to me and you know maybe after a few days or weeks maybe I would take them down because I have so many who knows but that should be each individuals choice what they want and not be lectured about it.
Those same people who are complaining I look at your and you have pictures, all kinds of info typed that I dont even know what it mean or really want to read it oh yeah and you have tickers. So I am not understanding why someone has a few tickers that you quickly look at and pass by matters to you.
I have to admit now I don't even want to post on here anymore, I am afraid that what ever I say someone is going to bite my head of so now I am cautious of what I post or reply too.
I happend to go on another board the other day just to see how it was and saw some people doing the same things and thought wow our Sept board is cool everyone is nice and goes with the flow. Guess things change.
I was under the impression that this is suppose to be fun and enjoying for new moms, returning moms. Now it is not so much fun for me if I have to watch what I say because someone does not know what the point of my post is. I have seen some posts that I had no idea what they were but I just skipped by them, not a big deal.
I am undecided if I am going to stay, I want too I have been enjoying this the past few days especially since I cant talk to anyone due to not telling most yet.
Oh and so you dont have to scroll to far I deleted most of my tickers for you.
So disappointed
Re: Disappointed in this board :(
Wow - I'm sorry but if what was said offends you enough to write this post and leave the board I don't think that an internet forum is the right place for you.
I wish you luck in your pregnancy.
All I can say is please don't leave. Ignore the petty people. Hopefully they will calm down.
And congrats on your pregnancy! :
Who is cutting who down? Somebody expressing an opinion about the number of tickers is not "cutting" down. This board has been ridiculously nice so far.
Also the ticker thread is petty and stupid and only meant to cut others down. I can understand where she is coming from.
Ummmm... See ya? You have to have a thicker skin to be posting stuff on the Internet. People are going to post stuff that you might not agree with and that's ok... Its not the end of the world...
You and I have a different definition of the term "demeaning"
The ticker thread was started by a poster who was genuinely curious as to why people wanted multiple tickers.
It was very passive agressive.
up. It will be sad to see you go, but good luck and a very healthy and happy pregnancy to you.
These posts never go over well because they fuel the fire. On an open forum you take the *** you like with the *** you don't, and know that its not a reflection of you as a person.
I think you stand to gain a lot if you stay, but you'll also have to roll with the punches to do it. If it helps, we've all been new and posted stuff that hasn't gone over well. You live and you learn!
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Thank you for your response.
This about sums it up! Nicely put. If you think this board is bad, I would avoid the general boards like the trimester boards!
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Also, and this is NOT meant to be mean, demeaning, or god forbid passive aggressive, if you use the quote button to reply we will know who you are talking to.
Hmm. Well here's my opinion. I agree that some people can be a little harsh with the things they say, whether they mean to or not. We are all pregnant and the hormones are making us a little more "aggressive" I guess you would say. I think that everyone here should just make sure they aren't cutting anyone down or making them feel like they can't say anything. On the other end of it, people should be making sure that they aren't posting the same things over and over or making a thread that doesn't really serve much purpose.
Anyway, we all just need to keep an eye on what we're posting. I remember being on the January 2013 moms and they did the same thing there. To the point that I was afraid to post because they'd get so snippy. Let's just all be nice!!! Haha
OK, I don't want to use the pregnancy excuse because I know for a fact that's not why people are expressing their opinions. But, let's just go to fantasyland for a minute and use the pregnancy excuse as the reason for the posts that you disagree with. As you said yourself, our emotions are going crazy... so you expect "emotional" women to just be nice and write about only puppies & rainbows? Really?
But, back to the real world, the internet isn't a "safe place" where everyone will be warm & fuzzy. It's a reflection of the real world where people have opinions that aren't always going to be the same as yours. It's life, in other words. I have heard that babygaga is supposed to be good for warm & fuzzy though if you want to try that.
Yes, I agree that sometimes posts can get a little harsh but I just skip over those ones and read the ones that interest me and are informative. It's not that difficult. And, if someone writes something that you don't like, especially in response to something you wrote, either 1) ignore it, or 2) take a step back, think about it and see if they may have a valid point. If you don't think they have a valid point than go back to option 1 and ignore it.
I am going to ignore my own advice though and skip over ignoring one comment you made regarding multiple tickers vs. all the information some of us may have that you don't understand. I will go on record to say I could care less how many tickers people have, although it can be annoying. But, there's a big difference between someone having multiple tickers that provide the same information in different forms and the paragraphs of information, like in my siggy, that discusses the difficult road some of us have traveled through infertility to get to this point. Our information is not repetitive and while it may not be important to you, it is important to us.
I agree, it should be a happy place
Amen sister.
Yeah, I think that's mainly what happens. If I make a post that could be a repeat I usually go back a couple pages to make sure it wasn't already posted.
What do you know? PLEASE click "Quote" instead of "Reply" when you are responding to someone.
Ironically, I think she was actually saying that she knows how to use the quote button.
Thank you and I totally agree and with the siggy I think that is what it is called the paragraph of information that some write. I honestly had no idea what that was for. But if it was what someone wanted on their post I am all for it, but you can't say that is ok for someone to put that but someone who wants 5 tickers can't put that.
It might mean the same for the other person. All the info that is in the siggy I have never heard of so it was very confusing for me but I just skipped by it and was actually going to ask someone what it meant so I had a better understanding, I would never get upset for someone putting that since especially know I know what it is for it means so much to someone. But then you have to be supportive for the ones that want many tickers. I had 2 for baby, 1 for marriage 1 for my dog and horses birthdays. They mean a lot to me, I have had my horse since I was 13 and she was 3 she is 26 now she is like a child to me and was a huge part of my childhood with my dad who as since passed so for me those mean just as much as your siggy does. Does this make sense?
All of this.
sorry i thought i was
yeah i was messing it up sorry lol kept hitting reply instead of quote when I know I should be hitting quote. I will get it!!!! lol
I'm totally going to steal this in the future.
You had tickers for your dog and your horse's birthdays? Seriously? Well, I'll just end this by saying we are very different people... good luck to you!
thank you good to know, did not know about most of that!!!
Come on Juicy. Your IF journey is just as important as the b-days of her pets. You know that.
yes I did I am an animal lover and working with animals has been my career for the past 16 yrs nurse for animals. My dad used to take me to horse shows when I was young and now he has been going 9yrs this month, the horses were his world and since I have had both my horses for over 20 years to me that is a lot and they are part of the family. My husband and I both care a lot about are animals they are family just like a child would be. (There are differences I am not crazy!!)
Yep!! And, my pets are really important to me too!! Is it okay if I add tickers for each of my 3 dogs and one for my cat? Maybe I'll add one for my husband's birthday too since he's kind of important to me.
OK, now I'm just being mean... Sorry
Well you kind of already have a husband related ticker....but for you...I'll let it slide. My maternity pants apparently have a snarky feature.
If you're old enough to have a baby you should also be old enough to not care what people think. So more tickers annoys some people. Big deal! If you like your tickers and you want them, keep them, someone voicing their opinion on them shouldn't matter one bit. If you're so worried about what others think, especially a bunch of Internet strangers you don't really know, you have a bigger problem, and given that you actually removed your tickers in response to one random thread seems sad to me.
As PPs have said, the Internet is a big and varied place, different people will have all sorts of opinions, beliefs, etc. and you have to be mature and confident enough in who you are as a person to just roll with those differences and not take them all to heart. After all, these are people you really don't know, and comments made one day will be forgotten the next, you just can't be so hyper-sensitive and think everything is personal - because it's not. Either you will get over it, grow a thicker skin and stick around to learn, or you can move on if you're truly not comfortable. It's up to you.
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