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Am I Overreacting?

megnallenmegnallen member
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My DH is insisting that we start using condoms again while I am pregnant. I guess his mom and his cousin has told him that I will probably get pregnant right after I have the baby if we don't use condoms while I am pregnant. Am I overreacting by being so upset by this? I would rather not use them, but  what can I do? He is so paranoid about me getting pregnant again as soon as we have our baby.

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    WashingtonQueenWashingtonQueen member

    imagemegnallen:
    My DH is insisting that we start using condoms again while I am pregnant. I guess his mom and his cousin has told him that I will probably get pregnant right after I have the baby if we don't use condoms while I am pregnant. Am I overreacting by being so upset by this? I would rather not use them, but  what can I do? He is so paranoid about me getting pregnant again as soon as we have our baby.

    This makes no sense.....

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    Jomojack2Jomojack2 member
    After you have the baby would make sense but not while you are pregnant. I don't get the thought process behind that.
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    megnallenmegnallen member
    It doesn't make any sense to me either. I try to tell him it's pointless to use condoms while pregnant but his mother told him that I will become pregnant right after the baby if we don't.....

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    imageWashingtonQueen:

    imagemegnallen:
    My DH is insisting that we start using condoms again while I am pregnant. I guess his mom and his cousin has told him that I will probably get pregnant right after I have the baby if we don't use condoms while I am pregnant. Am I overreacting by being so upset by this? I would rather not use them, but  what can I do? He is so paranoid about me getting pregnant again as soon as we have our baby.

    This makes no sense.....



    I agree. It's not like the sperm will live in there for months. And you aren't supposed to have sex for 6 weeks poatpartum anyway.
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    imagemegnallen:
    It doesn't make any sense to me either. I try to tell him it's pointless to use condoms while pregnant but his mother told him that I will become pregnant right after the baby if we don't.....

    To be honest, his mother sounds like a complete idiot. Huh?

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    pkarenpkaren member
    That is completely ridiculous. 1 sperm won't live that long. 2 I'm pretty sure there's a nothing in the vagina rule for at least six weeks post partum as well.

    There is zero reason for you to use condoms right now. Your MIL is stupid.

    If you absolutely hate condoms you should look into getting an IUD after you have the baby.
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    Julieturner507Julieturner507 member
    Sounds like the perfect question to ask your doctor the next time you guys go. Some people will not believe unless they hear it from a doctor. That is a little crazy, though. I am always amazed how illinformed people are the ones that want to give advice the most.
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    anvloveskmeanvloveskme member
    I'm calling MUD
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    CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
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    I'm calling MUD

    I mean there can't be any other logical explanation for this stupidity...
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    imageCaliforniaDream87:
    imageanvloveskme:
    I'm calling MUD
    I mean there can't be any other logical explanation for this stupidity...
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    imageJulieturner507:
    Sounds like the perfect question to ask your doctor the next time you guys go. Some people will not believe unless they hear it from a doctor. That is a little crazy, though. I am always amazed how illinformed people are the ones that want to give advice the most.

     

    Completely agree, have your doctor convince him that way it won't be a battle between MIL's opinion and yours. 

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    megaboosmommegaboosmom member
    I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who's dumb enough to believe this anyway.
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    Ruger04Ruger04 member
    Not overreacting at all. I would be upset too! Bring it up at our next doctors appointment in front of DH so the doctor can address it! There is no way that I would be okay with using condoms at this point! GL 
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    Lol
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    peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    If this isn't MUD, then you have the dumbest MIL on the planet and I question your husband's intelligence for believing such ridiculousness.
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    andthatmakes4andthatmakes4 member
    imagemegaboosmom:
    I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who's dumb enough to believe this anyway.


    Haha! So true!
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    Peridot0812Peridot0812
    This can't be real. If it is, your husband, his mother and his cousin need a remedial biology class immediately.
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    kje120kje120 member
    You have 32 weeks (give or take) until the baby is born. I think it's weird that he insists on wearing them while you are pregnant, but I can see him wanting to start using them once the baby is born.  Using them now makes no sense.
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    imagepeanut+muse:
    If this isn't MUD, then you have the dumbest MIL on the planet and I question your husband's intelligence for believing such ridiculousness.

    yep


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    imagepeanutmuse:
    If this isn't MUD, then you have the dumbest MIL on the planet and I question your husband's intelligence for believing such ridiculousness.

    This.
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    It makes sense. not so you dont get pregnant again its so YH doesnt impregnate your baby. You dont want your baby born pregnant! do you?!!?
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    imagepkaren:
    That is completely ridiculous. 1 sperm won't live that long. 2 I'm pretty sure there's a nothing in the vagina rule for at least six weeks post partum as well. There is zero reason for you to use condoms right now. Your MIL is stupid. If you absolutely hate condoms you should look into getting an IUD after you have the baby.

    Actually there is a rule for most patients after giving vaginal birth that you do not have sex for 6 weeks post partum.

    Please educate yourself on birth and after birth before releasing misinformation on the board. For many women this is their first pregnancy and birth. This is my 3rd. So I have done the birth thing a few times.

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    imagepkaren:
    That is completely ridiculous. 1 sperm won't live that long. 2 I'm pretty sure there's a nothing in the vagina rule for at least six weeks post partum as well. There is zero reason for you to use condoms right now. Your MIL is stupid. If you absolutely hate condoms you should look into getting an IUD after you have the baby.

    Actually there is a rule for most patients after giving vaginal birth that you do not have sex for 6 weeks post partum.

    Please educate yourself on birth and after birth before releasing misinformation on the board. For many women this is their first pregnancy and birth. This is my 3rd. So I have done the birth thing a few times.

    Whoops sorry read that wrong hahaha! I thought you meant you are allowed to have sex during post partum

    Damn pregnancy brain!

    Sorry poster!

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    imagepeanut+muse:
    If this isn't MUD, then you have the dumbest MIL on the planet and I question your husband's intelligence for believing such ridiculousness.

    This! 


         

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    amarissa85amarissa85 member
    This made my head hurt for the sheer stupidity.
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    hungryhippohungryhippo member
    imagebakes4u:

    imagepkaren:
    That is completely ridiculous. 1 sperm won't live that long. 2 I'm pretty sure there's a nothing in the vagina rule for at least six weeks post partum as well.

    There is zero reason for you to use condoms right now. Your MIL is stupid.

    If you absolutely hate condoms you should look into getting an IUD after you have the baby.

    Actually there is a rule for most patients after giving vaginal birth that you do not have sex for 6 weeks post partum.

    Please educate yourself on birth and after birth before releasing misinformation on the board. For many women this is their first pregnancy and birth. This is my 3rd. So I have done the birth thing a few times.



    I think you misunderstood her post. You are repeating exacting what she said... nothing in the vagina for at least 6 weeks post partum.

    The phrase, nothing in the vagina, is inclusive of no sex.
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    This made my head hurt for the sheer stupidity.

     Agree.  

     

     

     

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    imagemegaboosmom:
    I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who's dumb enough to believe this anyway.

     This!

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    imagebakes4u:

    imagepkaren:
    That is completely ridiculous. 1 sperm won't live that long. 2 I'm pretty sure there's a nothing in the vagina rule for at least six weeks post partum as well. There is zero reason for you to use condoms right now. Your MIL is stupid. If you absolutely hate condoms you should look into getting an IUD after you have the baby.

    Actually there is a rule for most patients after giving vaginal birth that you do not have sex for 6 weeks post partum.

    Please educate yourself on birth and after birth before releasing misinformation on the board. For many women this is their first pregnancy and birth. This is my 3rd. So I have done the birth thing a few times.

    I think you misunderstood her post. You are repeating exacting what she said... nothing in the vagina for at least 6 weeks post partum. The phrase, nothing in the vagina, is inclusive of no sex.

    Did you read my post after that post?

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    So what you are telling us is that your husband is cheating on you and doesn't want to expose you and the baby to his new girlfriend's STD's. Gotcha.

     

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    WashingtonQueenWashingtonQueen member

    imageanvloveskme:
    imageCaliforniaDream87:
    imageanvloveskme:
    I'm calling MUD
    I mean there can't be any other logical explanation for this stupidity...
    . Yet still not as good as the blow drying the vag scare on July 2013 BMB

    Link?

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    imageScarletOflaherty:
    So what you are telling us is that your husband is cheating on you and doesn't want to expose you and the baby to his new girlfriend's STD's. Gotcha.nbsp;MUD.nbsp;


    I agree. Something else is up.
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    imagebakes4u:
    imagehungryhippo:
    imagebakes4u:

    imagepkaren:
    That is completely ridiculous. 1 sperm won't live that long. 2 I'm pretty sure there's a nothing in the vagina rule for at least six weeks post partum as well.

    There is zero reason for you to use condoms right now. Your MIL is stupid.

    If you absolutely hate condoms you should look into getting an IUD after you have the baby.

    Actually there is a rule for most patients after giving vaginal birth that you do not have sex for 6 weeks post partum.

    Please educate yourself on birth and after birth before releasing misinformation on the board. For many women this is their first pregnancy and birth. This is my 3rd. So I have done the birth thing a few times.



    I think you misunderstood her post. You are repeating exacting what she said... nothing in the vagina for at least 6 weeks post partum.

    The phrase, nothing in the vagina, is inclusive of no sex.

    Did you read my post after that post?



    No, your post was the last one on the thread at the time. I think you and I must have been posting at the same time. Sorry about that!
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    It's Tuesday! Happy New year!

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    It makes sense. not so you dont get pregnant again its so YH doesnt impregnate your baby. You dont want your baby born pregnant! do you?!!?


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    imageScarletOflaherty:
    So what you are telling us is that your husband is cheating on you and doesn't want to expose you and the baby to his new girlfriend's STD's. Gotcha.nbsp;MUD.nbsp;

    This is exactly what I was thinking! Something's fishy here.....

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    It's Tuesday! Happy New year!

     

    Party!!!

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    skreedrakeskreedrake member

    First of all, no. Just... no.

    Second of all, why is your MIL commenting on your and your H's sex life, anyway? I find that a little creepy.

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