My whole life I always thought I wanted 4 kids. As I got older, I thought maybe 3 or 4. Now, after having one and another on the way, I'm seriously considering only having two. In fact, if this LO is a boy I think there is a very good chance we'll be done. (At least, that's how I feel now, maybe in a couple of years things will change).
I love DD more than anything and we're so excited to have another LO, but there is something very appealing about getting my body back, getting past the newborn stage for good, etc.
Anyone else have this change of heart? Or, after actually having #2 are you back to thinking about having more?
Re: if you always wanted 3 or more, have you since changed your mind?
I havent 100% decided, but I definitely am singing a different tune now #2 is here. I like the idea of being done with the infant stage (admittedly, I dont like the newborn phase!). I'm not ready anytime soon to be pregnant again, but I don't feel like getting to the point where I have 2 more independent children then starting all over again. I had a rougher recovery from #2 than with #1, so I just dont really feel like going through pregnancy/childbirth again.
I might be singing a different tune next year, but for now I'm leaning towards only having 2 kids.
That's originally what we wanted as well, but it didn't work out that way....
Yeah, we wanted two close and then a space and then another two close. We basically got 3 back to back to back. If we have another one in 3 years, then in my mind that child needs a budy so we would have to have 2. Plus I have 2 step sons. That would total 7 kids. I really hope I am done but since I wont do anything permanent I can only hope I dont get any surprises.
Granted, I'm still baking no. 2, but I still want 3. And actually, DD is such a sweet, easy girl, I'd consider more than 3 if this baby is the same. I just love this stage of life and I'm not looking forward to letting it go. Plus, I have PCOS and need help to get pg, so a lot of us having more kids depends on keeping the current insurance we have. After this one is born, we'll re-evaluate and I'm guessing we'll probably go for no. 3, then let DH make work decisions without considering the IF insurance, which will likely take us away from this great coverage at some point and take the possibility of further kids off the table. I don't want to the IF to dictate our family planning, but without the insurance, we just won't be able to afford it, especially with me SAH.
ETA (now that I've read through the other responses lol): I also had an easy pregnancy, except for DD's birth, and this one has been easy so far, too. Plus, we are both still pretty young - 25 and 27. I think we might change our minds if we have another preemie, or if I ended up on bedrest or something. I also need to get better at housekeeping/general organization, I suck at it and I think it'll get worse if there's more kids.
LOL! Sometimes the best laid plans don't work out exactly as you want them. We are more than happy with our 3, and since we really don't want to be overextended (financially, emotionally, etc.), for us, 3 is perfect.
GL!!!
We *might* have one more, but it would be planned a few years done the road. But on the flip side, I think if we wait too long and get too far past the baby stage, we won't want a #3. I kind of think we are both done, but just don't want to say it out loud.
Also, unless we move or our financial situation drastically changes (for example, I don't think our children will ever go to public school for various reasons), I think #3 we mean some sacrifices we don't want to make for our kids, or ourselves frankly.
A year ago, I wanted three or four kids. Now, I am on the fence about TTC #3 soon, or being done. I hate being pg. I was so sick and tired during my pregnancies, and I didn't feel like I was a good enough mom to DD1 while I was pg with DD2. I know it's a short period of time when looking at the big picture, but I am not sure I want to feel that way with two little ones to care for.
If we do go for #3, I want to do it soon so I can get being pg over with once and for all. Also I have PCOS and endometriosis, and if getting pg again proved difficult, we are happy enough with the two we have that I don't see us going to the trouble and expense of going through treatments. I'm very lucky to have these two little ladies.
I could have written this (except the if-he-is-a-boy part - I have two girls and I don't see the need to have a boy to be done). I have always wanted 5-6 kids. But now I really can't imagine it. Not least because pregnancy is really hard on me and I've done it three times in three years (m/c with my first). DH wants at least one more, but I'm really happy the way things are. And if we do decide we want to grow our family, I am pushing him to consider adoption.
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I think I went through a period of feeling "done" with each pregnancy and after each birth. It's once the kids hit around 6 months old that I felt ready to think about having more.
DH and I always wanted 4 kids and now that we have 4, we are done. I'm ready to move on to the next phase in our lives.
(m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
DS - 03.15.08
DD2 - 12.03.09
DD3 - 3.28.11
We always thought we wanted 3, but now we're not so sure. 3 is a whole new ball game. Bigger house, bigger car, more furniture...etc.
What we decided was this: After #2, I'm going on Mirena and we are going to wait 2-3 years to think about it (and to get my body back in shape). Neither of us are going to be making any permanent decisions for a while.