I went to school with this freaking gem from preschool through high school graduation. She has two daughters and a LO on the way. She is constantly complaining about her little girls as if they are the spawn of Satan. (For instance, if they are having a wound-up kind of day, she will actually post on FB that she wishes she never had children bc they are "turning into little biiitches.") It makes upset, of course, but she always ends each post with "Don't judge, especially if you don't have kids!" but I can't help but be Judgy McJudgerson, bc I find it pretty inappropriate. I know I should just delete her sorry@ss...
FFWD to today. I am busy, but of COURSE, I just had to check my FB and the bump and I saw her latest update.
I will share:
"FRIEND" is in a panic sadly only because my cigarettes are MIA. I've scoured the building high and low, faced unthinkable peril to no avail. they are just *sob* gone . on a lighter note, this should be a pretty smooth and easy day otherwise...and yes, I know I shouldn't be smoking... kindly keep your opinions on the matter to yourself :P
3 comments :
Response 1: I smoked with both pregnancy's and my girls are all fine...
Response 2 (FROM FRIEND WHO MADE POST) : I did too with the first 2. i keep joking that im ensuring an easy delivery by lowering the birth rate...not everyone shares my sense of humor though
Response 3: i think i smoked more pregnant than i do know from all the stress and yes everyone i came in contact with had something to say about it. my son was 3 weeks early and weighed 7.1 and almost 20 inches long. could u imagine how big that kid would have been if i went full term.
Flame me if you want. I don't care. This is just, WOW!
I may have to post and run, as I have a bunch to do today, but I hope my ladies are all doing well!!!!!
Re: FB Vent!
I judge, usually silently, but I always judge.
And sorry if it offends anyone on here, but smoking during a pregnancy is stupid (I know it is an addiction and I do have sympathy for that aspect) but basically bragging about it is even more stupid.
I would have to delete her as a friend. I don't think I could read that stuff.
In general I have noticed that people really overshare on FB. This is a perfect example. I have learned SO much about people via FB that I wish I didn't know!
Wooooow. I am Judgy McJudgerson too! That is SO stupid. I was a big smoker before getting pregnant myself and it was tough to quit but I did for the safety of my baby. Regardless of whether a baby comes out "fine" or not if you smoke it still doesn't make it okay.
Your "friend" sounds like a moron.
That being said I have a friend due 3 days after me and she is still steadily smoking during her pregnancy without any intention to quit. It's not my place to say something but I still get annoyed and judge her poor decisions.
I'm sorry, but what an effing selfish biitch!! Seriously, my stupid SIL smoked during her pregnancy and now her daughter is 3 and has asthma. She can't even keep up with my DD because she can't breathe after running for two minutes.
I would LOVE to just throatpunch that douchebag FB friend of yours.
Um, this.
This exactly. Wow, just wow.
this. It's unbelievable how she doesn't even care! I would have not held back and would have tossed my 2 cents in before I deleted her. She deserves to know shes won the prize of douchbag mom of the year.
no kidding. if you don't want to be judged, you don't have to tell people all the stupid *** you're doing!
OBH...please, please, please pretty please with sugar on top....de-friend this person. I de-friended the little sister of a friend of mine because she is 19 years old, (was) pregnant with her second child, and kept posting trashy pictures of herself almost nude throughout her pregnancy!
Yuck...actually, I would send her email as to why you're de-friending her and ask her to not contact you anymore.
I feel sorry for her kids...!
Completely selfish. I have unfriended people at lesser offenses.
And i love the people who throw in the "don't judge". Everyone judges. It's called forming an opinion.
wow....is right. Seriously there is nothing I hate more than seeing a pregnant woman smoking. I feel like they are just putting on a sign that says, I'm selfish and I don't give a crap about my baby already. You would think she'd be embarrassed by it, but instead she's announcing it to the world! soooo yeah, wow! And calling your kids names....seriously?! How kids act, I think are a direct reflection of their parents.....soooo hmmmmm.....
ps - hope your internal wasn't so bad!!! ) I had mine today too, 2cm....yay!
This sucks, because I busted my butt to quit, I felt like a failure because it took me almost a month after I found out I was pregnant to quit, my husband quit too so I would not be tempted. But I quit. I went from 2-3 packs a day to zero because the baby inside me should get first priority, and he was not even actually planned. Sheesh really? if you want to keep smoking that bad, start back up later, or use birth control.
Yeah maybe baby was just fine at birth, but they can develop issues later on, and really, they want to have a baby who has to come off nicotine? Right after birth? Like this is not hard enough?
Sorry it upsets me because I did not want to quit smoking, I liked it, and it was not easy to quit cold turkey, but after 15 years of smoking I did it. So anyone who does not, well call me judgy, but they are being lazy. I had quit using pills 3 times and went right back to it. This is the longest I have ever quit and we plan on staying quit for our baby. Grr sorry, sore spot, if I can do it, anyone can.
This! I smoked quite a bit, and I will admit, it was really difficult to quit. Really difficult. I hated life for a few weeks there. But I quit. I am so proud of myself for doing it, and I know my daughter will be better off.
AAAAGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!! I'm almost crying about how horrible that is... tell her off and then delete her! please!
I'm with you--and I wouldn't be able to hold my tongue.
Brady Phoenix, 8.29.09
Claire Zoe, 10.26.10
FWIW, I did block/delete her, as I previously stated. If you read the other posts after my original one, you could see that. Her other status updates sucked but not nearly this bad. Growing up, she and I were friends so that is why I was friends with her on FB to begin with.
I did not tell her off or tell her how horrible it was before deleting her though. That is a wussy thing to do, I think. I don't want to tell her off and run and hide, you know? She will get hers. She obviously doesn't care and there's nothing I can do to change her mind. I do wish her children well though.