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Did Shettles Method work for you? (Boy/Girl conception timing)

Hi all, Wondering if any of you used the Shettles Method to conceive? (where you have sex early in your ovulation cycle to have a girl and later in the cycle to have a boy).

Our first time around we did have sex more toward the end of my ovulation cycle because we wanted a boy and we got one! But that could be coincidence because the end of your cycle is simply the most effective time to have sex.

I ask because this time we want a girl, and I worry that only having sex 3-5 days before ovulation may mean no baby at all.


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Re: Did Shettles Method work for you? (Boy/Girl conception timing)

  • Have no idea. Didn't try Shettles, particularly after reading some articles that point out there are significantly more contributing factors than your ovulation. Numerous studies have disproven it; Google around. 

     

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  • No idea. We just did the "have sex" method for 3 years, then finally we got pregnant. we didn't care what we were having.

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  • I can't say.

    I think your first might have been a very good coincidence. Sperm is said to carry the gene that determines sex. I don't see how that can be true, but gender is affected by the beginning/end of ovulation cycle.. But I'm no expert.

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    I can't say.

    I think your first might have been a very good coincidence. Sperm is said to carry the gene that determines sex. I don't see how that can be true, but gender is affected by the beginning/end of ovulation cycle.. But I'm no expert.

    The sperm decides the sex because it carries the X or the Y chromosome.  Men =XY Women=XX. 

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  • If you look at my chart and our timing, the Shettles Method worked for us to get a boy (but we weren't trying specifically for one, just a baby).  I don't know how reliable it is though since this is our first.  Honestly, it all boils down to whatever sperm got there the fastest.  
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    I can't say.

    I think your first might have been a very good coincidence. Sperm is said to carry the gene that determines sex. I don't see how that can be true, but gender is affected by the beginning/end of ovulation cycle.. But I'm no expert.

    OK, why answer then?  Shettles is the theory that xy sperm are faster and weaker, so you want to have sex as close to ovulation as possible (the woman should also orgasm after the man, and I hear there are diet factors involved).  Xx sperm are supposedly slower and hardier, so you should have sex before ovulation so the xy sperm die off without making it to the egg (the woman should orgasm before the man or not at all, plus whatever diet factors).

    We did not follow Shettles but had sex close to ovulation last time and had a boy.  We had it close-ish to ovulation but not the same day this time.  I don't know what we're having yet.

    Like PPs said, this theory is just that and some studies have shown that it doesn't work. 

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  • We weren't trying the shettles method, however, we were trying to conceive with both our girls and the first was conceived after sex 3 days before Ovulation and the second was five days before. Both girls. This baby was concieved the day of ovulation, and I dont find out the sex until the 2nd of August, but curious! I know a lot of people who have tried it and been successful. 
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  • Shettles has been disproven. There may be differences between male and female sperm but there is still roughly a 50/50 chance. This is our third pregnancy and we had sex the same days in my cycle, according to BBT and OPKs, which was every other day leading up to a positive OPK, the day before and the day of ovulation. We have a boy, girl, and twin boys on the way.
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  • It wasn't intentional, but our timing and the sex of our children falls in line up with the Shettles Method theory.
  • It's a race between X and Y sperm. I think you can ovulate early or late, do it missionary or doggie style, stand on your head or arch your back and none of it will matter. It's still a 50/50 race of sperm. IMO!
  • Well, who knows which sperm really hit the egg, but I'm having a girl and we hit o minus 4, 1 and o. I suppose it's possible the 4 days before o conceived our girl but we weren't timing it.

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  • Had sex at the last possible second with both of mine, which should mean boy.  Both were girls.  It's a disproven theory.
  • We had sex every day for both of my pregnancies. First one was a girl, this one is a boy. We were just trying to get pregnant, so I was not avoiding sex near ovulation.

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    I can't say.

    I think your first might have been a very good coincidence. Sperm is said to carry the gene that determines sex. I don't see how that can be true, but gender is affected by the beginning/end of ovulation cycle.. But I'm no expert.

    OK, why answer then?  Shettles is the theory that xy sperm are faster and weaker, so you want to have sex as close to ovulation as possible (the woman should also orgasm after the man, and I hear there are diet factors involved).  Xx sperm are supposedly slower and hardier, so you should have sex before ovulation so the xy sperm die off without making it to the egg (the woman should orgasm before the man or not at all, plus whatever diet factors).

    We did not follow Shettles but had sex close to ovulation last time and had a boy.  We had it close-ish to ovulation but not the same day this time.  I don't know what we're having yet.

    Like PPs said, this theory is just that and some studies have shown that it doesn't work. 

    I just want to say that typical sperm only have ONE chromosome, either X or Y.

    To the OP: Shettles seems like BS. GL TTC, though!

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  • I was only temping for the last two, but we weren't trying Shettles, specifically, for any of our kids.  Anyway, I got PG the day I O'd with baby #3... he's a boy.  This baby was a complete surprise, but we had sex 5 days before I O'd and got KTFU.  We'll find out on August 30th what it is, but if Shettles is correct at all, it should 100% be a girl, right??  We'll see.  I'm thinking boy, actually.
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  • I only had sex 2 and 3 days before I ovulated, no sex between then and  BFP.  I'm having a boy, if that means anything.
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  • If our gender scan was right at 17 weeks then no, shettles would not have worked. We were not TTC but the deed that produced our little spawn (the ONLY one that could've been possible) was 3-4 days before O. We were told at our scan that is was probably a boy, but last week during a quick scan the midwife didn't see any boy bits so we'll find out the final word in 2 weeks (hopefully).
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  • We were having sex daily when I conceived and we're having a girl... So this a moot point for us.

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  • We were not trying for either......actually we were trying to avoid that cycle. We had sex once 4 or 5 days before O. Shettles says we should be having a girl, but we've got a little peen growing in there. So I say Shettles is a load of crap and it is just all up to the universe as to what you'll get. I wouldn't use any method like that - you're likely not conceive or be disappointed. Just my thoughts though.
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  • Um, yes and no.

    With my first two, we had lots of sex before, during and after ovulation. We had two boys. We weren't following Shettles, but it the genders did line up with the theory.

    This time we had sex twice, and 3 and 5 days before ovulation, trying for a girl. We're having another boy unless Harmony is wrong.

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  • My son was conceived five days before o. Untrue for me. 
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  • Thanks so much ladies!!! This basically tells me it's a crock and we'll just go at it like bunnies and see what happens.

    Congrats on all your bumps!

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