November 2012 Moms

Advice for Nov 13 moms?

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind me posting here! I was just wondering if any of you had advice for a first time mom due this November.

Did you do anything while prepping for baby that you regret?

Is there anything you didn't do that you regret not doing?

The one thing you had in your hospital bag that you couldn't live without?

"life saving" gadgets, or techniques that got you through those first few weeks/months?

Anything else? Thanks ladies


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  • there wasnt a single thing in my bag that i couldnt live without, honestly.  They sell everything there so you pack what you think you need and worst case, either DH grabs what you need at home or you buy. 

    I packed underwear, never wore it

    Massage oil, never used it

    candles, never lit them

    werthers originals, never opened

    etc.

    I regret not taking newborn pro pics ;(

    Also, i regret not letting anyone take my picture pregnant.

    I also regret that our camera was broken and didnt work in the delivery room.  Luckily our nurse was nice enough to take some with her phone and send them to us.

    Congrats and good luck!  My little sister is pregnant and due in november, too

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  • I too regret not taking professional newborn pics.

    I packed all sorts of snacks, didn't eat any of them until the day before we got out of the hospital and that was only because we had visitors. The nurses were great about bringing  us whatever we wanted food and snack wise.

    The absolute necessities? Car seat, an outfit for the baby, and something comfy to wear to the car. I had an emergency c-section, luckily I bought lounge pants with a soft waist, otherwise it would have been brutal wearing anything with a tight waist. 

    Also, an empty tote bag so you can take home lots of diapers/blankets/other necessities from the hospital. 

    Lifesaving gadget was the Moby. 

  • Here is what I regret, personally:

    Not spending enough skin to skin time with my newborn, both in the hospital and at home. I wish I had limited visitors and just spent time with my baby. I would have taken my Moby to the hospital so I could have worn LO in the hospital bed.  I also wish I had let people help me more.

    Life saving gadget was my Moby. 

    You don't need much at the hospital, but I liked having my own robe.

    If you haven't already, watch (or read) The Happiest Baby on the Block


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    Also, an empty tote bag so you can take home lots of diapers/blankets/other necessities from the hospital. 

     

    yes on the extra bag... we had tons of diapers and supplies from the hospital I think he took 3 loads down to the car while we were getting checked out....

     

     

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  • I wish I had brought my boppy to the hospital to get us started with bf'ing.  Those hospital pillows are terrible for everything, especially propping up lo to nurse.

    I should have brought pacifiers, too.  The crazy LC's at my hospital have banned them from the premises.

    Also, the LC's prohibit the nurses from even offering formula.  The second night in the hospital was suuuper tough from a nursing perspective.   When it was time to nurse, you know every 45 min. or so, it would end up with the baby screaming at my nipple, me sobbing and DH calling the poor nurse. 

    Finally, the nurse was like, "listen, I'm not allowed to tell you that if you give him an ounce of formula you all can get a little sleep and try again when you're not so frustrated."  So, I asked for the formula, he ate an ounce, slept for the longest he'd slept since right after he was born, and we all tried again when weren't so frustrated.  It totally was not a big deal and in no way scarred him for life, or ruined our breastfeeding.  Neither did the paci, and our pedi said she thinks everyone should use pacis with newborns bc they reduce the risk of SIDS. 

    I finally did pull the plug on nursing and ended up pumping for about 6mo.  So, come on back if you have questions about that some day. 

    "A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."


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  • Gear-wise, (I'm just full of wisdom today, right?) we couldn't have made it through the first bit without the Rock-n-play and Aden+Anais blankets (they're really worth the $). 

    ETA:  No one ever told me that plain old fashioned blue Dawn dish soap would be so useful.  It really gets greasy breastmilk residue off of bottles and what not, and doesn't leave an aftertaste because it rinses so clean.  Also, it's great to pre-treat breastmilk poop stains before you launder (and wash in cold water). 

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    Here is what I regret, personally:

    Not spending enough skin to skin time with my newborn, both in the hospital and at home. I wish I had limited visitors and just spent time with my baby. I would have taken my Moby to the hospital so I could have worn LO in the hospital bed.  I also wish I had let people help me more.

    Life saving gadget was my Moby. 

    You don't need much at the hospital, but I liked having my own robe.

    If you haven't already, watch (or read) The Happiest Baby on the Block

    I agree on the skin to skin and baby time... tons of time for visitors later.... its time to focus on baby

     

     

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  • I had my Boppy in the hospital and I wish I had had My Breast Friend instead.
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  • Wow, thank you ladies. Several of these things are things that hadn't even crossed my mind! I really, really appreciate the advice.

    So much to learn........ 

    Congrats to all of you on your Nov '12 babies!


  • Definitely agree that babywearing devices are lifesavers.

    Only stuff I wish I'd had more of in the hospital was clothes. I didn't want to wear hospital gown much after day 1. Also food... Our hospital food was terrible so we ended up having take out a few times, but I wouldn't worry about that ahead of time.

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    Thanks from another N13 mom to be!
    Very helpful info
  • Two more things, since you asked..

    1. Maybe this is because my pregnancy/labor delivery was relatively easy, but I wish I'd spent more time worrying/learning about what to do once the kid arrives and less time on the giving birth process.

    2. I wish I'd know what a racket daycare enrollment is and that you can't just put your name on a waiting list and expect to be called when there's an opening.
                                                          
                                                     
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  • White noise app!!!

    And what everyone else said.

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    White noise app!!!

    And what everyone else said.


    Oh HELL yes. Yes yes yes.
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  • I couldn't live without my Boppy, bathrobe and blanket from home.  I hate the hospital blankets!  My SO also enjoyed having a comfy warm familiar blanket to sleep with on his cot :)

     I was a second time mom, but had to have an emergency c-section so I wasn't prepared for that!  I lived in sweats (brought yoga pants, but they hurt my incision) and tanks in the hospital.  I thankfully brought my blow dryer, makeup and toiletries - 4 days there was draining and it was nice to feel a bit normal esp when we had visitors.

    I regret not buying a Rock & Play prior to her arrival.  After 4 weeks of no sleep, we ran out one morning and got it as a last resort. She started sleeping through the night @ 6 weeks and spent most nights in it until about 5 months old.  A life saver!  Also couldn't live without gas drops.

    Bring baby blankets to the hospital. I didn't like the scratchy, washed a million times ones that they provided.  I'm also not a fan of their hats or onesies so I had gowns for her in the bag. It helped as I had to be there 4 days and we had a lot of visitors (pics). 

    I started pumping the second week and SO would give her a bottle so I could sleep.  I know it's not "recommended" - but as I said this was my second and we didn't have issues with either baby using a pacie or bottles.  Both BF like champs and I was SO grateful for the extra sleep and knowing she would eat if I wasn't around for some reason. 

     Oh, and don't open diapers until you use them!  I received a bunch from family, and opened them to put away in her diaper stacker, bins, etc.  Before I knew it, she would grow out of a size and they were not returnable!  She also had reactions to the Target & Luvs brand so those packages had to be donated.  I bought big boxes in preparation yet couldn't use them....

    Good luck! 

  • To elaborate:

    My most favorite things were also the rock and play, aiden and Anais blankets, and the nosefrida.

    In the hospital, I had cheap target lounge pants and also a cheap night shirt. I got lanolin on everything, which stains, so beware if you use it. I didn't do anything special during delivery. Except, you know, deliver my child. We brought a horrible cat picture to be funny, but I kind of lost my sense of humor during transition.

    If you're planning to nurse, I LIVED in ribbed cotton tanks from the Gap and skipped a bra for a long time. They were easy to nurse in, a little supportive, and didn't feel like burning sandpaper on my nips.

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  • Sorry, thought of something else!  If you see a great sale or have a shower, stock up on things for older babies.  I bought a high chair, exercauser, toys and 6-9 month onesies (can be worn year round, they are currently her summer wardrobe!), teethers, etc while I was pregnant.  It was beyond great to have these things ahead of time.  We didn't have to blow a ton of money when the time came, and we got really good deals while I was pregnant using sales, coupons, etc.  I started using the high chair around 4.5 months - time really does fly and before you know it you will need these things!  

    It was awesome to have drawers full of bigger clothing too, sleepers especially.  Being a winter baby, we didn't go out much at all so she wore them 24/7.  

  • I second the newborn pics, more skin to skin, and I wish I started babywearing from the beginning.  I'm trying it now and I feel like it would be easier if she was used to it.

    I also wish I shoved my face full of every kind of food before going to the hospital.  Once I was there, I couldn't eat and she was born 27 hours after my water broke.

    I forgot a headband in my hospital bag (the stretchy, sporty kind) - I really, really wish I remembered it.

    Ditto to the white noise app.  And Happiest Baby on the Block.  Pretty much what everyone else said, I have nothing new to offer. :)

     

    Oh - I got a bunch of cute outfits, but the kid lived in her sleep n plays for the first few months.  They are so easy and were nice and warm for the winter.  I had my mom go out and buy more. 

  • What everyone said.

    Also, getting the diapers and stuff, but don't forget all the aftercare stuff for mom! The pads, sprays, peri bottle, creams. Anything and everything.

    Never be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

    I got the newborn pics in the hospital. So glad I did. I love looking at them.

    You will feel much better in your own clothes.

     




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    Two more things, since you asked.. 1. Maybe this is because my pregnancy/labor delivery was relatively easy, but I wish I'd spent more time worrying/learning about what to do once the kid arrives and less time on the giving birth process. 2. I wish I'd know what a racket daycare enrollment is and that you can't just put your name on a waiting list and expect to be called when there's an opening.

     

    HOLY COW YEEESSS TO  BOTH OF THESE

  • Read the Happiest Baby on the Block BEFORE LO's birth, not at 12 am as you hold your baby because you have no idea what to do.  Try not to let LO  get overtired; that's when mine would scream like there's no tomorrow.  I waited til 5 mos to CIO; probably should have done it sooner...would have saved me a lot of grief!
  • when you get the sleep and plays... get the zip up ones (childrens place or gerber I think)  daddy got frustrated with the little snaps and his big ol fingers ... nothing worse than a frustrated daddy

     

     

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  • Thanks mamas!! It's been a few years and you reminded me of many things I had forgotten!!
    Ugh lanolin stains on my good nursing clothes ::mobile mad face::
  • I'm a little late to this party, but I'll chime in too...

    I REALLY regret not have maternity pics (not the cheesy ones, but some really good ones) and newborn pics done. 

    I didnt take much to the hospital, but really wish I would have taken a lightweight robe to wear over the gowns. And take a notebook or something to write down feedings, changes, etc. and to remember the nurses names.  I had some fabulous ones and can't remember their names for the life of me now.  

    I really wish someone would have told me to start pumping in the hospital. G had latch issues which contributed to my supply issues and I think if I would have pumped more, we could have successfully BF'd.  Ditto on the skin to skin. 

    Most of all, just enjoy your baby!  Don't stress about schedules and seeing visitors and doing everything "right". You will be a great mom, even though you will doubt yourself 1,000 times a day.  

  • Don't try to rush anything.

    I feel like I wished away the birthing process and the newborn stage, and it was over before I knew it.

    Try to get back out into the world as soon as its safe for you and baby. Try not to shelter them too much.

    Being cooped up always made me feel worse. B got used to being out and about quick and luckily never got sick. That made getting back into the swing of things easier.

    As for newborn must haves... The PPs covered a lot. Here are a few things I loved and wish I would have had..

    Adan and Anais extra large swaddle blankets were great. Fold them in half to form a triangle. It makes them warmer and easiest to swaddle. I still use them often.

    Zipper sleep and plays, way easier for MOTN changes. I think. DH says the same.

    I wish we had a bedside cosleeper, rather than the PnP in our room. I think I would have liked that better.

    Rock n Play. So easy to take with you where ever you go and most babies love them. Worth every penny!

    Good luck ladies!!

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  • My bathrobe and yoga pants were pretty much all I wore for my five night stay in the hospital.

    FFIL paid for the hospital newborn photo session, and I am so, so glad that he did! We brought a couple different outfits in different sizes for DS to wear. I do wish I had brought snacks with me. I completely lost my appetite after DS was born, so I couldn't eat any of the hospital food. I think I would have been able to eat smaller snacks though.

    A shower chair at home was a lifesaver the first couple weeks at home. It made showering SO much easier. FI's sister also went grocery shopping for us while I was in the hospital. If you can, do freezer meals or stock up on healthy snacks beforehand.

    Oh, and my main advice is do what you need to survive those first few weeks or months. It only matters what's best for you and your family. And yeah, scary staying at home 24 7 with this tiny stranger that completely relies on you. If you have a chance to take a break, even more a few minutes, do it!
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    White noise app!!!

    And what everyone else said.


    Oh HELL yes. Yes yes yes.

    Yes!!! So much good advice here! And the skin to skin is so important. I would've spent more time focused on that and BFing
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    I second the newborn pics, more skin to skin, and I wish I started babywearing from the beginning.  I'm trying it now and I feel like it would be easier if she was used to it.

    I also wish I shoved my face full of every kind of food before going to the hospital.  Once I was there, I couldn't eat and she was born 27 hours after my water broke.

    I forgot a headband in my hospital bag (the stretchy, sporty kind) - I really, really wish I remembered it.

    Ditto to the white noise app.  And Happiest Baby on the Block.  Pretty much what everyone else said, I have nothing new to offer. :)

     

    Oh - I got a bunch of cute outfits, but the kid lived in her sleep n plays for the first few months.  They are so easy and were nice and warm for the winter.  I had my mom go out and buy more. 

    Yes. Zippered sleep n plays were it for a while.

                                                          
                                                     
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  • You ladies are fantastic! Thank you SO MUCH for the words of wisdom. Seriously, thank you for taking a minute to help us out :)

  • I agree with what everyone here has mentioned. Especially buying things that you will use when baby is older. My DH is awesome at research and getting the best deals with what coupons we had and what sales were going on. We bought all of our big merchandise, high chair, exersaucer, rock n play, johnny jump up, activity mat, way early on.

    Also, enjoy the newborn phase! I know you will wish it away at 2 am but believe us when we say it goes extremely fast!

    Good luck and I think I speak for all of us when I say to contact this board anytime you have questions or just need to talk to someone!
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