When we announced my pregnancy, my sister-in-law insisted that she wanted to throw me a shower. Since we'd had a surprise wedding and no wedding showers, I agreed as a way to make amends. That was in December....in February, she finally asked me for dates that worked. I gave he what appeared to fit my calendar, and she replied that it didn't work for ANOTHER SIL (warning sign #1, I know).
At no point did she ask me about a guest list, and when I would ask about the size of the shower, or who was invited, she wouldn't give me direct answers (warning sign #2).
At Easter brunch, she blindsides me with the fact that she's reserved a party room at a local hotel, and that the shower would be a "lunchy thing" (if this woman knew anything about me, she'd know how much of a bad idea this is). When I voiced concerned to her about (A) the size of the shower she's planning and (B) the STILL mysterious guest list, I was told that all I had to do was show up and smile and she didn't see what the big deal is (despite me explaining that I'm an introvert with social anxiety and how much I'd like a few friends there to make me a bit more secure---a request that she DENIED, saying this was a family shower).
Today, I find out that the guest list includes my MIL's friends, and women who are married to the sons of those friends (none of whom I've actually met). Should I :
A) bring some of my friends along (after RSVP-ing them as MY guests)
not show up since it's obvious that the shower isn't about me at all?
C) show up and leave if my anxiety flares up?
Really could use some help on this....