My mom bfed my brother and me. So obviously she knows what she is doing. Except....she doesn't. She said that I "bit" her, so she stopped bfing me. She also said that I STTN as soon as I got home from the hospital. When I told her that newborns need to be fed every 3 hours at night, she said, "You do not wake a sleeping baby. When you can get 6 hours of sleep a night, take it." She also criticized my friend (not to her face, just behind her back to me) for bfing her children based on hunger cues and not just crying. She also said that you need to eat a lot of custard to help your milk come in. She's a big believer in all old wives' tales. She keeps telling me all of the things that my cousin who just had a baby is doing wrong...when according to current breastfeeding guidelines, she's doing things right. e.g. Nursing 9-12 times a day for the first 2 months. My mom's response, "If you do that, your breasts will be down to your knees. Do you want to feel like all you do is nurse?"
Anyways, if she comes to help when we get home from the hospital, what bf advice do I take from her? Advice on latching? How do I ignore her ridiculous comments, like "You're feeding the baby too often"? Should we just not discuss bfing? Should she postpone her visit until I feel comfortable bfing and that way her crazy views can't influence me? I don't mean to degrade my mother. I love her very much and we are very close, but she really is nuts and drives me batty with all of her theories and misconceptions.