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Clicky: Will you circumcise if you have a boy?

just wanted to see what the general opinion was.[Poll]
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Re: Clicky: Will you circumcise if you have a boy?

  • Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!
  • I told daddy he gets the vote on this one because I don't have a penis ;)

     

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  • Lil girl coming, but I have circumsiced my son. I don't believe it breaks the trust bond issue with mom. Seriously. I'm sure it is more painful to have it done later in life. If a baby remembered every ounce of pain they woiuld never bond with us.Being born has to be painful too, getting smushed thru a birthcanal,having forceps used, poked and prodded after birth. It is a personal family choice. That I'm sure every parents with sons has thought long and hard about.
  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    Well I circumcised my DS, and he doesn't seem to have any trust issues with me.  I plan on doing it with this LO as well.  

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  • I wouldn't anyway, but where I live they don't do it. Only for medical reasons, and that's usually later in life with lots of pain meds.
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    If it ain't broke...

    LOL, I LOVE this!!!

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    I told daddy he gets the vote on this one because I don't have a penis ;)

     

    ditto.

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  • Oh, and to answer your question from the other thread, Reed, my husband is circumsised.  We are of the opinion that my husband's penis has nothing to do with my son's. 
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  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    What study are you reading?

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    I told daddy he gets the vote on this one because I don't have a penis ;)

    Yes

  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    ...Yes, I think all circumcised baby boys hate their mothers... *sarcasm*

     

  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    Really? What studies are these?

    Do these studies appear in peer reviewed journals? Were they performed by legitimate doctors? Are the statistics sound?

    I find this as ridiculous as the belief that birth causes trauma that lasts the rest of the child's life.

    Since my husband is a doctor, and I have spoken to multiple doctors (as well as reading peer reviewed journal articles, not opinions from the internet) my DH and I have decided to circumcise any sons we have. 

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    Oh, and to answer your question from the other thread, Reed, my husband is circumsised.  We are of the opinion that my husband's penis has nothing to do with my son's. 

    lol.

    I asked my husband about this a couple minutes ago and he said that a little boys penis in size & shape is so different from an adult penis he doesn't think it would bother our son if they were different.

    I'm 99% sure we aren't. I know I'm close & need to be sure! This has been an issue I have been struggling w/ because everything I hear from either side seems so exaggerated and one sided w/ an agenda to justify a decision already made. I think many of the reasons to circumcise are trivial (like girls won't like it) but I also think the whole bonding-pain issue is exaggerated. Many circumcised boys bond quite well w/ their moms. My husband was not traumatized. That being said, I don't see a compelling reason to circumcise and would rather not cause the pain to my baby whether he remembers it or not.

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    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

     

    We won't be doing it because there is no medical necessity.  BUT I've been in on circ's (I'm a nurse) and the babies are NOT traumatized and they do NOT remember it.  To say that they have trouble trusting their mother is just absurd!

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    image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    ...Yes, I think all circumcised baby boys hate their mothers... *sarcasm*

     

    YesYes

    Those must be some crazy people doing those studies.  That is just crazy. Yes because he will know that I made the decision?

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    image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    Really? News to me...and I have a Masters in Early Childhood. Confused

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    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    Not true, research shows that circumcision reduces certain infections, including HIV & other STD's (and reduces transmission of STD's to partners)

    & Because of a baby's immature brain development, he doesn't process pain the same way we do- bottom line, he isn't going to remember. 

     

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      Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    Um yea, I'd LOVE to see that scientifically sound, peer-based study. My son is circ'd (because I DID DO MY RESEARCH and chose to err on the side of the documented medical benefits, regardless of how slight they may be) and he is a momma's boy all the way!! If this one had been a boy, we would have done the same. He was numbed with a cream and showed no signs of discomfort for the week it took to heal.


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  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    So do babies who have other surgeries not trust their moms as well?  I bet you would be hard pressed to explain to an infant which procedures he should trust mom after.

    It is one thing to decide against circ'ing, but quite another to spout off on stuff you clearly have not researched and do not understand.

     

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  • We're having a girl, but before we found out, we decided we would not circumcise a boy. We aren't religious and found no compelling medical reason to do it, so it just didn't make sense to use.

    Beyond that, it seems like an important issue of bodily autonomy. I think that permanent body modification should be up to the person living in the body. In that same vein, I would not allow a doctor to perform a "corrective" surgery if my child (male or female) had genitals that were in any way different from what the doctor considers normal. Surgery to facilitate function = yes. Cosmetic surgery = no.

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    The American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend or disapprove of circumcisions.  They provide the facts and suggest that the parents make the decision together.

    http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/reprint/pediatrics;103/3/686.pdf

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    SUMMARY AND RECOMMENDATIONS

    Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision. In the case of circumcision, in which there are potential benefits and risks, yet the procedure is not essential to the child?s current well-being, parents should determine what is in the best interest of the child. To make an informed choice, parents of all male infants should be given accurate and unbiased information and be provided the opportunity to discuss this decision. It is legitimate for parents to take into account cultural, religious, and ethnic traditions, in addition to the medical factors, when making this decision. Analgesia is safe and effective in reducing the procedural pain associated with circumcision; therefore, if a decision for circumcision is made, procedural analgesia should be provided. If circumcision is performed in the newborn period, it should only be done on infants who are stable and healthy."    

     

     

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  • Sure will.  We did with our first and will do it again with this LO
  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

    This is the convo I just had with my husband:

    Me: Do you have issues trusting your mother?

    DH: No, why?

    Me: Because you're circumcised. Haven't you heard of that study? You work in a hospital and talk to doctors all the time and you've NEVER heard that if you're circumcised at birth you'll have issues trusting your mother???

    DH: *rolls eyes* The crap they post...

    My thing is, to each his/her own. Everyone has a reason for either doing it or not doing it and that's fine.

    I'm with what someone else said. I don't have a penis so I left it up to my husband. We will be getting him circumcised.

  • image Jillygirl78:
    Heck no! No medical reason to do it. I would never do cosmetic surgery on a baby.  Studies show they remember the pain and have trouble trusting their mother after that.  So sad!

      *Rolling eyes*... yeah, that sounds completely legit.  

    I'm sure her research runs really deep- and shame on mommies who feed their babies "poison in a can" (see her sig).  Please. 

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  • We circumcised DS#1 and now he's very attached to me than his dad. So i don't know which studies you were refering too. We plan to do the same with #2.
  • We have decided not to.  DH is NOT circed (born and raised in England where it is not popular).  There is no sound medical reason for doing it and I see it as a cosmetic procedure.  I also think I will have my hands full enough with a new baby, much less one that's in pain as well.  Yes, they do feel the pain and it is painful until it heals.

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  • image Wilwarin:
    If it ain't broke...

    Truer words have never been typed.

  • For me and my husband personally, we have found through research that circumcision contributes to much cleaner personal hygiene and keeping that area less infected throughout life. Also, I work for a hospice and a lot of the older men I take care of are not circumcised and to be able to pull back all that foreskin (it gets kind of herniated and long as they get older) can be difficult and as a result, they are at risk for many more infections. I will circumcise my son (if we have one) because I do not want him to have an increase in infections when he is older. It really is a difficulty/problem in my field of work.
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