Intros for Fall

pghren

I thought I'd start a new intro board for Fall since no one's been posting for a while. Just a way for those of us new to loss and those of us who've been through it for longer to meet each other...or meet again

pghren

To get the ball rolling: My name is Kim. I found out about my loss this week at 9 weeks LMP. They only measured about 6 to 7 weeks with no heartbeat.  I'm trying to have a natural miscarriage, but it's been going very slowly, and it comes and goes. 

TScalei

Im sorry for your loss. I hope it starts happening more quickly for you. Waiting to mc and then waiting for it to be over can be really tough.

rainbowwishes5

I'm sorry for your loss. Waiting is very difficult. Best wishes.

NewMommyCoop

@allowachick I am very sorry for your loss. I just went through it is September and finally decided to use a medication. I hope it happens for you quickly.

sparrowmomma24

@allowachick I'm so sorry for your loss.  It's been 3 years since I lost my DD.  I hope that the natural route goes smoothly for you. 

starfish827

@allowachick I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope the MC happens quickly for you. I saw your post on the May board. I was due 05/04, but unfortunately when I went to my 8 weeks 4 days appointment the Dr. told me I had a blighted ovum. Sac measured the right time, but there was not baby. This was our first pregnancy. We decided to go for D&C on 09/28 and I'm now starting the long wait for AF. We are planning to TTC again after the first cycle. 

NewMommyCoop

@endo_mom I am very sorry for your loss.

kidria

@allowachick and @endo_mom I am so sorry to both of you for your losses. Waiting to MC is a special nightmare. I wish you a speedy, natural MC. I too suffered a MC at 9 weeks with embryo measuring 8 weeks. It was heartbreaking. The only relief was the MC was swift with no complications. Strength to the both of you. 

artemis618

I am so sorry for all of your losses. We just lost our little girl (first pregnancy) this past Saturday at 11w5d - 2 days after learning that she was a she from her deceptively normal NIPT results (we'd only heard her heartbeat of ~160 when she was measuring on track at our first appointment back at 8w2d).  Miscarried naturally and completely (thought I admit the episode of contractions made me think twice about this whole thing!).  We are crushed and sad, but not shocked as I'll be 39 on Monday (would have been 13 weeks had she made it) and DH is 41.  Started ttc #1 after we got married in June, and are anxious to try again given our ages.  Hoping my body cooperates.

Breesy14

TW - siggy below (I think - I'm mobile right now)
Hello, sorry to hear of everyone's losses. I've been lurking for a week or so and this seems like a great and very supportive community. I learned about my MMC at 10 weeks on 9/20. Baby stopped developing at 8w 3d although we had a good US and heard the heartbeat at 8w 1d. I picked up my medicine on a Wednesday with the intention of doing it the next day. That night I miscarried naturally though I still took the medicine the next day to be sure everything was out. Last week, my dr told me we could start trying as soon as I was ready and to expect my period is 2-6 weeks.  
@allowachick hope things pick up for you quickly. It started rather suddenly for me. 
@artemis618 so very sorry to hear that. We are also anxious to try again. 

NewMommyCoop

@Breesy14 I am very sorry for your loss. 

starfish827

Hi ladies!

I very sorry for all our losses. But, I'm so glad this group exists, it has helped me so much going through this process. The first days have been a roller coaster of emotions. From denial to desperately wanting to ttc without waiting to being more rational about it and knowing we probably should wait 1 cyle before TTC. I'm sure this group will make it easier to wait for AF and heal both physically and emotionally. I hope you all heal from your MCs and never lose hope. I'm positive we will be on a BMB very soon! Hugs to all and have a great weekend

migdala

I miscarried in July at 8 weeks. We have been TTC ever since.  I don't understand what's going on with my body, my charts are all over the place and I feel completely helpless and out of control.  If this is supposed to be some kind of lesson, it sure is a shitty one, and apparently I'm not learning it. Sorry to vent, glad this group exists, I promise I'm usually not so angry.

NewMommyCoop

@migdala Sorry for your loss. Vent away, we are here to listen. 

RiverSong15

I'm so sorry to see all the new faces here, but welcome. And vent away! That's what we're here for. And yes, it does feel like adding insult to injury when your body is all wacky after a MC. Hang in there 

pghren

Update: I  think I was able to mc naturally most if not all of it last night
@artemis618 I'm with you about the "cramptractions" as I've decided to call them- I officially don't know why all the medical professionals and dr. Google  refer to them as "more intense period cramps" mine were a totally different and worse sensation than period cramps. 
@endo_mom I'm so glad to see you here! I wish neither if us were here, but it's nice to see a friendly face as we meet some new ones Also I am antsy about waiting a cycle as well.  I don't want to just bulldoze through this healing time, but we really want a baby. It's hard to not be pregnant anymore and have to wait to try again. 

Another note: I was having a brutal first trimester symptom wise. I kept telling myself that my misery must mean the baby was healthy and in the end it would all be worth it, so now this loss feels like it's giving me an extra gut punch because all of that only ended in more pain and grief. 

Anyone feel similarly? 

starfish827

@allowachick I'm happy to hear your MC is almost done. For me, once it was done I felt much better. I feel like it allowed me to move forward. I also had the worst symptoms while pregnant: super sore boobs, morning sickness, food aversions and fatigue. I was in a way happy because in my mind it meant the baby was developing properly, and I saw it like everyday was a little bit closer to the second trimester.

Having super strong symptoms made us chose D&C since the Dr. said miscarriage could take up to 4 weeks to start. If I was not going to have a baby, I felt being pregnant 4 more weeks was going to be unbearable for me. Now, a week and a half later after D&C, I don't feel pregnant anymore and except for headaches (probably caused by HCG levels dropping) I feel back to my pre-pregnant self.

As for the waiting time, although I read you can get pregnant before AF, I think waiting for the first AF will give us some time to heal, so at this point we are on the bench until AF arrives.

Breesy14

@endo_mom I really understand exactly what you're saying. @allowachick it was sort of like that for me. I felt this pregnancy seemed to have strong symptoms. I felt so sad when I found out. So deeply saddened. I think I may have always known, in the very back of my mind, that this baby would never make it.  I am so saddened yet feel so positive that one day we'll get our baby. 

ETA: The headaches were awful!

SP128

Hi. Unfortunately I am here : (  My EDD was 5/17 .  I went in for my first u/s at 8 wks 1 day and the tech couldn't find a fetal pole or heartbeat.  She said the sac only measured 6 weeks.  She and the nurse suggested that maybe I was off with the dates.  I told them that I know I was right.  I was doing OPK and temping.  If it was a couple days off... ok, two weeks?  Don't think so.  

My blood was drawn and my levels came back at 22,000.  I have an ultrasound scheduled for this Friday to see if there is growth.  I have an appointment with the nurse practitioner  afterwards, which I am sure is to discuss my options.  

I am hoping that my body just will miscarry naturally soon.  I don't think the second ultrasound is necessary, but I'm sure it is best practice "just in case."  

Rant - Have to go out with my mother this afternoon.  Every outing is a reminder of how old I am and how I need to get pregnant and that I'm going to die alone.  Should be a real treat.  Thanks mom - I'll write her in for mother of the year.  Rant over.

@endo_mom @allowachick  Sorry to see you ladies here.  

starfish827

@migdala they usually say the body is all over the place after a MC. Are you using BBT or OPKs. I don't have much experience with BBT, but OPKs worked great for us in the past.

@Breesy14 I hope the recovery period is going well for you. And hopefully the hardest part is already over. I hope AF arrives soon to get the body back on track. 

@SP128 Sorry to see you here. I feel very identified to what you are going through. This was me a couple of weeks ago. Unfortunately, I was not patient enough and didnt wait until the next ultrasound. I didnt see the point since the sac was measuring 8 weeks 4 days and I knew my dates. Also, I knew at almost 9 weeks the baby should be there. I just knew in my heart, I was not going to see something different. But, looking back I wish I would have waited just to have some peace of mind. I hope the day with your mom goes well. Remember this time is about you and others opinions specially if negative should be ignored.

rissa06

Hi all... sry for all your losses.

we had a m/c back at the beginning of June.  I had intense back pain and the next day I started to bleed.  Had the it confirmed a few days later.

We started trying again since then with No success yet.  

I lurke a lot lot on the boards and am not on too often, but will try and post.

@SP128 I am really sorry about your mom.  I hope today is better and if not, I hope it is a short visit.  

SP128

@rissa06  as predicted my mother started to whisper yell (we were in a restaurant and my aunt went to the bathroom) at me to get pregnant and that I needed to listen to her.  I sarcastically told her that I would surely let her know when I'm pregnant.  She proceeds to tell me how old I am and that I'll be 36 when I deliver even if I got pregnant right now.  She went on and on.... She says the same thing every time I see her, so I knew it was coming.

The plan with this baby was for her to be the last to know.  The plan for the next is for her to be the last to know.  

If I had told her about this one she would've told everyone and now would have to tell people about the miscarriage.  No thanks.

TScalei

Oh im sorry @sp128. I went through the same thing with 2 u/s and the waiting in limbo is not fun. I'm sorry about your situation with your mother you should not have to sit there and listen to that with what you are going through but I understand not wanting her to tell everyone. 

rainbowwishes5

@SP128 so sorry. Rough about your mom on top of everything else. Ugh

pghren

@SP128 I am so sorry about the nosey mom.  These things are so personal, and it really is no one's buisness. Sending peaceful vibes your way not to punch her in the face. 

@rissa06 hi, nice to meet you.  Glad to have someone a little farther along in this process to reach out to

I'm done passing what was hopefully all the tissue naturally, but the lingering pain is cramping my style *pun intended, sorry guys* and my new rescue dog is certainly the one suffering the lack of walks.  We're gonna try to go today

TScalei

@allowachick - hope you feel better soon. The cramping afterwards does suck especially when you just want to go back to feeling like your self. Fx you feel better soon!

lin0442

@SP128 I'm sorry about your mom. Sounds like how my MIL would be if DH hadn't decided to cut off contact with her years ago. I'm sure not complaining about his decision, although I wish he had a good mom and could enjoy the relationship.

I miscarried back in May. Found out at my scan at 12w5d that there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped growing a day before at most. Had a D&E, which at least wasn't hard to recover from physically. No real clue as to what happened from the follow up testing.

We're on our third cleared cycle of TTC, hoping that this is my lucky month. The day after Thanksgiving is my EDD, and I *so* don't want to spend the holiday all glum.

starfish827

@lin0442 very sorry for your loss. I am sending good thoughts and hoping this is your lucky month.

pghren

@lin0442 good luck! 

@TScalei thanks

SP128

Thanks for all the support with my mother with no social graces

justsuzie

I'll be on this board for a while because I am benched until January (at least).  Great that we have each other.  Nobody really understands that hasn't gone through this.  And I don't wish anyone to have to understand this though.  Best wishes to all of us.  

migdala

I'm sorry you're here, but I think you hit the nail exactly on the head. I don't want other people to understand, because I don't want anyone to have to go through this, but at the same time it's hard feeling so isolated in this experience.  Especially when it comes to DH - he can't know how it feels, to him it was a totally surreal experience, and I'm grateful that he's spared that pain, but on the other hand I do wish he understood what I'm going through so that I didn't feel as alone in it.  I'm grateful for this group.

upnorthmom

Hello, hello. After lurking for a bit and getting my first AF this morning after a MC, I thought I ought to say 'hi'. I have a 15 month old and we lost our little bub at 6 weeks on 9/10. Grateful to have MC naturally and was doing well, but had a tough day yesterday when I got turned down to give blood because they won't accept you if you've been pregnant in the last 6 weeks.

I'm grateful to have already soaked up wisdom from you ladies, though I'm sorry so many of us on this journey together. Big, virtual hugs to you all.

starfish827

@upnorthmama hello and congrats on AFs visit. Did it take long after the MC? I'm waiting for AF to arrive, but I had D&C. I'm happy to go through this journey with all of you!

upnorthmom

@endo_mom AF showed up 4w6d after I began spotting/starting to MC. Hope yours shows up soon!

justsuzie

@upnorthmom congrats on AF! Who would have thought that would be exciting.   Happy 4 U.

@endo_mom hope your AF comes quick.  Maybe mine will get the hint and give me a visit next month.

starfish827

@upnorthmom Good to hear it didnt take long for you. I still have about 10 days wait if she shows up on time.

moonlady-2

Hi all. Lost my first baby (spontaneously) on June 30 at 11 weeks. Levels went down quickly and and got my period right on schedule afterward, thankfully. Right now we say we are not *really* trying, but also not preventing. But we're kinda trying. Lol. Mostly I'm trying to keep it low key so I don't make myself crazy, if that makes sense. I did start temping this cycle (which I had never done before). Debating on picking up some OPKs since AF just ended but not sure if I want to put myself through that stress or not.

Mackey15

@moonlady so sorry for your loss. Im also new to this board and everyone has been so supportive on here. I bought OPKs after my mc in September. I just finished up with AF and I'm going to try them out this month for the first time. Hopefully it doesn't stress me out because I can see how it could. 

starfish827

@moonlady I'm very sorry for your loss.I also started temping this cycle...mid cycle and I havent had the first AF after D&C..so far my chart looks strange. I got pg on the first try in August using OPKs, so I'll try to give it a go again. I usually buy them really cheap at amazon for like $20 so I dont feel guilty  

@Mackey15 We are rooting for you!!! You are a little ahead since AF already visited you. Fx for this cycle. Hopefully we will get to join you in WTO or TWW soon