Hi everyone! I have been absent from TB for awhile, but I wanted to introduce myself and hopefully learn from others. I found out I lost my twins at my 12 week appointment on August 15th of this year. (I was due at the end of February). I had a D&C the following day. It has been 2.5 months since my loss and I am still reeling, but also actively trying to get pregnant. I have two daughters, ages 3 years, 9 months, and 2 years, 1 month. I had two losses before my daughters, my first at around 7 weeks and my second also at 12 weeks. Has anyone else had 3 or more losses? I am in the two week wait right now. This is our second cycle trying to conceive after the miscarriage. I had testing done after my miscarriage that revealed the fetuses had chromosomal abnormalities.
4 losses- MC in 2006, MMC in February 2012 at 12 weeks and MMC (twins) August 2016 at 12 weeks. Pregnant again- 11/7/16. Another loss on December 28, 2016.
BFP April 23, 2017. Our triple rainbow baby! EDD: January 2, 2018. It's a boy!
@Runner313. Welcome! I'm super sorry for your loss. I have only had 1 loss, so no much advice there. GL on the TWW We have a TWW thread that might help with the waiting.
Hello Ladies, (TW Living children mentioned) I think it is time for me to finally intro myself.I have been checking in on this group for a few months to motivate me and assure myself that I am not the only one going through this. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We were told early in our marriage that we would not be able to easily have any more babies. (i have a DS who is almost 20 now) This was something my husband and i accepted and just focused on raising my son. We got a shock almost 3 years ago when I found out I was pregnant with our now 2yo DD. We had one moving out of the house and starting over with another. We had talked about "what if" one more. In June I got a BFP and we were elated. We canceled out upcoming trip to Mexico, told the family and work, and started planning. At our first Drs apt (9 weeks) we found that our bean stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had a hard time processing this. I just didn't understand how it could happen. My DR was great and told me how common it was. This, i think broke my heart even more, Knowing that other amazing ladies were going through this too. Since the MC did not start on its own I took the meds to start the process. I know it is an extremely personal choice but I was afraid a medical procedure could go wrong. I received so much support from my O14 mommys group. I was naive in thinking that I would just get pregnant right away again. This will be our 3rd month of "trying". My biggest fear is my age (now 40) will get in the way of a rainbow baby. I am so sorry for each of your losses and hope that I can add and sort of help or comfort to this amazing group.
I am very sorry for your loss @RileyG2218. Welcome to the board and sorry you find yourself here. The ladies here are amazing and you will find an enormous amount of support. I hope your stay here is short.
**TW - Loss & Child mentioned** Me: 40 DH: 47 Married: 10/2015 DSD: 17 BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15 BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15 BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19 BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018 Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.
@rileyg2218 So sorry to hear you are here. You are in good company here, hopefully just for a short time. I am bad with names/stories, but know there are some other age challenged ladies who can relate. I'm creeping up, but not there yet.
@RileyG2218 I'm really sorry for your loss. You shouldn't lose hope. MC are unfortunately very common and the fact that you have living children is a good indication that you can have babies. Might take a little longer, but hang in there. I hope you get your rainbow baby.
@RileyG2218 I am so sorry for your loss. This group has been an amazing source of support and comfort to me since my loss this summer. I am one of age challenged people @flipflopped mentioned. I'll be 40 next month. I was really hoping to be KU by then but, thus far, the fates are not obliging!
I've kinda moved myself over here from the loss board because we have decided to try again. The Dr gave a go ahead after finding no reason that we lost our first two. I've very hopeful. I'm very glad I didn't tell my parents or many friends. I feel it would be too hard to explain to them all about the losses. Anyways I'm very excited and nervous to be on this board. I'll be having my first appointment with the fertility Dr in January so until then we be been told we can try.
I'm 39 & my fiancé is 41. I had a d&c in August after my 9 week ultrasound showed that my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks 3 days. Finally finished two cycles in October, which meant last month was our first time trying but it wasn't successful. We'll try again this next month.
On a positive note, we're planning our wedding for March. I can't wait. I'm so happy that I've finally met the man I'm supposed to be with.
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DD born 04/28/2002 Married DH 03/25/2017 1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017 BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
@rainafire77 so sorry for your loss. This is a great board.
Wedding planning is so much fun. I met my DH when I was 38. We married at 39. Definitely worth waiting for the right one! Congrats and happy wedding planning!
Hi everyone! I had an edd of May 4, 2017. Went in for my first ultrasound at almost 11 weeks and found out the baby stopped growing around 7 weeks. I just got my first period after my MC this past weekend. Right on time. So I'm thankful for that. I'm still undecided if I want to try again this cycle or wait one more.
@CAdreamin13 So sorry that you are going through another mc again. I do not have any advice on testing though. These ladies are awesome with support. I agree that the miscarriage/loss page is pretty inactive.
@Kkari81 My edd was 5/17/17. So sorry you are here with us. Awesome that you got AF already. I'm still waiting for mine. My levels just reached 0 last Tuesday.
***TW*** Me: 36 DH:35 Married: 7/10/2016 TTC#1 - May 2016 BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016 BFP 5/5/2017 - CP IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161 Adam Born on 3/18/18
I'm 35. We were pregnant for the first time. Made it all the way through a really hard season at my job - I'm a teacher. Was 10w4d Monday the 7th - baby stopped growing at 8w5d. Had to get a D&C Wednesday the 9th. Really struggling....was hoping for the best. Really wanted it all to all work out. I know things happen for a reason...and this baby obviously wasn't healthy. Just tough. It's been a really rough week and a half. Now I'm 10 days post D&C and so sick of bleeding. I just want to move forward but am having a hard time with that constant reminder.
We want to TTC as soon as we can...but my doc said to wait 3 months. That seems long to me.....thoughts??
@BeagleMom34 Sorry that you find yourself here. I hope your stay is short. As for waiting, I have had 2, well technically 3 D&Cs, and I was always told to just wait one cycle. Basically once I got my first AF following the procedure we were good to go as long as we were emotionally ready. I hope this helps.
*** TW *** Me 31, DH 30
Married: 07/2014, TTC since 12/2015
BFP #1: 1/1/16, MC 1/14/16 (6 weeks), D&C 2/5/16 (9 weeks) BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16 BFP #3: 12/24/16 EDD 09/04/2017
@BeagleMom34 My doctor also signed off on TTC after the first AF. She said as long as were emotionally ready, there was no medical reason to wait.
Quite frankly, we did start the TTC process right away and I'm not sure it was the best choice for me. Thinking back now, if we'd been successful and suffered another loss I probably would have been a disaster. I was still so heartbroken and shattered.
Hi ladies. Just want to introduce myself and say I am so sorry for all your losses.
I recognize a few posters from the May2017 BMB. My EDD was 5/12 but we found out at our first ultrasound at 8w5d that the baby didn't have a heartbeat. We waited and did a second u/s at 10 wks because the baby was measuring on target and I had to be sure. Ended up having a D&E on 10/20 because I wasn't miscarrying naturally.
I just got AF yesterday 30 days post D&E. Our NP told us we could start trying once she came so that's where were at now. I've been temping and will start using OPKs when the time comes... hoping this cycle is normal for my own peace of mind! H and I are excited to TTC again but also pretty scared.
It's no fun to be here but I'm thankful this board exists, it's nice to have the support. My friends and family who know have been great but no one really gets it like you all do
BFP #1 9/2/16, MMC @ 8w5d, D&E 10/20/16 BFP #2 12/17/16, EDD 8/26/17 L born at 35+6 on 7/28/17
@oliveoil I was also on the May 2017 BMB and remember you. I am so sorry you found yourself here. These ladies are amazing! You are right on about no one getting it like these ladies. Congrats on getting AF already.
***TW*** Me: 36 DH:35 Married: 7/10/2016 TTC#1 - May 2016 BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016 BFP 5/5/2017 - CP IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161 Adam Born on 3/18/18
@BeagleMom34 My (terrible) OBGYN told me to wait 3 cycles. My amazing midwives told me that historically doctors have recommended you wait because they want your cycles to re-regulate so that they can accurately date the pregnancy. This is no longer truly necessary because of the advances in imaging technology. My midwives said they've had multiple women get pregnant before their first AF post-MC, and everything was fine. We started TTC right away, hasn't worked yet though.
Welcome to all the new ladies. Sorry that you're here, but you will get lots of support from the ladies here.
@BeagleMom34 I'm a beagle mom, too! I was told to wait one cycle and it's for dating purposes. I was incredibly anxious to get back to trying right away. Ultimately, it didn't matter as my cycles went bonkers after the MC, but do what feels right for you.
Re: Intros for Fall
Me: 40 DH: 47
Married: 10/2015
DSD: 17
BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.
4 losses- MC in 2006, MMC in February 2012 at 12 weeks and MMC (twins) August 2016 at 12 weeks. Pregnant again- 11/7/16. Another loss on December 28, 2016.
BFP April 23, 2017. Our triple rainbow baby! EDD: January 2, 2018. It's a boy!
BFP: 12/16/16 => DD born 08/27/2017
I think it is time for me to finally intro myself.I have been checking in on this group for a few months to motivate me and assure myself that I am not the only one going through this. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We were told early in our marriage that we would not be able to easily have any more babies. (i have a DS who is almost 20 now) This was something my husband and i accepted and just focused on raising my son. We got a shock almost 3 years ago when I found out I was pregnant with our now 2yo DD. We had one moving out of the house and starting over with another. We had talked about "what if" one more. In June I got a BFP and we were elated. We canceled out upcoming trip to Mexico, told the family and work, and started planning. At our first Drs apt (9 weeks) we found that our bean stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had a hard time processing this. I just didn't understand how it could happen. My DR was great and told me how common it was. This, i think broke my heart even more, Knowing that other amazing ladies were going through this too. Since the MC did not start on its own I took the meds to start the process. I know it is an extremely personal choice but I was afraid a medical procedure could go wrong. I received so much support from my O14 mommys group. I was naive in thinking that I would just get pregnant right away again. This will be our 3rd month of "trying". My biggest fear is my age (now 40) will get in the way of a rainbow baby. I am so sorry for each of your losses and hope that I can add and sort of help or comfort to this amazing group.
Me: 40 DH: 47
Married: 10/2015
DSD: 17
BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.
BFP: 12/16/16 => DD born 08/27/2017
I've kinda moved myself over here from the loss board because we have decided to try again. The Dr gave a go ahead after finding no reason that we lost our first two.
I've very hopeful. I'm very glad I didn't tell my parents or many friends. I feel it would be too hard to explain to them all about the losses.
Anyways I'm very excited and nervous to be on this board. I'll be having my first appointment with the fertility Dr in January so until then we be been told we can try.
Me: 40 DH: 47
Married: 10/2015
DSD: 17
BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.
On a positive note, we're planning our wedding for March. I can't wait. I'm so happy that I've finally met the man I'm supposed to be with.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Wedding planning is so much fun. I met my DH when I was 38. We married at 39. Definitely worth waiting for the right one! Congrats and happy wedding planning!
EDD #2 5.4.17
@Kkari81 My edd was 5/17/17. So sorry you are here with us. Awesome that you got AF already. I'm still waiting for mine. My levels just reached 0 last Tuesday.
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161
We want to TTC as soon as we can...but my doc said to wait 3 months. That seems long to me.....thoughts??
Married: June 2012
TTC #1: Aug/Sept 2016
BFP: 9/22/16
D&C: 11/9/16
Me 31, DH 30
BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16
BFP #3: 12/24/16 EDD 09/04/2017
BFP: 12/16/16 => DD born 08/27/2017
Married: June 2012
TTC #1: Aug/Sept 2016
BFP: 9/22/16
D&C: 11/9/16
Quite frankly, we did start the TTC process right away and I'm not sure it was the best choice for me. Thinking back now, if we'd been successful and suffered another loss I probably would have been a disaster. I was still so heartbroken and shattered.
I recognize a few posters from the May2017 BMB. My EDD was 5/12 but we found out at our first ultrasound at 8w5d that the baby didn't have a heartbeat. We waited and did a second u/s at 10 wks because the baby was measuring on target and I had to be sure. Ended up having a D&E on 10/20 because I wasn't miscarrying naturally.
I just got AF yesterday 30 days post D&E. Our NP told us we could start trying once she came so that's where were at now. I've been temping and will start using OPKs when the time comes... hoping this cycle is normal for my own peace of mind! H and I are excited to TTC again but also pretty scared.
It's no fun to be here but I'm thankful this board exists, it's nice to have the support. My friends and family who know have been great but no one really gets it like you all do
BFP #2 12/17/16, EDD 8/26/17
L born at 35+6 on 7/28/17
These ladies are amazing! You are right on about no one getting it like these ladies.
Congrats on getting AF already.
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161
@BeagleMom34 I'm a beagle mom, too! I was told to wait one cycle and it's for dating purposes. I was incredibly anxious to get back to trying right away. Ultimately, it didn't matter as my cycles went bonkers after the MC, but do what feels right for you.
BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
BFP: 1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17
BFP: 9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19
BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21