After reaDing these I'm also guilty of cleaNing the paci by putting it I'm my mouth,lo same outfit twice in a row, only changing when he wakes up hungry....I'm the worst. I didn't even realize done of these were bad eeeek
I have a glass of beer or wine while nursing.
When LO was tired and refused to close her eyes, I put her in her sling, held her tight, and spun in circles until she couldn't keep her eyes open.
Last night, we were at a friends BBQ and LO wouldn't nurse, because she was too hot under the cover. I was too nervous to nurse without the cover in front of people, so we drove home, but by the time we got home, she was so overtired/over hungry/ over stimulated, she wouldn't nurse and I couldn't calm her for 2 hours. She cried so much she threw up a bit. I sobbed and told her I was sorry for not nursing her without the cover over and over. Still feeling really guilty about this one.
Aw, I did this at church. I felt so bad. I vowed to single handedly bring breastfeeding awareness to church next time - screw the blanket.
I did this at church! We are Catholic and of course she had to eat right before communion... yep went up with her on my boob with a blanket over her. DH was super supportive and encouraged me to do it as I was unsure if it was acceptable. He said I'm pretty sure Mary fed Jesus the same way so go for it. According to DH only one old dude gave me a dirty look and glared at me the whole time. Oh well!
So go for it!
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THANK YOU for this thread. I'm only 3 weeks into this mom thing and already have felt like a bad mom about half the time.
After I had Junie, I had generous amounts of coffee every single day, since I'd limited myself during pregnancy. I had NO idea caffeine can affect a baby through breast milk until yesterday. Oops.
I gave LO boob, bottle, paci, and nipple shield within a week of her birth.
Not my breastmilk
Every morning I wake up, pop a 200mg caffeine tablet and chug a 5 hour energy. That's every day, within 15 minutes of waking up.
Sometimes I have a second 5 hour energy in the afternoon.
My kid sleeps great.
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Not sure if this link will work since I'm mobile but there is one study showing benefits to cleaning pacifiers with mothers mouth. See you aren't as bad as you thought!
@csmith0085, oh I'm so sorry! I've been using lavender essential oil with fractionated coconut oil and seems to be pretty soothing. Live and learn I guess! We have a bbq to go to tonight, so I will be extra vigilant!
Not sure if this link will work since I'm mobile but there is one study showing benefits to cleaning pacifiers with mothers mouth. See you aren't as bad as you thought!
Yup when DD was a baby, at the pediatricians office they had a tv with medical facts flashing across it. It said sticking paci in your mouth to clean it is best.
This thread has totally made my day. I'm guilty of many of these things!
Yesterday, while on a walk with baby in the Ktan carrier, I tripped on the sidewalk and scraped my knee. I'm pretty sure it happened because I was wearing flip flops and am crazy sleep deprived. I caught myself with one hand, and the other hand went to protect baby from falling out or hitting the ground. Fortunately, the carrier is awesome and baby didn't budge (she actually slept through the whole thing), but I feel terrible and keep thinking about how awful it would have been if I had fallen on her or if she had fallen out of the wrap. Bad Mom is going to wear sneakers on our walks from now on, even though they are a pain in the ass to put on while wearing or holding a newborn.
I was supposed to go to work today but they didn't have my computer ready so I went to lunch, had a margarita and now I'm getting a pedicure. Drool. I'll pick the kids up eventually.
I sleep with DS. We both sleep better and I can nurse easier at night.
When DD was home with me, I made her watch her iPad in her room so I could watch Gossip Girl in the living room.
I bite DS's nails off instead of trying to file or cut.
I just let DS suck down who knows how much air from his bottle while reading these posts.
I am really bad at talking to him while we are home alone all day. But hey, the tv is always on so that counts right?!
I love nap time way more than I should and feel I spend most of my day attempting to get DS to sleep.
I let my dad throw him up in the air (while playing with him...at 6 weeks old) and feed him formula that probably should have got thrown away, just so I could have some me time. He raised 5 kids without dropping anyone or causing food poising...bad mommy.
I let DS nap on his stomach, it's too tough to get him to nap any other way.
I too mouth wipe the paci.
I feed him when he's wailing even if I don't think he's hungry.
I laugh at LO sometimes when he's crying... his crying face is adorable.
I booked a trip to Mexico for November for my brother's wedding and I'm leaving DH and LO home (DH is a teacher and can't get time off). I could bring LO with me but i don't wanna deal with all the baby paraphernalia all by myself through the airports... however I feel like a terrible mother leaving him home while I galavant to Mexico for 5 days.
This morning baby was screaming, and there was no calming him. I was so exhausted since I didn't get to sleep until 1:30 and he woke up at 2:45 hungry. Instead of trying to soothe him for hours, I fed him, gave him a paci and put him in his crib. He was pissed, but I was exhausted.
I'm hiding in my car, bumping and eating cake instead of breastfeeding Max. DW is doing a perfectly fine job bottle feeding without me so, I see so reason to move for another hour or so.
DD1 always tries to give DD2 hugs, but she throws all her weight and her giant noggin at her so I freak out every time so I am pretty sure I am making her afraid of hugs.
DD is like this she tries to lay over him to give DS hugs and kisses. She also pokes his eye, that's what I really freak out about, she pushes hard. I feel bad because I know she is just pointing out their similarities, she points to his nose and mouth too and puts their feet together.
Thank you all! I'm not feeling as alone as I've been feeling about some of the things I've done! So now I don't have so much mommy guilt! LO naps and prefers to sleep on his tummy. He sleeps on me during the day, even though I've been told frequently to let him have independent time. He slept in our bed for the first two weeks since it was the only way for me to get any sleep- until I passed out and woke up to him screaming as my boob was smothering him :-(. We use pacis and I have them all over the house to give my nipples a break. And when I'm feeding him, I take a break from staring into his beautiful blue eyes to bump (can't respond with one hand yet) or I'm catching up on true blood and he is right beside some questionable scenes ;-)
Horrible mom moment: DH and I were both exhausted last night so we get into bed and DD just wanted to have a nursing marathon apparently so at 1am I was still feeding her. Then I must have fell asleep because the next thing I know it's 4am and she's fidgeting and trying to latch onto my boob. I have no idea what happened between 1am and 4am--if she fell asleep on my chest or just kept feeding that whole time--but I felt like the worst mom ever!!!
TTC History
Me: 35 DH: 34 Married 07/2012 DD born 07/2014 DD2 born 10/2018 DS born 10/2022
IF history: TTC #2 since January 2016 June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018 FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
My 3 year old is extremely clumsy and I laugh when he falls or runs into things. I try to hide it so he doesn't notice, but I just can't help myself. I'm a bad person.
I don't burp LO after feedings. If I try, I'm lucky to get a burp every 4 or 5 times she eats. She doesn't burp easy. She's also not ever been gassy and burps easily on her own when she needs to.
Can this thread never end, please? I am so happy to know I'm not alone. So here's a few of my first time mommy fuckups-
After her MOTN feeding we always just sleep together on the recliner, her on my chest. It's also what I do after she fusses during a nap during the day. I'm sure I'll be screwed once she starts daycare-- can they kick her out for not sleeping long periods of time independently? I'm worried!
We went on a family trip to Galveston and my mom kept her during the night one night so I could catch up on sleep.
The morning after that night, when I came out of my bedroom, my mom asked if I wanted Ellie back. I quickly said "no" without thinking about it and to be honest, really meant it at that moment bc the break felt so great. My older bro and sis thought it was hilarious but I felt so bad later on and apologized to baby girl.
I don't always change her diaper unless she poops.
Sometimes she wears outfits that might not be the most comfortable when I am going somewhere that I will see someone that I want to show off my cute baby to (yes, I know that sucks of me, but I'm being really honest).
I've got another-- baby spit out her paci in her sleep, and when I tried to put it back in for her, I accidentally gagged her and made her spit up all over.
When DS was about 2 months old DH & I were exhausted but bathed DS anyway before bed. He sleeps tremendously better after a bath so it's a nightly ritual. Anyway, we were beyond tired. Bathed him, dried him, lotioned him up, diaper, swaddle...asleep! w00t!
The next morning when I was changing DS I found the lotion on his changing table that we used the night before. It was baby shampoo. The lavender kind from Johnson's. I cried because I felt like crap & like I had damaged my sons psychological health for life.
Now we laugh about it & joke about that night saying when DS cried he made bubbles.
Re: Can we do a 'Bad Mom Monday' ?
https://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2013/05/06/study-finds-your-babys-spit-cleaned-pacifier-is-ok/
Yesterday, while on a walk with baby in the Ktan carrier, I tripped on the sidewalk and scraped my knee. I'm pretty sure it happened because I was wearing flip flops and am crazy sleep deprived. I caught myself with one hand, and the other hand went to protect baby from falling out or hitting the ground. Fortunately, the carrier is awesome and baby didn't budge (she actually slept through the whole thing), but I feel terrible and keep thinking about how awful it would have been if I had fallen on her or if she had fallen out of the wrap. Bad Mom is going to wear sneakers on our walks from now on, even though they are a pain in the ass to put on while wearing or holding a newborn.
I sleep with DS. We both sleep better and I can nurse easier at night.
When DD was home with me, I made her watch her iPad in her room so I could watch Gossip Girl in the living room.
I bite DS's nails off instead of trying to file or cut.
2yo DS accidentally kicked her in the head and I'm pretty sure I traumatized him with my reaction..she slept through the entire ordeal
both kids cried the whole 15min car ride to my parents he other day and DH and I laughed about it in between attempts to calm them
When he's shitting I like to take pictures of his poop face and I laugh.
Still using the formula in the bottle past its time
Telling my baby to shut it when I hsve reached my breaking point then feeling like an asshole for being mean to my sweet boy
Not always changing his clothes when he spits up on them
Caving to whatever my two year old wanted because I'm tired and feel guilty because he's not getting as much attention
I am really bad at talking to him while we are home alone all day. But hey, the tv is always on so that counts right?!
I love nap time way more than I should and feel I spend most of my day attempting to get DS to sleep.
I let my dad throw him up in the air (while playing with him...at 6 weeks old) and feed him formula that probably should have got thrown away, just so I could have some me time. He raised 5 kids without dropping anyone or causing food poising...bad mommy.
I too mouth wipe the paci.
I feed him when he's wailing even if I don't think he's hungry.
I laugh at LO sometimes when he's crying... his crying face is adorable.
I booked a trip to Mexico for November for my brother's wedding and I'm leaving DH and LO home (DH is a teacher and can't get time off). I could bring LO with me but i don't wanna deal with all the baby paraphernalia all by myself through the airports... however I feel like a terrible mother leaving him home while I galavant to Mexico for 5 days.
Last night at the 2am feeding I put the bottle in his mouth, promptly passed out and when I woke up he had consumed the whole thing... No burping.
Um, we are supposed to look in their eyes when they are feeding? I look in his eyes at other times.
I will never take his pacifier away.
I let him sleep in the boppy (I'm awake and next to him)
I use a car set insert so his head doesn't go all crazy in the car.
DD is so quiet, sometimes I forget she's here..
It also took us a month to give him his first bath. Until then, we thought his hair was reddish brown. Turns out, he is strawberry blond.
DH and I were both exhausted last night so we get into bed and DD just wanted to have a nursing marathon apparently so at 1am I was still feeding her. Then I must have fell asleep because the next thing I know it's 4am and she's fidgeting and trying to latch onto my boob. I have no idea what happened between 1am and 4am--if she fell asleep on my chest or just kept feeding that whole time--but I felt like the worst mom ever!!!
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
After her MOTN feeding we always just sleep together on the recliner, her on my chest. It's also what I do after she fusses during a nap during the day. I'm sure I'll be screwed once she starts daycare-- can they kick her out for not sleeping long periods of time independently? I'm worried!
We went on a family trip to Galveston and my mom kept her during the night one night so I could catch up on sleep.
The morning after that night, when I came out of my bedroom, my mom asked if I wanted Ellie back. I quickly said "no" without thinking about it and to be honest, really meant it at that moment bc the break felt so great. My older bro and sis thought it was hilarious but I felt so bad later on and apologized to baby girl.
I don't always change her diaper unless she poops.
Sometimes she wears outfits that might not be the most comfortable when I am going somewhere that I will see someone that I want to show off my cute baby to (yes, I know that sucks of me, but I'm being really honest).
I'm sure I'll think of more...
^:)^
When DS was about 2 months old DH & I were exhausted but bathed DS anyway before bed. He sleeps tremendously better after a bath so it's a nightly ritual. Anyway, we were beyond tired. Bathed him, dried him, lotioned him up, diaper, swaddle...asleep! w00t!
The next morning when I was changing DS I found the lotion on his changing table that we used the night before. It was baby shampoo. The lavender kind from Johnson's. I cried because I felt like crap & like I had damaged my sons psychological health for life.
Now we laugh about it & joke about that night saying when DS cried he made bubbles.
I swaddle LO with the blanket a little higher-- around her cheeks so it holds the paci in a little better. Like so:
@livkight
I'm hero worshipping you right now.