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Those who have one child due to IF or loss.

Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
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Do you feel like you overcompensate for your "struggles"? For instance, I find myself over buying for Allie. I justify it my head by saying well I would spend this much if I had two kids. H and I just had this conversation and he agreed.

I wondered if this was normal.
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Re: Those who have one child due to IF or loss.

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    lovemybellaglovemybellag member
    In a way, yes however I am still hopeful we will have more children and rationalize by saying our future children can use this.

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    DebateThisDebateThis member
    lovemybellag said:
    In a way, yes however I am still hopeful we will have more children and rationalize by saying our future children can use this.
    This is kind of where I am. I've spent a fortune on toys and clothes for H. In my head I either justify it with "well, I can always use it for a second baby!" or "well, if he's going to be our only child then I'm going all out!". It's a hard place to be in.
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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    annibesannibes member
    Yes. We spoil the crap out of DS and I think deep down I'm trying to redirect my disappointment in having secondary infertility into trying to show him how much I love him even though I desperately want another child. I try to do all these experiences and feel guilty that we put things off in the past. For example, we held off on a real vacation until DS was almost 4 because we were sure that we would have another baby by the time he was 2 and didn't know if we could book a trip. We kept putting it off and I started to feel guilty that DS was missing out on experiences just because we wanted another baby and were having trouble getting one.
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    We are done. The saving for another child flew the coop a long time ago. Today we bought her a gold necklace and more crap for her Easter basket.

    It's a hard spot. I'm struggling today. I want my little boy back.
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    Mysterious_wife said:
    We are done. The saving for another child flew the coop a long time ago. Today we bought her a gold necklace and more crap for her Easter basket. It's a hard spot. I'm struggling today. I want my little boy back.
    ((hugs MW))
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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    kelle017kelle017 member
    I'm sorry MW.  (Hugs to you)

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    BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    I just lurk here from time to time but wanted to send you some big hugs @Mysterious_wife :(

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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    I know exactly what you mean. As long as we aren't alone.
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    ((Hug))
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    Today is going to be better. Fingers crossed I don't see a cute little boy in a smocked Johnny. :)

    Thanks for the replies. I was beginning to think we were crazy. (We still could be. : p)
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    Mysterious_wife said:
    Today is going to be better. Fingers crossed I don't see a cute little boy in a smocked Johnny. :) Thanks for the replies. I was beginning to think we were crazy. (We still could be. : p)
    Welcome to the club. We have cupcakes.
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    Are they low fat? =;
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    DebateThisDebateThis member
    Mysterious_wife said:
    Are they low fat? =;
    Low fat is blasphemy.
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    :( I know. Stoopid gall bladders. Well, lack of
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    Um...
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    I was unsure. I guess I could have looked at the SN. Does TN stand for Tennessee?

    Thank you for your support.
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    I'm a TN girl too!
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    What part?
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    Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    Creepy. North of Nashville. I'm in ATL now
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    biomaj5biomaj5 member
    ((hugs)) MW
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    bumpuser794640bumpuser794640 member
    Sorry you're hurting, MW. Holidays have a way of reminding us what is missing.

    We are still hoping to have more than one, but we are not to the point of overbuying, partly because there haven't been any actual gift giving holidays yet, partly because we don't have the room or money to buy all the things. I don't think that will change, because we really don't want B to think he can have everything he wants, and don't want him to feel entitled/be spoiled, etc. Of course I know that you don't want that for your DD, I hope you don't think I'm implying anything! :)
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    bugandbibsbugandbibs member
    Hugs and love to you MW.
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