I don't know where to put this, so I hope it's in the right place!
One of my *things,* that doesn't seem to necessarily bother anyone else, is a fairly rabid stance on seat belts. I do not like anyone in my car riding without one - my BIL stormed out of my car and threatened to walk home from a restaurant a year or two ago because I insisted.
Last night, after dinner, DH was driving home. I offered MIL the front seat, but she declined and chose to sit in the back. I turned and saw she was not wearing her seat belt. I asked if we needed to adjust the car seats so she could buckle up. (For the record, there is access to the seatbelt the way they are now; I just was trying not to make a thing.) She said no. I said "oh, let me switch and sit in the back then," to which she responded, "No. I'm fine." It was getting late and we were still long way from home, so I let it go, but I don't want to drive all the way to vacation and back that way - MIL is come with is to Maryland for a week at the end of the summer.
Can you help me draft a diplomatic email to her? Here is what I have:
I'm so glad that you are coming with us on our Ocean City vacation! We all love it there so much, and the kids will be so happy to spend time with you. There is one issue, however, I feel we need to resolve before we set out; I feel strongly that people riding in our car, regardless of age or seat position, be buckled up safely.
New Jersey and Delaware have seat belt laws for every passenger, even those in the back seat, and Maryland will have one going into effect this fall. Not only is safer for the individual to wear a seatbelt, but in the event of an accident, you run the risk of becoming a projectile and injuring others in the car.
DS and DD love you and look up to you, and it is important to me that as a role model you have a seatbelt on as well.
I am happy to offer you the front seat if you would be more comfortable up there. I do know that the back is somewhat crowded with both carseats; poor DS will likely be rear-facing until he is 6 years old, since rear facing is 5 times safer,8
and we bought a car seat with the highest possible rear-facing weight limit!
Thank you, Me
What do you think? This is stressing me out. (I'll obviously change DS, DD, and Me to our actual names...)