Ideal age for DC #1 to be when you start trying for #2?

JSMN · January 2009

Any thoughts from experience? Just wondering if anyone has say an 8 month old and is pregnant and finding it easy or if anyone has two children close together?

JoyousJulia · January 2009

Whoa.... Your grammar made me dizzy.....

luciagdelopez · January 2009

this is a very personal decision. We have a 10 month old and are expecting our second child. DD will be about 12-13 months when DC#2 is born. Yes, it has its tough moments, like when DD wants me to hold and carry her and I am tired and no one else is around or she only wants me...but, this can happen at any age.

Since I am in the situation I try to look at things very positively, DD will always have a friend to play with and wont feel de-throned when the new baby comes. She wont really understand what it means to be the only child, etc.

My brothers and I are all 2-3 years apart and my mom liked it that way. But, its just the way things turned out.

I do see my SIL having a hard time w her kids, they are all 5 years apart (15, 10, 5, and 1). They are all doing so many different things its hard to please them all at the same time and she has basically been carrying a diaper bag for the past 15 years. The plus side to her is she will only have one child in college at a time, one bratty teenager, etc.

trizzie · January 2009

I hope to get pregnant when DS is 18-20 months old. That way they will be about 2 and 1/2 years apart. I will probably get pregnant again when #2 is 18 months old. I wouldn't mind spreading them out a little more, but I am 31 (almost 32).

jillian6 · January 2009

My SIL kids are 18 months apart and she said the beginning was tough, but now they are able to play together and entertain each other. Our goal is for our kids to be about 2 years apart.

DaisyAdair · January 2009

My 2 are 11mo apart and it's hard.

I don't know of an exact age, but it would be nice if one could walk up and down stairs and feed themselves without a mess. I'd settle for that. Right now....it sucks.

Since I'm on bedrest (ha!), I have my mom's friend help me out a few hours a week, but, in general, it's more hard than fun right now. Getting out of the house for a 20mn trip is a 4hr production involving 3 trips up and down the stairs to the car. There is a diaper being changed nearly every hour. I never eat because I'm always feeding someone.

Obviously, all of that will change, eventually, so I try to look ahead. Just not TOO far ahead! Having a 17yr old, 16yr old, and 15yr old in my house doesn't sound fun!

thomas&lynn · January 2009

i'm aiming for them to be at least 2yrs apart so we'd start trying when dd is 15 months, in august.

KameronLee98 · January 2009

I am getting my IUD out when DS is about 18 months old so that they will be a little over 2 years apart. I would love to try earlier but I am afraid I will have to be on bedrest and I want to wait until DS is a little bit older.

bim38106 · January 2009

Ideally, for us, they will be around 2 years apart, give or take 4 months in either direction (says DH

We are TTC right now. If we happened to get PG right away, they would be around 19/20 months apart.. if it takes a few months, that's great too.

Beth.05 · January 2009

We would like to start trying around our son's first birthday. I would try sooner but with the way our insurance works, it is much more practical for us to have a 2010 baby than a 2009 baby. I know that sounds terrible, but it will make a huge difference in our finances.?

Moriah Ingle · January 2009

The 'ideal' depends on the person... for us, we are going with the flow but plan to try next january when our daughter is 18months. Which if everything goes as planned they will be 2.5yrs apart... Before she was born we were going to try when she was 9months. But that just isn't working for us; as in neither one of us is ready I'm not sure I can handle two, my hubby thinks I can... so we are waiting until it feels right.?

jhudyCH · January 2009

FIL kept telling me that kids should be spaced 3-5 years apart. He has no idea that I am 38. ?(I am not so sure that I can ?handle pregnancy and GD again).?

Bride_Best · January 2009

Our plan is to have Mirena removed a bit before DS is 3. I was on bedrest for the last 2 months of my pregnancy, so I would love for DS to be a bit older! Hopefully in the next 26 months, my business will take off and I'll have more income too!

prolixity · January 2009

I can't speak from experience but we plan on trying for #2 when DS is around 18 months. I want #1 to be at least 2 years old before we have #2.

rissa06 · January 2009

for us, we plan on trying towards the end of the year, to hopefully have our next one when DD is a little over 2 1/2 years old almost three. That way DD#1 is out of diapers (hopefully) and no more bottles.

my SIL has three children . one at 4, the next one is 3 and the last one will be one and she said, don't ever do what they did.

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