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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
I was never allowed to sleepover
My parent's never let me go to sleepovers. It used to bother me when I was younger, but I see their reasoning, now. I would go to the parties, and leave early. I think that the same rule will apply to my daughter. She won't be allowed to go to any sleepovers.
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Re: I was never allowed to sleepover
I won't let my kids go off anywhere, but if I've met the parents and feel good about them & their house (and we speak about the specific night in question) then sure. It's part of growing up.
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
I was only ever allowed to sleep over at my cousin's house who lived one street down from us.
My mom never let me sleep over at anyone else's house. And when the parents asked why, she always gave the excuse "Oh, she doesn't like sleeping over. She's a home-body."
Which was, of course, a lie. I was always so disappointed at not being able to go.
aokiedokie
i'm with 'nilla on this one....
Meh...better safe than sorry. Not going to sleepovers isn't going to land her in therapy. Might be a bit overprotective, then again, might not be.
I was the oldest child, and the first to be raised in Canada. My parents were really overprotective with me, especially with me being a girl and all. With some things, it sucked, but the sleepover thing never really bothered me.
This is one of those things I'm not looking forward to as DD gets older. I'm hoping she is like my cousin growing up, who didn't stay the night at anyone's house until she was in HS (not even ours and we were really good friends and our moms are twins!) because she just liked to be home. She tried a few times in elementary school, but she'd always end up begging my mom to drive her home at 11 pm, lol.
But it's a touchy topic for me, because a really close friend of my parents' was accused of sexually assualting one of his daughter's friends at a sleepover... and then several other girls came out and said the same thing. His daughter was only 2 years older than me and I still remember my mom having to sit me down and try to find a way to ask me about it. I was, and still am, shocked. We hung out with the family all the time and they were a very nice, catholic family.
I'm sorry ... but that's just kind of sad. I get the whole 'protecting your child thing' ... really, I do. But some of my BEST memories of growing up were late night slumber parties from as young as 6 years old. Running around in slippers and nightgowns and playing flashlight tag in the living room. Popcorn fights and barbies at 1130 at night. Doing eachother's hair and flipping through Tean Beat.
Not that I'm saying a lot of mommy homework of said household won't be going on ... but how do you EVER really know someone? There is no way I would stifle my child for their entire childhood just so I can *know* they're safe 110% of the time. Might as well keep them homeschooled and make them ride bikes in the backyard.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
Totty, I agree with you, in some respect. My parents were VERY overprotective with me. It was a new country for them, and a different way of life. But they did a great job in raising my siblings, and I. I will take their parenting skills into consideration, but I will also be a little more leniant. With respect to sleepovers, I guess I just don't get the hype of it. Its probably because I wasn't allowed to go to them, but to me it wasn't a big deal. I can't say exactly how things will be for my daughter when that time comes, but I do know that I will do my homework, and try to find out as much as I can about her friends and their family.
I think this is fine, and this was pretty much how my mom dealt with it too. I had a friend who could not go to sleepovers when we were much older (teens) and I definitely see why (although I didn't back then). Not everyone's parents have the same rules, and this can lead to trouble. Also, now that teens are so heavily into sexual experimentation and group sexuality, there are no "givens" in terms of what may be going on at another kid's home. Think I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.
Wow. My best friend and I slept over at each other's houses almost every weekend.
And frankly, if you came to a slumber party and didn't stay overnight, people assumed there was some weird reason. Like you peed the bed or something. I would have completely skipped a party before I went and left early. But that could have just been the girls at my school.
Joseph will be allowed to have and go to sleepovers, as long as I know who all is involved.