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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
Mrs Manners
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What are some parenting-related things you regret?
Mrs Manners
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For the most part, I think that dh and I are good parents. I only have a few regrets in the last year. What are some parenting things you regret?
I regret that ds came early and that I spent part of my maternity leave in the hospital prior to his birth and part of it with him in the NICU after his birth.
I regret that my milk never came in.
I regret that I didn't buy an Ergo carrier - I think he really would have enjoyed it and it would've been handy to have.
I regret that I didn't sign with ds, its something I should have done and I think it would have helped with his language development.
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Re: What are some parenting-related things you regret?
Can you regret inevitable things though? Its not your fault he came early!
I don't have any regrets so far. Not a one. Is that weird? I mean I kind of regret not going back to work earlier. For the next one I'll go back at 2 months.
You're right. I mean, these things aren't something I beat myself up over (except the bfing one - at the time I was a mental case and desperate to make it work), these are just things I look back on and wish I'd done them differently (or they'd happened differently).
Maybe I'm more "regretful" because we don't plan to have another one so I know I get one shot at everything
Happy birthday little guy!
I regret that my milk never came in, too. That, and that I didn't really push myself to try every possible way to get it to come in.
I guess I should have insisted to my ob that they look further into why my bp was not going down the way it should have before I was discharged. That way, I wouldn't have lost a week with my son because I was either in the hospital, or pretty much incapacitated at home.
I wish that I had spent more time outside with him. But it was one of the hottest, most humid summers we've had in a while. Still, when the weather was nice, I should have had him out.
But with all the regrets, I'm thankful I have a happy, loveable, healthy baby.
You can still start signing!!! In fact, your baby will probably sign back to you faster than you think!! He's probably dying to "say" a few words but can't verbalize them yet...........I'd go for "cat" or "dog" or "ball" or his favorite food etc!!!
As for me, I really don't regret anything that I had control over. That feels good to say that!!
I regret that I didn't consult with a lactation consultant and that there wasn't one at the hospital I delivered in. DD never latched on properly and I only pumped for 6 weeks. I know that if I had more info and help it would have been better. It almost makes me cry. I feel like I gave up too soon because I was so tired and exhausted from the birth that I didn't try hard enough.
I regret that I was one of those crazy moms and didn't let anyone touch her without me hovering over them. It was silly.
I regret not preparing better for a fussy baby before having him. Of course, I thought MY baby would never have colic. I should have read Happiest Baby on the Block before I lost my mind with a 2 week old. I should have had a Miracle Blanket ready to go. I shouldn't have spent the wee early hours of my first Mother's Day in the ER begging the doc to prescribe us Zantac for what I was *positive* had to be reflux.
Other than that, though, no huge regrets.
Oh, and Manners, you can STILL start signing! In fact, most of the babies in K's signing class were over a year old.
I guess I can't call this regret, but if I could go back and have things go differently...
I hated that I didn't get to bond with him right after delivery. They plopped him on my chest for a few moments, then took him. The cord had been wrapped around his neck and there was meconium in the water. I was able to old him on the way to the nursery, but he had to stay in the nursery for the rest of the day for monitoring. I hate that those first few moments weren't how I imagined them.
I've mentioned it before, but EPing is my biggest regret. I wish he had latched on like a typical baby.
I wish I had raised more of a fuss and gotten to see DS sooner. He was in the NICU and I had some complications from my c-sec, so I didn't see him other than a quick glance for 27 hours.
I also wish we had gotten DS baptized and circumcised before he was discharged from the NICU. He was "sprung" on a 3 day weekend and nobody was available to circumcise him and it ended up being an outpatient procedure months later. He's still not baptized.