Why aren't you drinking???

AZwife7 · January 2009

Is anyone else sick of people asking them rude questions such as "Why aren't you drinking - are you pregnant?!" I feel like I'm asked this everywhere I go lately. It didn't bother me the first few months we didn't get pregnant, but now it's becomming rather frustrating and depressing. Anybody have any clever one-liners to use?

totalpanic · January 2009

who are you?

AZwife7 · January 2009

What do you mean who am I? I'm confused.

smilelari · January 2009

Good message board etiquette. We want to know who you are before you start jumping in with questions. So, who are you? How long TTC, etc?

To answer your question, I suck at that one. I never know what to say when people ask me. Normally it's just "I don't feel like it"

lovejonesy77 · January 2009

something must be in the Arizona water today! Indifferent

sdc81 · January 2009

yes... what's more annoying is when the people closest to me say this, and i want to reply with, "if i were f'ing pregnant, wouldn't YOU know by now?!"... what is more annoying than that, is that i don't drink alcohol but maybe a couple times a year anyway, and rarely even get buzzed... so me not drinking should be the norm. i have no one liners... i am just t the point where i give a "WTF?!" stare at them and they shut up.

AZwife7 · January 2009

I see, sorry if I sounded offended! I'm Annie. I live in Mesa, AZ, I teach 6th grade. We've been TTC for 7 months now. I've just been totally frustrated with people lately and then remembered this site from when I got married, so I thought I'd see who else was out there maybe experiencing the same thing as me.

AZwife7 · January 2009

I agree. Most people are aware we are TTC so it's like "Either we are pregnant and not ready to tell you, or we're not and you're making it worse by asking."

Yeah, I think I'm going to start flat out telling people "Wow, that's a really rude question." I don't know what else to do.

smilelari · January 2009

Welcome to the board Annie.

XXXXX222 · January 2009

I'd say I'm taking meds that don't go well with drinking.

AZwife7 · January 2009

Yeah, that one never works because my husband is a doctor and so all our friends are in that circle!

I suppose there just isn't an answer, if you've never been in this situation you have no idea you're being rude.

XXXXX222 · January 2009

AZwife7:
Yeah, that one never works because my husband is a doctor and so all our friends are in that circle!

Huh? ?I'm sorry, I don't understand.?

MarcyIam · January 2009

Welcome! And I hardly ever drink either, but if I do and people ask, I usually use the "I'm driving" excuse. But I surprisingly don't get asked too much which is nice.

AZwife7 · January 2009

I just mean that since most of our social circle consists of doctors they know every illness/medication and then they're just nosy/interested. I'm not a good liar with them is all I meant.

XXXXX222 · January 2009

AZwife7:
I just mean that since most of our social circle consists of doctors they know every illness/medication and then they're just nosy/interested.? I'm not a good liar with them is all I meant.

Really? ?If it was something really personal, they'd insist on you telling them what your illness is and what medication you're taking. ?Wow, sorry. ?I'd tell them to mind their own business.?

AZwife7 · January 2009

Thanks for all the insight/advice/support. Wow, I feel a lot better just having everyone listen to me. You can only complain to your family for so long before you feel like you're saying the same thing over and over. It's nice to have others out there to listen. So thanks all!

easjer05 · January 2009

I'm not a big drinker, so it's usually not an issue. On the rare occasions it's arisen, I usually say I don't feel like wine/beer/drink tonight and that's good enough.

Other excuses:

-I'm driving tonight.

-I am trying to lose some weight/get healthier.

-I'm limiting myself to two glasses of wine a week, and we've got a great bottle at home for this weekend.

-Why are you asking?

That tends to throw people off and indicate it is not a topic open to conversation.

Nikki1007 · January 2009

I just drink.

mb~zf · January 2009

Nikki1007:
I just drink.

Yup. Me too...

Nikki1007 · January 2009

mb~zf:

Nikki1007:
I just drink.

Yup. Me too...

I knew I loved you for a reason!

smilelari · January 2009

I could use a drink

Nikki1007 · January 2009

smilelari:
I could use a drink

I am about to take a hot bubble bath with a glass of wine. I will make that 2 and have one for you.

smilelari · January 2009

Nikki1007:

smilelari:
I could use a drink

I am about to take a hot bubble bath with a glass of wine. I will make that 2 and have one for you.

Go ahead and make it 3. I think I need a couple

Nikki1007 · January 2009

smilelari:
Nikki1007:

smilelari:
I could use a drink

I am about to take a hot bubble bath with a glass of wine. I will make that 2 and have one for you.

Go ahead and make it 3. I think I need a couple

Sure thing.