Is this weird or is it me? re MIL

Andrewsgal · January 2009

BOTH of my MIL one is a step complain to DH when I don't answer the phone when they call or don't call them back. Are you freaking kidding me? I don't really like either of them and with a toddler and baby in the house anytime I have to myself I don't spend on the phone with anyone. Do your MILs call you? I mean like twice a week. My Mom does not call DH that would just be strange. So is his whole family just crazy weird or do most people talk to their MILs a lot?

annak23 · January 2009

No, when MIL calls (very rarely) I always say "hi, did you want to talk to DH?" Whenever she calls, I know it's for him anyways, so I don't answer it most of the time.

babylove19 · January 2009

If my MIL calls our house I usually let DH answer the phone, but mostly she just calls his cel phone.

minnasmommy · January 2009

I talk to my MIL a couple times a week. I am very close to her though so it's not weird to me at all.?

RCH151 · January 2009

ditto the previous 2 posters

hopefulmom · January 2009

I used to talk to my MIL whenever she called (before dementia). I don't get upset when my own DD does not answer the phone and but I do get upset when she doesn't call me back. I can understand that I might call when she is in the middle of something (although I know their basic routine so try to time my calls accordingly) but to not call me back...not even the next morning...is just plain rude. I know it's not because she doesn't like me (I'm her mother and we are very close). I ask her (by email) if she got my call the night before and she answers yes. When I ask why she didn't call back her answer is she was tired, busy, whatever. It's not like I talk long either. Our phone conversations are like 1 minute max and I am usually calling her because it is something important. There will come a time when it will be because something terrible has happened to a family member (an illness, injury or close to death) and she won't know about it unless I email her. Sorry this got so long...but it hit a sore spot with me since I'm on the receiving end of not having calls returned.

mrsflanigan · January 2009

It's weird. I talk to my MIL maybe once every few months for 10 minutes max. It is usually regarding an upcoming visit/event etc... I would not be happy is she called 2 times a week!

lsufan · January 2009

I talk with mine occasionally, but we have a very good relationship. ?Sometimes she calls just to check in, and sometimes it's to talk about plans. ?I get annoyed when DH refuses to answer the phone just because it's my parents calling.

millerbabe · January 2009

We don't have a house phone, just cell phones so if my MIL needs to talk to me she'll call me and I'll call her if I need to talk to her. I'm fairly close to her so it's no big deal.

AZ_Erica · January 2009

They both call randomly and I will call my step-MIL to tell her about dr. appointments and things like that. I email with my step-MIL quite a bit to. My DH's real mom gets mad because I don't call her. She has complained to DH about it several times. He told her to get over it, he never calls my mom either. My parents will talk to DH if he answers the phone, but very rarely call for him personally.

jeffs_baker · January 2009

My family will call to talk to dh, but his family doesn't usually call to talk to me. However, I answer and chat for a few minutes if FIL calls, then pass the phone to dh. Dh's parents are divorced and my SMIL doesn't call my house,

Angela814 · January 2009

I rarely talk to MIL on the phone. She's mentioned that I can call her, but I rarely call anyone. I don't even talk to my own mom a whole lot. I'll call her when I'm driving (on bluetooth) or if I need help with something.

Amanda&Chris · January 2009

MIL doesn't call very often, but when she does I make MH answer it or I let the machine get it. I don't talk to her on the phone if I can help it.

Shmar · January 2009

ditto minnas - we talk a couple times a week at least. She calls my cell more often than that though, and I don't always return the call. She knows it's not always possible with 2 kids and she does not get upset in the least.

MarchMom06 · January 2009

My MIL & I don't speak the same language, so the minute I hear her voice, I hand the phone to DH so he can talk. If for some reason he can't come to the phone, I state that (in English, although I doubt she can understand) & then hang up. They are in another country, so calls are super expensive.

She's great & I would talk to her semi-regularly if we could communicate. . .

DandelionMom · January 2009

When I got a new phone, I didn't even give her the number. ?If she wants to talk to our family, she has to call DH's number. ?

MrsSledge · January 2009

I rarely talk to my MIL. DH talks to her a few times a week though, and I talk to my mom daily.

SamRae1985 · January 2009

My MIL never calls me...if she wants to talk to her son she calls him.

mrscolleton2b · January 2009

minnasmommy:
I talk to my MIL a couple times a week. I am very close to her though so it's not weird to me at all.

Me too

Zenya · January 2009

annak23:
No, when MIL calls (very rarely) I always say "hi, did you want to talk to DH?" Whenever she calls, I know it's for him anyways, so I don't answer it most of the time.

Same here. I might do some small talk first but I really hate the phone at the best of times so I just tend to pass it over ASAP.

sweetie1528 · January 2009

I avoid her calls like the plague and she used to complain to my h about it. now she calls me once in a while and I still avoid her like the plague. she has the worst timing too. my mil calls my h several times a DAY! I don't see a need to talk to her too. I don't like her.

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